Help - Can't get my daughter to stop biting, pulling, pushing...

Julie - posted on 01/27/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 23 months and is very playful. She is use to playing with older children and she plays like an other child. She has been playing well with others since she was a little over a year old. I work at a daycare and most kids will start really playing in group activities around age 2-2.5. In her class most of the kids are still in the solo play stage which seems to be hard for her. I have noticed the closer she gets to the age of 2 the more aggressive she is getting with kids her own age. She loves to hug and try to get others to play with her, but when they won't she will push and can be almost mean to the kids. If they try to take a toy from her she will try to bite them and if they fight her she will. She never had a problem with sharing, but now she will say "no" and she is always trying to take toys away from others. I know it is a phase, but it is causing problems for her and me at work. Her motor skills have always been above most of the kids around her age, but she is not ready to be bumped to the higher toddler room. She is not potty trained and her verbal skills are not there yet, but I think she is bored with the kids her age. She is worse when she is tired. I want to break her of the bad habits without taking away her friendly and playful ways. She is very friendly and loves to be with the older kids. I want her to be friendly and not so aggressive with the other 1 1/2 and 2 year olds.

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Kimi - posted on 01/27/2011

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Maybe you could fulfill her social needs outside of daycare by setting up play dates with older kids. Time outs when she gets mean will also help. She will not revert to a sad shy child just because you punish her for being too rough or demanding so don't worry about that. She will always be friendly and playful because that's just who she is.

Tasha - posted on 01/27/2011

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I totally understand where you are coming from. My daughter is 22 months old and has a 3 1/2 yr old sister and also plays with her cousins who are older alot. She also has the issue of biting and hitting. To the point she can over power her 3 yr old sister at times (her sister understands that her sister is little and can still get hurt so the 3 yr old tries to not hurt her) I would try to talk to her and try time outs. I stay at home so I know this wont be easy for you at work. But talk to whoever is in charge in that room and see if they are willing to work with you. Sounds like she needs a bit more stimulation so she doesnt get bored. Good luck I hope this phase passes quickly.