Lori - posted on 04/14/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
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Hi everyone!
I have been criticized a lot by people close to me because I read every book or article that I can get my hands on about kids. Please don't get me wrong, I don't think that books are the end all of baby advice! When my family or friends give me advice I definitely take it into consideration. Has anyone else had to deal with criticism of this type or know of a reasonable argument to get people to stop?
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Amy - posted on 04/17/2010
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OMGoodness! I'm sorry that you have to go through that. I think that the more information you have, from whatever source, the better! You will just have more options to try out and figure out what will work for you and your baby.
I went through getting unwanted advice from my in-laws and it really stressed me out! Their experiences are just that, theirs! What worked for them doesn't mean that it will work for me. I wish I had more information so that I knew i wasn't doing something wrong when my experience was different. Keep on getting as much info as possible and just ignore them, or just stop telling them what you have learned from the books or articles.
Rachael - posted on 04/17/2010
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Yes. I, oike you, think that fasmily and friends do have good things to offer but alot of times things have changed since they were raising kids (esp when it comes to grandparents advice). I usually just smile and nod and then do it my way anyways if I don't feel that what they had to say makes sense
Jenna - posted on 04/17/2010
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When people throw advice at me, especially the kind I don't want, I just use simple phrases like "Good to Know", You don't say", "Great suggestion", and I just act like I'm barely hearing them (like I'm distracted, reading the paper etc.) Eventually people will take the hint.
Trina - posted on 04/14/2010
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It happens. I can't figure it out. Some people have such low self esteem they think others should not educate themselves. I have no solution for the issue. I am a geek. I read everything, that is just who I am.
Chesnie - posted on 04/14/2010
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sorry no, never had anyone say anything to me...Thats crazy, you can never have tooo much knowledge.
Lori - posted on 04/14/2010
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Thanks! Of all the things I never thought I would get so much flak for this! Mostly it is other moms and dads, mine included (not all of them, I have several moms that listen to me and respect what I have to say), they laugh me off or acted offended. As a matter of fact, the more that I tell my parents about what I read, the dumber they treat me! I read a lot of books about pregnancy and had the same response, to the extent that I stopped even telling people that I read about it. Even friends who have no kids were railing on me about it! My worst criticizer is my husband, who is downright immature about it. If I say that I think something, he says "you mean you read in a book..." We've talked about it but it still just keeps coming up! I got so downhearted that I stopped reading for a couple of weeks but I started back up again when my daughter got cradle cap.
Jessica - posted on 04/14/2010
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Why do people criticize you for that?? If anything you're being more responsible by doing your research and being well-informed! I'd explain to them that there's a lot of information out there and you're just doing your research... if they don't shut up just ignore them :)
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