Melissa - posted on 11/24/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
Ok, so ever since my 3 month old daughter was born, my mother-in-law has been on my case non stop about how i need to raise her. and its her way or the high way basically. Ever since my sis in law had her daughter 2 yrs ago she basically turned her child over to her mother and her mom raises her and she expects me to do the same thing. and i totally disagree! My husband and i want to raise our daughter to be disciplined and respectful and have manners (none of which any of his younger brothers and sisters have!) My sis in laws daughter has no manners, throws fits constantly to get what she wants and they give it to her runs around screaming in restaurant has no table manners, etc. Thats not at all how i want my daughter to be. My mother in law also seems to think that my daughter is an exact clone of my sis in laws 2 year old who was colicy as baby still doesnt sleep through the nite, is very tomboyish, is extremly loud and screams all the time,etc. and my daughter already sleeps through the nite, is quite (doesnt like loud places, even her cry is quite) isnt colicy,etc. basically they are like nite and day and im so frustrated with my mother in law telling me that because im not doing what she does im wrong and a bad parent (for instance every girl in the family is a tomboy, i am not and i like to put bows and dresses on my daughter, my mother in law hates it and yells at me everytime i go over there and she has a bow in her hair )and constantly comparing her to my sis in laws kid. every baby is different and i thought she would get that seeing as shes had 6 kids. I mean she even went so far as to tell me that i had to give my daughter up for an entire weekend so she could straighten her out and do things her way so my daughter doesnt end up like me! my husband told me i cant talk to his mom about it cuz it would start a family fight and thats the last thing he wants. Plz help me! after 3 months of this, i want to strangle my mother in law, its driving me insane!!