Antonia - posted on 03/16/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am currently living at home with my mother and father, and have a 1yr boy. Some of the time living with my parents is okay, but for the last few months, its been more bad than good times here.
My father i have no problem with, but my mum really gets on my nerves.
She is always telling me what, when, and how to do things in the way of household chores, and bringing up my son, and I dont know how to get her to stop!
We have been arguing AT LEAST every other day, and while I have now learnt to keep my temper in check, eg: not yell or swear at her, Mum doesn't have the same control-- she alwasy gets to the point where she is shouting the odds at me and swearing or saying things like "shut your face" or calling me names, often infront of my son.
I have tried to talk to her several times, explaining feelings and wishes for our relationship and tried to work out ways for us both to get along, but the peace never lasts as long as a week.
Also when I ask her to stop shouting or swearing she says "Don't you tell me what to do" and continues, but then if I swear under my breath at something, she will tell me not to and expect me to follow rules and respect her wishes, even though she ignores me when I say the same.....
After all that, my question is:
HOW DO I STOP MY MUM FROM TELLING ME WHAT TO, AND GET HER TO FOLLOW HER OWN RULES??
Sorry this has been long, it has been a very heavy weight for me to walk around with and any help would be greatly appreciated :)