Hey everyone.

Monique - posted on 03/14/2010

Hey there,

i was in the same boat as you 6 years ago, i was just as confused and did not know what to do, then i realized what is more important in my child's life... i took a stand and told him that if he cannot be a father for his child he should not be around, she deserves more than what he can offer, all he is, is a a part time father and she does not need grow up thinking that is the right thing. she was only 6 months old, i did not take him to court or give him the opportunity to see his daughter, he is not worth being a father. Today i am happily married to a guy that loves my daughter, as if she was his own. Remember that his money does not buy love, he will in turn one day come back and say i did support you, but your mother did not want me to see you. Think about it... at the end of the day it is your choice, A mother knows what is best for her child.... Mwah

Daizzanne - posted on 03/12/2010

hi everyone.. i'm pretty new to this mommy thing but if i were in ur postion i would definitely take him to court for child support b cuz of the simple fact that its his child and if he doesn't want to be around her as a father should, then he should support her financially as a father should. Its as simple as that, no hard feelings, but that's how i feel

Ashley - posted on 03/12/2010

Hey! I agree with the ladies. If he doesn't want to be there emotionally fine, but don't let him off that easy financially. I'm so tired of men making babies and when things get hard between the mom they take it out on the children. Put him on child support so you can get a little more help with your child.

Chrystal - posted on 03/11/2010

hi i'm chrissy i sought of know wat ya mean my first three kids father is doin the same thing he dont bother with his kids anymore n i acually have court papers!! though he just cant be bothered payin out the money to c his children or spare even 2 bucks to cal them its entirerly up to u its good to have agreements in place though not that they really help anyway my advice would be i would leave it til he acually tries to take u to court n take it from there if he really wants to c her he will make the effort as for child support i would deffinetly follow that one up he should b helpin support his child hope everything works out for u...........

Sarah - posted on 03/07/2010

I would think the extra money would be nice if he would actually pay it! Maybe it would be the kick in the butt that he needs to realize there are consequences for his actions (you have a kid you need to help support the kid) But that doesn't always happen! It could go many different ways! He could end up paying the child support or not, he could decide he wants custody and fight for visitations it all depends on the guy! I know a guy that hasn't paid child support in like 10 years and his ex is getting her house forclosed on because she couldn't make the payments without some of the child support! Only you can decide what is right for your child! I would suggest at least talking to a lawyer about it to see what all would happen and make your decision from there! Good luck!

Carolee - posted on 03/07/2010

I took my ex to court and get child support. Haven't seen or heard from him in more than 6 months! Child support and custody/visitations don't always have to go together. If he does ask for it, though, you can ask for supervised visitations when your daughter's with him. My son's bio father just really doesn't care to be in his life, but I still get the money I need to support my son.

Jayne - posted on 03/07/2010

thats a tough 1 i would def try for child support if he duznt wanna see her fine but why should you singlebhandedly pay for a child that he helped to create. At least have him pay he owes that your daughter at least