getting tubes tied

Carina - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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hi i am a 24 year old mom of 2 with my 3rd on the way and i know this is the last one i want to have but i am having issues with the thought of getting my tubes tied. I'm going to be having a c-section so it would be no problem to get it done. but my issue is that i am afraid i am going to go into a depression knowing that i could never have another baby. i know this sounds funny becuase i don't want anymore after this and medically I'm not allowed becuase it is too dangerous after three consecutive c-sections to get pregnant again. my husband is more then willing to go get "snipped" but i have so many people bugging me and telling me to go get it done. and that it is no big deal. just looking for any moms out there that have had it done and how they dealt with it after. or if there is anyone struggling with the same thing right now. please any advice will help.

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Carina - posted on 05/26/2010

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thanks for all the advice. it gives me a lot to think about. at i know either way i choose my hubby is still going to get himself snipped. and i know that this is the last one i want through pregnancy, but in the future me and my husband decided that if we want one then we will adopt. but like i said lots to think about and i still have a few months to go before i have to decide.

Krystle - posted on 05/26/2010

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Girl...I was right there where you are now, about a year ago. I have 3 children and my youngest just turned 6 months old. When I was pregnant with him, I was dead set on getting my tubes tied for the same reasons you have. I knew that 3 kids was PLENTY for me and it was also my third consecutive c-section. I did it. Now, with this being your third child, I'm sure you know all about the baby blues and PPD, I gotta be 100% honest with you...it was VERY, very hard to deal with the fact that I was only 24 years old and already done having kids. It really hit me like a ton of bricks and I almost went into PPD. But I didn't really have anyone there for me to talk to about it and I didn't realy have any help. That's why it was so hard for me. If you have a support system, use it. And keep telling yourself that you're doing it for the best, b/c you're really absolutely right about the c-section thing.....the more you have, the more dangerous the whole thing in general is. Each time it puts you and your baby more at risk for complications during and after pregnancy. If that's what you want done, then do it...everything will be okay. Like I said, just keep reminding yourself WHY you did it. It's still sometimes a little hard to think about, but in the end I know I did the right thing. The decision is totally yours....

Tawanda - posted on 05/25/2010

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WELL I HAD IT DONE AND IF I KNEW WHAT I KNOW NOW I WOULDNT HAVE GOT IT DONE. MY ISSUES IS THAT MY MONTHLY WILL COME ON TWICE A MONTH ARE IT WILL STAY ON FOR 2WEEKS. THE ONLY THING I WOULD SAY IS MAKE SURE YOU TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR AND MAKE THE BEST CHOICE FOR U. KNOW THE PRO'S AND THE CON'S OF GETTING IT DONE. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT JUST LETTING U KNOW IT NOT AS GOOD AS IT SOUND. ASK AROUND TO UR FRIENDS AND SEE IF THEY HAD ANY PROBLEMS LIKE I SAID EVERY ONE IS DIFFERENT.

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Christina - posted on 05/30/2010

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My mom had her tubes tied after baby number five. She had us all naturally, tho. I have had a c-section and I have been thinking about what to do when my hubby and I decide we don't want anymore kids. Right now we just have one, so it'll be a few years.

If you're nervous about getting your tubes tied but your hubby is more than willing to get 'snipped', let him get it done. Besides, if you do decide to have more kids, even though it may be risky, reversing a mans sterilization in so much easier than reversing a womans. Just something to keep in mind.

24 kind of sound like a young age to get fixed, mostly cuz I'm 26 with one kid, but with expecting your third child and if personally and medically it's the right thing to do, do it. My understanding is there are a lot of men who refuse to get snipped, saying that birth control is the womans' responsibility. So if your hubby is more than willing, go with it. You can always make the decision to get your tubes tied later.

Plus, if medically you aren't allowed to have any more kids, you'll have to accept not being able to have another regardless of whether or not you get "fixed". Having it done while you're already in surgery will just make it that much easier.

Esmeralda - posted on 05/30/2010

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hi i live in ireland, to be honest they are 'encouraging' alot of women to do it here, no matter what their age is. i am actually surprised that some of you have only 2 kids, and are very young, i am very young too, i'm almost 26 with 4 kids, but because of the 4 c-sections i had to have it done. another lady who i personally know was due to have her baby the same week as me who still wanted to have 2 more kids (he has 5, gave birth to her 6th but she is a nigerian and they want large families she had her 2nd c-section and while both of us were on the same ward, the same doctor who encouraged me to have it, also suggested it to her. i am telling you, she was not ready to do it, but in the end she had it done.
i am actually considering to have it reversed, even dh also tells me if it is possible to reverse it. instead of having extreme unexplained pain, and uncontrolable bleeding during periods and inbetween periods (i also bleed in between them now, never had that before). if i knew then what i know now, i would never had it done in the first place. but for those of you considering it, have a long and good think about it. some women are fine with it (my mom got them tied in the netherlands where i am originally from) so to be honest i trust the doctors in the netherlands more than those here, that do something 'anyhow'. sorry if i am painting the healthservice over here black, but it is the truth. i hope those of you that consider it are in the u.s etc, because i hear better things over there, than here in ireland where they misdiagnose cancer patient and breast cancer patients every day. i know this is of the topic now, but really needed to 'air this out'. hth

