HELP.... I can NOT get my 2 y/o daughter on a bedtime routine

Bridget - posted on 10/27/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am in so much need of getting my 2 year old daughter who will be turning 3 in December..and starting preschool.... My husband works 2nd shift in the coal mines and our daughter has always seemed to have her days and nights mixed up...When I thought i had her on a routine and her in bed by 10 and getting up at 8 she changes in 1 night with nothing going on different.... like right now its 4:20 a.m. and shes still up.... I have tried dinner , bath, story, no tv for an hour before I start this...and NOTHING I am doing is working....she sleeps til 12 noon and dont take naps hardly at all and when I see her falling asleep I go fast and wake her up..And if I do get her in bed before 12 she sleeps 2 to 3 hours and wakes right back up and is up til daylight... I cant stand this any longer... Its wearing me out.. I never have an energy or anything... and She just keeps getting worse on the time she goes to sleep... At around 11 to 12 she starts getting SUPER hyper and I can't get her to settle down..she tried to jump off the couch onto her lil couch... and she fights sleep so bad...she will lay and fake cry and kick her legs to keep moving... Its like she thinks she gonna miss something if she goes to sleep...I am at my wits end...And I just dont know what else to do....PLEASE HELP!!!


Stephanie - posted on 10/28/2010




ahh that sounds hard!! I guess she does feel like she might miss out on something, like you said, because of the shift your husband works?

My daughter could use a bit more of a bedtime schedule too...she's 2 1/2 and she goes to bed between 10 - 11pm....and I wake her up at about 6:45am to get her ready for daycare! I guess she should be going to bed earlier, but she won't. We usually watch tv or a video laying in bed together till she falls asleep. She's actually been getting used to that as a routine, and will sometimes just roll over and say "goodnight mummy" and fall asleep not too long into the video. Maybe you'll just have to find something similar that works for you guys. She looks forward to watching her special video at bedtime so it encourages her to calm down and lie in bed with me, and I get a bit of a snooze in there too, ha ha. :)

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Amanda - posted on 10/28/2010




Try waking her up at 8am and putting her to bed at that same time in the evening. She needs to learn that nighttime is for sleeping, daytime is for playing, eating, and generally being awake. Dinner, bath, bed. Consistency on your part is important. It may take a while to catch on, but she needs to be on schedule before she starts school or you'll have an even tougher time getting her on track. But 8pm lights out bedtime. Time for sleeping. If she wakes up in the middle of the night, tell her it's still bedtime, and put her back to bed. She will catch on. Good luck, and get some sleep. :)

Sammi - posted on 10/27/2010




This will sound harsh but put her to bed and just leave her to cry and then go bk and put her in bed don't talk just say its bedtime and thats it, no eye contact or they play on it all my girls are in bed by 7 no if arhh or but about it u have to be crul to be kind, it can be a long drawn out process but it does work dont give in I hope u get it sorted soon......good luck.

Laura - posted on 10/27/2010




I have almost the same problem. My daughter will be 3 in November and she had a schedule for over a year them all of a sudden it changed and now its hard to get her in bed before 12am. Sometimes I try to get her to lay with me with the tv on but lights off, it seems to calm her down and start to fall asleep plus its relaxing to cuddle with her since she has the terrible 2 days sometimes. Good Luck.

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