Good or Bad times for baby 2?!?!?!

Carol - posted on 01/14/2009

My children are a little over 5 years apart. It wasn't planned that way, but other things happened and we had to wait on having another. But, honestly, I love that he's so much older because he was in kindergarten during the day and I didn't have to run around trying to care for 2 small children. And he's been a big help with feedings, play time, reading, etc. But I do have cousins that are 11 months apart and they get along great. And I have a friend who's children are about 2 1/2 years apart.

Amber - posted on 01/14/2009

my son was 4 when his baby sistter came along !! lauchlan loves his lil sistter!!

Melissa - posted on 01/14/2009

i have had a mixture my eldest was 2 and 3mths when my second was born my second was 4 and 4mths when my third was born and my third was 3 and 3mths when my forth was born i found closer harder because of having 2 babys but easy because i was still in baby mode further apart was my hardest completely out of baby mode and having to get the hang of it again so for me my last two has been the best again for me not to close not to far apart

Rachael - posted on 01/13/2009

I have three kids: 6yrs, 4 yrs and 1yr. For myself this age gaps works well because the eldest two get along really well being so close in age.

I don't think it should be if your son is ready for another sibling...are your confident in having a baby and a toddler?

If you are then go for it. When it comes to your son being ready all i can tell you is when I had my second child I involved my boy in everything...bathing, feeding, changing nappies, helping with little jobs for the baby and he absolutely love it. We did the same for when number three came along and they were fantastic.

So the key is to get siblings involved.



Good luck

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2009

Go for it!!! My girls are 1 1/2 apart and it is perfect. It is nice b/c they can be best friends and always have someone to play with. I am 5yrs older then my oldest brother and we never hung out, played games, or have any thing in commen. Oh yeah it really isn't that hard taking care of two and if you really want you can still have alone it isn't imposible!

Melissa - posted on 01/13/2009

Hi. I have a 14th month and am currently 5mnts pregnant - my first should be about 18mnths old when the second one arrives. I have had health problems so we didn't have any choice but to have children as quickly as possible. The age gap is a bit scary but I think once you get your head around it....there isn't really much difference between 18mnths and 2yrs! I think it just depends on when you feel ready and able to cope with more then one! Best of luck with it :)

Liana - posted on 01/13/2009

there is 2yrs and 3mth between mine. its good because bailey can feed himself, is independent and likes to help look after his lil bro.

i love the age difference cos they are close enough to grow up together and share stuff but far enough for so that i dont have 2 babies that need constant attention. my time is easily shared cos bailey is old enogh to play in our yard alone while koby gets attention and koby naps often so bailey gets plenty of attention.

bailey understands that koby is his lil bro and loves him and love to help.

B. P. - posted on 01/13/2009

My daughter was about 16 months when I got pregnant with my son so they are almost exactly 2 years apart. It has been really great. I think 2 or 3 years apart is plenty. If you get too far apart they don't really play together or relate. I have one sister who is 2 years older then me and we did everything together when we were little. The other is 5 years older htne me and I don't feel like I got to know her until I was in my twenties.

Kristie - posted on 01/13/2009

hi there !! i have a 5yr old son and a 2yr old daghter !!!

my son was 21/2 when we had our daughter and he was toilet trained thru the day time but still wore a bed time nappy at night but he was fully toilet trained by the time he was 3 !!

it was alot easier to have him trained for when our daughter came, but for me it was'nt too much of a hassle !!! 

21/2 years difference to me i think is a great age gap, but for me now with my daughter being 3 in April ( who was fully toilet trained by 2yrs old !! ), i really want to have another baby because i feel i have lost that feeling of being wanted 24-7  !!!!

dont wait too much longer to fall pregnant i think, because i believe in the closer they are now the better relationship they will have in the long run !!!

good luck xo

Jenn - posted on 01/13/2009

i have 2 girls and they are 1 yr and 3 1/2. i had them close together so they would grow up close. its good, my oldest likes to help alot and read to her and stuff like that. she doesnt seem to be jealous of her at all. she was potty trained a few months after i had my 2nd child, so that made things easier not having so many diapers to change. me and my sister grew up 2yrs 10 months apart, and now i had my 2 girls close to the same so they have a close relationship too. my 3 yr old is also in daycare now so that she can associate with other children her age, and that helps with getting some relaxing time... days can get busy with 2 kids : ) hope this helps...

Traci - posted on 01/13/2009

I am going through the same thing right now...my daughter is going to be 3 in April and I really want one more. I was pondering when was a good time...then my friend has a son who will be one this month, but back in November he was crying and no one could get to him right away and then my daughter gets up, and say here marco, here is your binky!!! She than sat him down and patted his head, then gave him a hug and says it's all right your mommy is right there...that just blew my mind. I guess what I am trying to say it is not if your ready to have a baby, but do you think your son is ready?? If you have friends with babies then see how he does?? Does he want to help out?? or is he just distant?? One way to find out and your husband might now like this but get a "real life" baby and do everything you would normally do with an infant and see how your son does?? Iam not an expert on kiddos, butI think it is more up to the kids if they are ready and not really the parents!!! Good luck:)