help me please!!! whining, crying, non stop she's four

Melli - posted on 05/27/2012

Thank you everyone for replying to my post. Emma has gone through a lot the past two years. I just had a traumatic brain surgery 10/2011 and still recovering from it, she just loss her 1st pet fish (dorothy) just two weeks ago. We took her to the pediatrician and children psychologist recently thinking she may be stress from all the major event that took place. Emma was great with the psychologist, telling her that they had to fix my head because I wasnt feeling well. We were told emma is fine there is nothing to worry about. Thinking about it now I just return back to work so I am not with her every minute of the day, we both miss that.
But to answer everyone else's questions, when emma whine and cries and doesn't want to talk. She will get sent to her room and can come out when she's ready to talk. But this is an everyday process we are going through.

Sara - posted on 05/27/2012

My daughter is turning 3 in July and she's been going through this phase a lot lately..if she doesn't take a long enough nap or too long of a nap..if she doesn't sleep well at night or if she's just in a bad mood and having a rough day she's whiny and cries all day long.. it drives me crazy sometimes but with our situation I understand it a little better because my boyfriend has three daughters of his own who are 7, 5, and 1 and they come over on weekends.. I think my daughter is just trying to compete for "the baby spot" which is okay because she just wants love and attention just like everybody else.. she also went through a serious separation anxiety phase and is starting that back up again that everytime I walk out the front door , even to take the trash out, she freaks out and starts crying hysterically thinking I'm not coming back. Whe she whines and cries for no reason i let her know that she's a big girl and knows how to talk to me and if she's not going to talk and use her words then I'm not going to listen to her..most of the time she'll cry for a few more minutes and even get dramatic with the crying and then she'll stop and tell me what's the matter. If I can't get her to calm down after that then usually I will comfort her because sometimes she just needs some extra love and attention...Has there been any changes that have been affecting your daughter maybe? even something that wouldn't affect you or something that seems so small could affect a child in ways that wouldn't even phase an adult.. good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Kelina - posted on 05/26/2012

what do you do when she acts like this? Give her more attention? ignore it? One thing that might be helpful is if you refuse to answer when she whines. Or cries without talking to you. Tell her that when she's ready to use her words she can come find you. My son is getting into this stage, whining a lot and crying to get his way. When we don't respond to it, he usually gives up.

Melli - posted on 05/26/2012

Thank you Madison, we recently took her to her pediatrician. no ear infection just allergies. I know she is just a child and there are phases that they go through, but this is just over board. I mean here are some examples, emma has long beautiful hair just brushing it, she will cry as if she is in so much pain, i know she is not because i brush it so lightly. Emma is an only child and is spoiled rotten. Every child deserves to be spoiled some way and loved. But with Emma my in laws will give her what she wants, do whatever she wants to do, they have never put her in time out if she doesn't listen or do what it is she is suppose to do. Lately Emma just doesn't want to be around me because I'm the one who puts her in time out, I give her all the love and attention she needs, we would sit down and talk about what happen why she was put in time out. I know she is just four and it's hard for her to grasp and understand sometime.

I hope your little one is doing ok.

Madison - posted on 05/26/2012

Is she sick? One of my twins was doing that and he had an ear infection, I took him to the dr and he put him on antibiotics and 3 days later he was still like that. I took him to the er and it had gotten worse. I hope things get better for you and your little one.