Grandparents have threaten to take my son if my husband and i refuse them to see our son

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I am at my wits end with my in laws. They have threatened to take my son from me and my huaband if we refuse them to see him. We currently live with them and we are moveing out hut its all on very thin terms.. i have caught his mother tellin people that she raises my son.. well im a stay at home mom im with him 24/7 i feed him bath him and etc but yet she insists she does it all.. his father has told us he will go has far has kiddnapping him if we wont allow him to see his grandson..and he has said if we hide him that he will and person who gets in his way. Im scared for my life and my sons life.. i dont mnow what to do..help please

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Kelina - posted on 04/17/2012

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move. I don't care if it's not particularly financially feasible find a way to make it work and keep your baby safe. Talk to help groups, talk to social services if you have to find out what help is available and get the hell out of there. There are too many what if's in an explosive situation like this and to be honest the one that's in the most danger of being hurt is your baby. Get away from them. now.

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Marissa - posted on 09/21/2013

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I was sixteen when I got pregnant with my first child, I lived with my sons grandparents for 5years his father went to prison... We broke up so I moved back to my moms house I desired to keep letting my sons grandparents to keep seing him and to keep taking him to go see his father I felt it was the right thing to do I was Gerry single for a Gerry long time I went out with my friends occasionally only when I dint have my son, my son did become verry attached to them and I was ok with it. I am 27 years old now and my son is 10 years old
and I am now in a relationship with a guy that I have bin with for 3 years our relationship is great and he is great with my son his gradparents are verry jealous of him they keep bringing up my past party life as they call it everytime I see them in witch it never interfered with my parenting so they have threatened me that their going to take my chiled I don't know wat to do please help me solve this problem....

Kaitlin - posted on 04/17/2012

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Call the cops, move out, and get a restraining order. Money is tight, and you may be afraid of your FIL, but if you are unwilling to do what you need to do for the safety of your child, you may regret it later. What's worse for you- financial difficulties or staying in an unsafe enviornent? Having the police and law on your side or trying to stand up to your in laws yourself? Honestly, I'm surprised you haven't high tailed it out of there, even with the difficulties you describe. That's just dangerous.

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They couldn't take ur child no matter how hard they try. Let them threaten. Laugh in their face. My parents dont see my child cuz their alcoholics and my mom threatened me when I had my son she would take me to court cuz she has "grandparent rights" and I laughed in her face and so would a judge. That's YOUR child. Means ur rules! If u don't want someone seeing ur child u have the power to not let them no matter what they threaten.

Erica - posted on 03/30/2012

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RESTRAINING ORDER!!!!!!! You need to have legal record of all of this in case they ever do go through with their threats. Also you need to know your rights AND theirs. Some states have "Grandparents Rights". Look into it just in case. Better safe than sorry.

Stifler's - posted on 03/27/2012

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I would get a restraining order. They threatened to kidnap your son!

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Wow it has got to that extreme. I hope all works out and if they don't see their grandson they should take a step back and evaluate their behavior. Just doesn't make sense to threaten you to take him away or kidnap. Why do they have to threaten you it's not like you forbid them especially if you all live together. It's bound to happen that you and your husband have to move out and have your space. You became a family. They have to accept that. In order not to see their grandson is that you and your husband forbid them. I could see why they must stay away. I would def correct my FMIL if she say she raised my son when I know she didn't when I'm home with him and do all the work. They got some serious problems. Maybe your husband should sit down with them and tell them if they threaten you and him they def shouldn't be around you are your son.

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2012

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Wish i could move far far away.. just isnt finacially possible right now.. i just play nice with others..cuz one day it will all break loose.. i have armed myself by takeing self defense classes and getting trained and certified to carry and conceal a handgun.. so im protected and so is my lil man if they do try..and take him from me

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Oh hell no. I would not accept that kind of disrespect. Why are they threatening you? I don't see my in laws and that's because they are a bunch of hypocrites and they disrespect me as a person. I have forbid my FSIL to come over my house or near my family. Dare that girl come around. My FILs don't come over my house. Dare they threaten me OMG hell will break loose. I don't take well with threats. Being a grandparent is a privilege not a right. Your in laws have serious issues if they threat saying they going to take them away or your FIL kidnapping him. I would def put a restraining order then. You def have to be very cautious. You never know. Good luck with everything. Take care! XOXO

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Leave their home now. Move far, far away and don't let them know where you are going. That and call the police. Your life has been threatened, so you should have good grounds to get a restraining order.



I'm all for kids being able to have a relationship w/ their extended relatives, but these people don't even sound slightly stable. Good luck!!

September - posted on 03/27/2012

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I'm sorry but they sound like a couple of disrespectful weirdo’s! Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2012

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i have caught his grandmother tell him that she was mommy, a few times. i have also had people come to me and tell me that she was showing pictures of my lil man introducing him has her son.. his grandfather has told me and his father that he would kill us if we keep them away from there grandson.. they don't do as we ask, for instant they want to feed him table food.. hes only 4 months old.. they want to keep him over night they want to take him to disney land.. HES ONLY 4 MONTHS OLD...they don't understand that he is just a baby.. a preemie at that.. we have discussed a restraining order, but has my husband says that wont stop my dad..

September - posted on 03/27/2012

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Would they ever harm you or your child? If not why would you not allow them to see their grandchild? If they are of threat to you or your child you could always be a restraining order against them.

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