hi young moms, im new :)

Jaycie - posted on 01/28/2011

look up play groups in the area... take your child to your local library for free story times... when you are at the park you should take the time to socialize with other parents there... there are many different ways to answer this question but you have to be used to being mom first and foremost and get happy with yourself before trying to fill any void in your life. I hear time and time again how hard it is on moms because friends walk away when new moms arent available all the time. this happened to me as well.. I found ways to make new friends but it never helped until I learned to be a lone and was comfortable with it... You have to make YOU before anyone can love YOU or you can love ANYONE else and this includes friends dear!

Dusty - posted on 01/28/2011

Girl my husband too!!!!! He's tired of hearing talk about the stress of motherhood! I have 2 & they a year & 5 days apart! I'm a stay at home mom, I also have friends with kids, but believe me, not many! I try to bring them to the park, or Burger King with those built in playground, somewhere where they have other children, next thing I knew I was starting conversations with people I've never met before! My daughter is in Headstart, & wow, that makes a difference. I have play groups from there as well

Sarah - posted on 01/28/2011

Ok, first of all wanting to be an actual person and not just a mom (love being a mom don't get me wrong) is totally normal and nothing of which you should be ashamed. Second there are mommy and me classes (check with your local YMCA or community center) and meetup.com groups that specifically focus on a specific demographic of moms young,old, by race, creed or religion, because lets face it we are creatures of habit and that habit extends to the people we befriend. You could also check out the local community college or churches as most have daycare centers (even play groups where moms stay with kids but get adult time while the kids burn off some energy playing with peers) that you could spend some time talking to teachers and staff to find out if there are other moms of a similar age that you might want to get to know better. Good luck

Robin - posted on 01/28/2011

me too. all my old friends say they miss me and want hang out but every time i try to plan something they either cancel last minute or just plain old don't answer those messages. my son is almost 3 months old and a few of them have never even seen him. it makes me kind of upset but then i remember feeling weird about one of my older friends getting pregnant when i was 19. i also feel like anyone who is my age (22) and has children isn't married so it makes it even harder to have stuff in common.
so anyway i'd like someone to talk to too! lol

Dawn - posted on 01/28/2011

hi kristen, i'm dawn and i too am going through the same thing. feel free to message me on here or add me on fb.

Teejay - posted on 01/16/2011

i understand you completly.
expecially
"I am starting to wonder if I should just give up my search for female companionship. Shouldn't my husband and daughter be enough to keep me happy? I feel guilty for wanting more, but at the same time it would just be really nice to have some one to call up when you are having a mommy breakdown and be able to vent ( my husband is tired of hearing me talk about the stress of mommyhood)"

LOL my partner is over me talking about my days at home too, and I find the same thing when I try to make friends. Older women just dont want to be friends, and women our age are in a different stage of life.
At least know your not the only one out there. My son is 9 months old and I lost all my friends going into my pregnancy. I love my partner and son but its hard not having someone else to talk to. And it makes me feel selfish but its not. Even my partner has his own friends to talk to.

Nicole - posted on 01/16/2011

I made most of my friends through school, but anyplace where you share a common interest with the people attending is a good place to make friends...clubs, workshops, lessons, ect. Play groups are good but I have yet to make a friend from a playgroup. Maybe you'd have more luck.

It is good to have somewhere to rant but you're time is better spent getting excited about something. It is a great feeling getting involved in a project and people pick up on that fun and enthusiasm, and they want to be a part of it too.

Best of luck:)

Kristy - posted on 01/16/2011

Hi Kristen, have you tried looking up local playgroups in you area? Or you could try and join a mothers group - it doesn't matter that you haven't been in one from the start, my one happily accepts new mums that have moved into the area or are a bit lonely.