Had a baby 4 months ago, when does it stop hurting to have sex?

Desiree - posted on 05/03/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I had my son on 12/29/09, and it still hurts to have sex. Should I be concerned? My husband has been very supportive, but it is frustrating. Any advice?

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My daughter will be 7 months on the 10th and it still hurts. I can count on one hand how many time I have had sex since she was born. My poor husband, he doesn't complain, but he doesnt understand why it still hurts.

Natalie - posted on 05/28/2010

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i had the same problem & saw a specialist a few weeks ago turns out i have scar tissue spreading from my stitches which needs to be cut off which was causing the pain, did you have any tears during labour? that could be it he said its common

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my first preg was a c section and i had sex with no problem after 4 weeks... Second pregnancy well.... i delivered the 2-1-2010 and still cant do it... it is all healed but the entry well it hurts... and i have not let him go in yet.. I want sex but i am not sure how to go about it.... i wonder if virgins feel like this

Kimberly - posted on 05/04/2010

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im still nursing and it seems to be getting better so im on the upslope. My daughters 3 months old, I tore a tiny bit and i think she stitched me a little tighter than I was before so I was really sore. Make sure you use plenty of lube mostly for the entry. and keep it slow and steady until it starts to feel better. It totally is so frustrating isnt it. ugh i kept thinking to myself.. will it ever get better!? I started to get really nervous. But not to fear, everyone heals in their own time. Im only just starting on the upswing of things. If you're really concernced I agree don't be afraid to ask your dr to check (if you got stiches) and make sure its healing properly. I hope this helps!!! There is a light at the end of the tunnel!!! :) (did I mention that I am still breast feeding at least 5 times a day?)

Anna - posted on 05/06/2010

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It's probably going to take a while, especially if this is your first. Your anatomy did some major stretching, and it's not uncommon for the trauma to that area to affect your sensitivity for months after giving birth. On top of that, the muscles in that region get atrophied from not doing anything after giving birth. Kegals can help strengthen you, and using a lubricant can help a lot too (since dryness tends to be a problem for most women after giving birth). The best thing you can do is to keep having sex, though go easy on yourself.

If at any point you think the pain to be unusual, consult with your OB to be sure there isn't a bigger problem.

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Sarah - posted on 07/01/2014

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I tried to have sex with my husband at five weeks when I stopped bleeding. Penetration felt impossible due to feeling burning and stretching. When I went to see my ob she said I was good to go. At six weeks we tried but this time me on top and him kinda sitting up. It was still painful at the begining but not as painful as trying it with him on top. In about a minute the stretching and burning sensation passes. We've only done it 3 times since my daughter and she's two months and I must start off on top. I am beginning to think that if I have sex more often that will help. But make sure he takes it easy because after pleasurable sex I have experienced soreness and had to take ibuprofen twice after intercourse.

Sally - posted on 05/28/2010

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I waited the 6 weeks to have sex again. It did hurt, and I don't remember how long it hurt... probably a month or two, but it did stop hurting.
My baby is 10 months now. I'd say that if it doesn't stop hurting in another month or two, talk to your doctor about it.

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2010

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I had my third child 1/23/10 and it is uncomfortable sometimes still. Something that my husband got from Real Sex( its a show on HBO) was to use grape seed oil as a lubricant. It cost less money than KY and it makes it feel more comfortable. I've heard the more you do have sex the better it will feel but at first just knowing that it doesn't feel comfortable makes it hard to even want to do it. Good LUck!

Tammy - posted on 05/06/2010

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If it makes you feel better, I had my son 3 1/2 months ago and I still hurt and I won't even try to have sex yet :) Yes, my poor husband, but he is willing to wit. I tore 4th degree so I am just scared to try it

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I had a really hard labor and delivery with my first baby and it took a long time for it not to hurt! I had torn my cervix about 1/2 an inch (very unpleasant!) but they knew that as soon as I was done delivering. Check with your doctor to make sure everything is okay. I know they say 6 weeks is the norm but that just the basic healing time before you can start to get back to a normal physical routine. For some woman it takes much longer.

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I think everyone is different. I had a c-section and I had sex after 7 weeks & it only hurt the first time, but I would not be concerned. If it makes you nervous you can always call and ask your Dr.
If you tore that could also have something to do with it.

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I had this as well, to the point where I didn't want to even try to do it anymore. Finally I went to the gyno who in turn told me that labour had caused my down there spot to "break" I had Vaginismus, which is treatable! hurra! heres a link if you wanna find out more. http://www.sogc.org/health/health-vagini...

Jazzmin - posted on 05/05/2010

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i had my baby on jan.11.10 and i have been having issues with sex but my doctor told me since i have an iud that is normal with that.

Charlene - posted on 05/04/2010

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There is no reason to be concerned. It could take up to a year before sex doesn't hurt anymore. My daughter was 8 months old and my son was almost six months before it stopped hurting. As long as you don't have any severe bleeding or abdominal pain, it's fine. If you tore or had to be cut for delivery, that could have something to do with it. Or if you had a difficult delivery.

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Well, I'll be honest with you...I had a similar situation when I had my daughter. It all had to do with my uterus going back into place from having her. It took over a year for it to go back into place for whatever reason & I had pain on & off for the whole time. I would definitely see the doctor, see what's going on, but I would bet that it's your uterus going back into place hun. I hope this helps :)

Josee - posted on 05/04/2010

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lol I must laugh, I'm actually due in August with my first and I told my husband "I'll be fine after 6 weeks"...... thanks for the heads up ladies... :)

Valerie - posted on 05/04/2010

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it is different for everyone but i would say it is time to talk with your doctor...all the best

Rachelle - posted on 05/04/2010

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ha i had my daughter 5 months ago and was wondering the same thing... i'm not nurseing any more and haven't in months :( hopfully all will be well soon

Patricia - posted on 05/04/2010

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Are you nursing? I think it is all hormonal. It hurt for me until I stopped nursing. Then within a few weeks I started to feel like myself again and sex was more comfortable.

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Is this your first child? If you had a more difficult delivery it might be why you are still sore. If it is still painful then I would ask your OB about it or if you are just sore...maybe some Kagel (sp?) exercises. Each person heals on their own time.

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