Hey - The young mom question...

Marta - posted on 11/13/2008

Well, I was 17 when I had my first 18 when I married 19 when I had my second and I'll be 21 when this one is born. I constantly get comments such as you're too young, what a waist and the really old little ladies say that it's nice to see young people with traditional values they always tell me that they were only 19 20 when they got married and started having babies and now they have x amount of grandkids some even have greatgrandkids...I want to be able to experience that. I want to be young enough to dance at my kids weddings and "show 'em how it's done", I want to be the MILF!

Karen - posted on 11/13/2008

Yeah, I was 21 with my first and people kept asking me the same thing...I just decided if they want to be nosey, that was up to them, but it really is none of their business how old "they think" too young is.

Robyn - posted on 11/09/2008

Hi my name is Robyn and im 21. I am a mother of two. Landen is 1 and Lucas is 2 1/2. About the experience with people commenting on my age I get it both ways because i dont look more then maybe 17 and on a real good day i might get 18. So I always get your so young. It was even more funner back of jan this year my son ended up on the hospital for 4 days and the nurses at the hospital at first would give me looks but after i proved my slef by being there and trust me it was hard at the time i had a 4 month old at home to take care of as well. They grew to respect me and how well i parent. Its been that way with alot of people. So being told im young sometimes brothers me but its more the looks i get but most often being told im young i take as a compliment.

Lorin - posted on 11/08/2008

Hi, I'm 24 my name is Lorin. I have 2 children as well. My sons Connor 3 and Aidan 1. I got most of the flack from my family. My mom didn't even smile both of the times I told her I was pregnant. And now she is always treating me like I don't know what I'm doing. And every time I talk to my brother he is always saying something about how he can't believe I have 2 kids and he's always asking me if I regret it because I missed out on stuff. I adore my kids and couldn't imagine the world without them. I just wish everyone would stop the judgment. It is possible to be young and mature and responsible.

Krysta - posted on 11/08/2008

Hi Angela! Nice to meet you. I am 24 and have a 3 years old daughter and 2 month old son. I know what you mean about how others comment on you being young with children. I look a lot younger than I am so a lot of people think I'm much younger and you can just tell the looks they give you sometimes. Your daughter is a cutie! Love your profile pic.
Sincerely,
Krysta

Amanda - posted on 11/08/2008

I had an opposite experience... My husband and I were engaged when I was 20 and he was 19, and as soon as we announced it, his mother started talking babies (she had nine kids) and telling me how bad birth control was. We were both still in college! My family wasn't much better. Aside from wondering what took me so long to get married (which was only 9 months after the engagement), the started tapping their feet, and looking expectantly from their watches to my stomach as soon as we said "I do". I made them wait four years, but they don't seem to mind so much now that Nathan is here.

Angela - posted on 11/08/2008

I just turned 29 this year and I have four children. I get it all the time. Double takes, the "How many children?" There was only one time when I was at the post office where this older lady said it as a nice comment. I always feel myself explaining that my husband and I wanted to have our children while we were young and energetic.

Madelyn - posted on 11/08/2008

hey angela this is madelyn mother of two children ciara-grace (5) and liam (3) i am 25 now and people STILL tell me i look to young to have kids......whatever thats supposed to mean....i dont think a person age is the deciding factor in whether you are a good parent or not.Once you have ur baby instinct kicks in an d you just kinda figure it out. mabey i did do it backwards kids then career, but either way i still managed both so does it really matter what order you do it in as long as your kids are well taken care of?

Karen-Nicole - posted on 11/08/2008

There was a time recently where I was at the grocery store and offhandedly mentioned "my four year old son" and the checker looked at me and said "how old are you? I don't mean to be rude, but you don't look old enough to even have a child let alone a 4 year old." I know I look young, but do I really look THAT young? I always get the "younger brother" question, until he starts calling me "momma."

Meghan - posted on 11/08/2008

I was 22 when I was pregnant. I look very young. Someone asked me if I was still in high school while I was pregnant.

Luzenia - posted on 11/08/2008

oh yeah when i go to the store with my babies all i hear is oh ur so young to have so many kids or wow u have ur hands full and so young to it used to bother me especially when i was prego because i had zero tolerance for anything lol but now i just brush it of and remember that i live in a small town with a lot of small town old people who just dont agree with young unmarried mothers

Caitlin - posted on 11/08/2008

Hey Angela nice to meet you. I seem to have been able to dodge most of the young mum comments but know a lot of people who have had the same experience as you. I'm 24 and have a 4 yr old daughter Olivia. I integrated myself with a young mums group when I was pregnant and found that a lot of the other girls would often get stopped on the street and told that they looked to young to be having kids etc but I think we should take it as a compliment because most of the time it is said by older people who don't believe we are mature enough to look after kids and we are able to prove to them we are because we do :)