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Shannon - posted on 01/19/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my daughter is almost 19 months, and for her comfort thing, she plays with my hair. she'll get it wrapped around her fingers and it hurts sometimes. im trying to get her to stop, because when i have it pulled back in a ponytail or braid, she'll grab it right at the roots and pulls it out of the hairtie. when i take her hand away from my hair, she'll grab at it and pull, because she gets mad when i dont let her play with it. just wondering any tips to get her to stop?

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Lacye - posted on 01/19/2011

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I know you might not like the idea, but I had to cut my hair short to stop my daughter from pulling it. Either that or do like someone else said and tug on hers. Not hard but just a little bit.

Sarh - posted on 01/19/2011

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If you haven't already... maybe try telling her NO, that hurts mommy in a STERN voice, not yelling, but let her know you mean business. Kind of like Kayla said.
Another thing... how long is her hair? Has she not noticed she can twirl her own hair? My daughter would twirl and play with her own hair and my son doesn't have much hair, but he like rubs his head like he is trying to play with it or something.
Good luck, I know it has to be frustrating, just keep doing what you are doing and hopefully it is just a phase.

Shannon - posted on 01/19/2011

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thanks guys, but i've tried putting her down and letting her have a fit, but when i do pick her back up (not immediately after i put her down, but when shes calmed down) she goes right back to my hair. ive also tried to pull her hair back, but then she just thinks its a game and she pulls my hair harder. i guess i'll just have to keep removing her fingers from my hair and let her throw her fits. i hope she gets the message soon! LOL thanks again for the suggestions :)

Kayla - posted on 01/19/2011

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At 19 months of age your daughter needs to start learning that her actions affect others and when she causes pain. My suggestion is that when she grabs your hair you grab hers. Don't pull it out or anything but the more she pulls yours the more you pull hers. Tell her in a calm voice you are hurting mommy. See how it feels when my hair is messed with. A short tug at hers will usually get her to let go I bet. Most the time kids don't stop because they don't know what you mean when you say that hurts, don't pull my hair. When you say see how that hurts when you pull my hair they make that connection and don't want to hurt mommy or have their hair tugged at again.

Sarh - posted on 01/19/2011

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When she gets mad and pulls your hair or plays with it (since you don't want her too) put her down. If your on the couch, put her down on the floor, she will probably cry, but if you want her to learn. NOW I'm not saying let her cry for a long time, but don't pick her up immediately after she starts to cry.

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