Jessica - posted on 06/04/2011 ( 96 moms have responded )
My husband & I have been married for 2 months & we have a beautiful 9 month old son. Our relationship was going ok since we got together 3 years ago. I have never caught him in a lie or suspected him of cheating.
Yesterday I went on Facebook & he had left himself logged in. I saw the end of a conversation he had with a woman that morning. He said "Have a good day doll". He used to call me a doll for maybe the 1st few months of our relationship. I felt sickened by it & decided to snoop his messages. I feel guilty & wish I didn't. He & this woman had been messaging back & forth for the last week & in his last message he asked her for dirty pictures.
I confronted him about the "doll" remark & he said they were just friends from long ago, didn't mean anything. I asked him if he had anything to tell me & he replied no. I asked him if he was up to no good & he denied it. Finally after giving him 3 opportunities to tell me what was going on I admitted that I read the messages.
He claims he was frustrated because we had been arguing the last couple weeks, mostly about his lack of helping around the house & getting things done. He apologized a million times & denies any past cheating or that he had slept with this woman. She lives hours away & I doubt it would have been easy for them to.
I am beyond disgusted & feel sick & heart-broken. I believe that he hadn't slept with someone else, but I still consider this a form of cheating. I can barely look at him. I'm not sure what to do or how to get over it. Please I need help with this & don't feel comfortable telling anyone I know personally. I feel too embarrassed.