hello im looking for someone to talk to i have come down with the baby blues and dont know what to do

Mandi - posted on 01/26/2009

I had post partum depression after my last (i have four) child. The blues do not need to be taken lightly. You need to have a talk with your doctor to make sure it doesn't progress. It is very common do not try to ignore it, just get help. You will feel a lot better when you do. Not all doctors will rush to put you on meds either. I tried homeopathic remedies first and that helped me a lot.

Siobhan - posted on 01/25/2009

Hi - nearly everyone gets some kind of baby blues so you aren't alone!! Remember that! Make time for yourself (I used to go and get my nails done!), and talk to someone you know won't judge you - being a mummy is definately the hardest thing I have ever done and no matter what we all have moments when we don't cope with our babies - Please remember that your health visitor WILL help - you need to talk!! Good luck to you! X

Kate - posted on 01/25/2009

Hi Christine,

I remember after my son was a few months old, my husband had come home from work and I literally handed him the baby and locked myself in my bathroom to take a bath and have a good cry. Motherhoood can be so overwhelming at times and it's easy to forget to take care of yourself. I can only say that I found it reallly helpful to do something nice for myself so I felt like me again. I bought myself a new outfit, had lunch with a girlfriend and leaned on my mom alot for support. I do think that if you aren't starting to feel a litlte better soon, you def. should talk to your doctor about what you are feeling.

Addie - posted on 01/25/2009

Having someone to talk to about it helps a lot.  Maybe make a phone date with a girlfriend to just talk about whatever is on your mind.  Is there a Mom's group in your community or at church you can join to get out of the house for a bit?  I also suggest thinking about giving your OB or your primary care doctor or even your pediatrician a call.  Sometimes they have good suggestions or may be able to referr you to a professional counselor if you feel the need for that (if you don't like the idea of a counselor just think of them as a professional listener).  It's completely normal and you are not alone.

Sara - posted on 01/25/2009

Just remember that it's not just you, the baby blues are very common, and I hate to tell you this, but it can last a while (my son is almost 10 months and I still just start crying for no reason). Make sure you are taking time for yourself, a bubble bath, a massage, or simply a nap! A little extra rest can make all the difference. Also, look into joining a MOPS group (mothers of preschoolers). There you can meet other women and have some "grownup time", which we all need. Remember though, there is a big difference between the baby blues and post partum depression, and if there is anything more than just simply being sad, and crying all the time, seek help. If your husband doesn't get it, talk to a girlfriend, a dr, even your kids pediatrician. If you're not taking care of yourself, you can't be the best mom you can be. Good luck!

Jodi - posted on 01/25/2009

Darling get yourself a girlfriend and go do something. I went through postpartdem with my youngest and that's what helped me. Do something for yourself it doesn't have to be expensive. Go to the dollar store get some pretty candles and bubble bath. Have a nice hot bath. Take care of you right now. If you're anywhere near the MOV then bring the baby over and I"ll watch him/her while you take a nap.

Heather - posted on 01/25/2009

Hi Christine!

I personally have not experienced the baby blues, but most of my friends have to some degree. Make sure you have someone to talk to!! Don't feel bad for feeling the way you do .... its completely normal. Also, make sure to take some time for yourself. Its hard to do now, I know, but even just 30 mins can help. Have someone watch your children so you can take a nap, go shopping, take a shower, or have some quiet time. Its very important to take care of yourself as well as your children.

Just remember that you aren't the only one!