Kelly - posted on 05/30/2010

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hi i was just wondering where all you girls are that have had your tubes tied? I am 28 and have 3 kids, and i was told i am unable to have them tied because i am under 30 so just curious as to where you got yours done/

Chelsea - posted on 05/28/2010

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hi im 26 n i have two kids aged 2 n 4 yrs i got my tubes tied last july i thought about it for 6months first n i knew that it was wat i wanted to my husband wanted to get snipped but i told him it was wat i wanted so i was going in n he was fine with it i dnt regret it it was right for me i never got depressed n i put that down to making the right decision for me if anything it made me regular n not like labour anymore which im thankful for i was sore for a week after i got em tied but i was fine after that my advice is think about it properly n dnt do it if ur unsure for any reason n my doctor was good wen i went to see him he told me to think about it for a while n not to rush into it thats why the 6months hope this helps good luck

Tiffany - posted on 05/26/2010

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Getting the snip for your hubbs isn't %100. Plenty of women become pregnant after their hubbs has had the procedure because men can heal the tube that goes from the grapes to the jinglies. (Sorry for the crude lingo!!) It happens a lot, actually!

Talk to your dr. about a semi-permanent birth control you can use for a few years while you decide. Who knows, maybe in 5 years your hubby will be out and have a well-paying job and you'll decide another baby is a good choice for your family. But you shouldn't feel like it's a do-or-die situation, you need to take your time. My mom got her tubes tied (burned, actually) after my brother was born, who was her 4th child. She was only 30, but she knew that it would be financially irresponsible to bring another baby into the family after him and that spurred her on to have it done.

Stephanie - posted on 05/26/2010

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i had the essure procedure don on march 5- it's a non invasive form of tube tying. im 23 and have 2 boys 13 mos apart. i had a miscarriage with my daughter in early 06. im type 1 diabetic. i had post partum depression after my first son and was scared to death when i found out i was pregnant again. my second came 5 1/2 wks early and i spent the majority of my pregnancy either in bed or in the hospital. i knew/know being pregnant again could possibly kill me and/or my baby so that's why i had it done. i decided that since my husband kept changing the date to be "snipped" i was gonna schedule it and not think twice. i have since become depressed and gained LOTS of weight- it takes 3 mos to be effective so i got the depo shot (i forgot how much weight i gained on it before...) i wanted 4 kids but felt it wouldnt be fair to my boys to have more since we soley rely on my husband's income. just knowing i cant have more kids really upsets and depresses me but i know my body couldnt handle any more pregnancies. its just going to take time to get used to i guess.... if you'd like to know more or to chat feel free to contact me. good luck- i know it's a hard decision to make

Alisha - posted on 05/26/2010

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I have been told its easier for the male to get done as they can have it reversed if you do want another child further down the track where as if you get done and you want another child (not saying you do) its alot harder and most women that do have complications also other women that i know that have had there tubes tied that do want another child do IVF so really the option is up to you ... but if i had my way i would be getting my hubby to do the snippty snip snip ...

Krystle - posted on 05/26/2010

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oh and btw...I never had any problems with my period like Tawanda did...it was really heavy for like the first two cycles, but it's evened out now and I'm back to only being on for 4 or 5 days, and my cramps have pretty much gone away, completely. Just another ending thought..good luck!

Esmeralda - posted on 05/26/2010

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hi there. don't do it if youre unsure. i had my fourth c-section, and i was not ready to get them tied up, but a doctor recommended it to me when pregnant that i should because it is not good to have more than 4 c-sections. now i am extremely regretting. not only for the fact that i can't have anymore, because i don't want anymore, but also because i have soo many side effects of having it done during my section, although it is not tied to the section. i have unexplained pains in my abdomen and doctors say that they did not do it well, because (sorry tmi) down below feels like 'one huge lump of scar' i know this is not common, but i live in constant fear of getting pregnant again, because i really don't want too have any more, as the risks are too much. basically it is very easy to say 'yes i want to have' because youre pregnant just like i was and it is very easy to convince a pregnant woman to do it, because our hormones are all over the place etc. but if i were you i wouldn't do it because people tell you too. you could still have more, like 1 more, i had 4 c-sections and was fine. but it is a personal decision and don't let anyone influence you in making your decision. it is you in the end who will decide. good luck in making your decision.

Carina - posted on 05/25/2010

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thank you i will have to keep that in mind when i go to my next doctor's appointment. i would ask people i know but no one i know has had it done. all my friends aren't done having kids yet. they all just have one. where i will have 3 as of the end of august. but like i said thank you telling me what has happened with you will be helpful in my decision.

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