Anne - posted on 09/07/2011 ( 29 moms have responded )
Ok ladies, I know this is a mom website but I am a little lost on where to go for advice. I usually get really good advice from on here. Here is the situation:
My Best Friend came to me telling me that my husband asked her to have an affair. She seems to think that her was serious and he keeps telling me that he was joking. Now for a little background. Her husband has NO sex drive and Mine has gone down since the birth of our children. It has been a long time joke that we should just switch spouses. My husband also has a very hard time joking around.
the He said/She Said
She said that he called her up, asked her if she was with me, and claims that he started talking about how he was going to get in trouble. She she finally got him to spit it out he asked her if she would ever cheat on her husband. She said no. Then he told her that as much as he loved me he wasn't getting enough sex and was looking else where. That they would be friends helping each other out.
He Said that he called her looking for me when my phone went straight to VM and admitted asking her about it. He keeps saying that it was a joke gone terribly wrong.
Although he has crappy joking skills I believe her. I know that nothing happened but I just don't know what to do. I don't want this to destroy my marriage bc nothing did happen and I have no PROOF that it wasn't a bad joke. However, I do believe he meant what he asked her. I am at a loss. He keeps denying that it was more then a joke but she's known my hubby for long enough to know when he is/isn't joking. What do you ladies think I should do? If he HAD cheated on me it wouldn't be a question. I would end it 100%. But I don't really want to throw away my marriage for a maybe. How can I ever trust him again? Thanks Ladies!