house work

Crystal - posted on 03/24/2010

It can be a problem. But over the years I have learned that my house being spotless is not as important as people made me feel. I prefer yo spend timme with my kids and husband and time for myself so if there are days that its not up to par I can deal with that. I found a happy medium that all in our home could deal with and stopped worrying what others thought. If they dont like it then dont come over. My advice is find a place that is healthy for your kids, and that you and your husband can deal with and dont be hard on yourself if its not perfect.

Robin - posted on 03/23/2010

Let me know if this could help anyone out there-especially if you have children old enough to help, and of course a spouse who can do somethings.

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Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2010

My housework gets done when i have the time and energy, much to the dislike of a few ppl but it's my house and my son comes first. I tend to do it on the weekend while my son is at grandmas, I sleep in than get up and clean. You find what works for you.

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2010

i almost want to give up on house work. My 4 year old makes a mess right away, its like she hates when it is clean. i work 8 hr days and i am exhausted when i get home and dont feel like cleaning but i have to.

Selena - posted on 03/18/2010

I do and it's sad to say that it's starting to cause a problem with my boyfriend and I. He expects everything to be done right away when all I want to do is sit down for a little bit and relax. The bad thing is that I'm now back at work working about 30 hrs a week while he stays home with the baby. I feel like he expects EVERYTHING from me and I just can't give it anymore. I am quiet worn out from taking care of our new born at night to waking up at around 6 a.m. and not being able to lay down till after midnight. Alright, I'm gonna shut up. I've started ranting. I'm sorry. But YES I do find it VERY hard to keep up with the house work. I've always been the type that says "It'll get done when I get the time."

Robin - posted on 03/18/2010

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Sincerely

Robin

Felicia - posted on 03/17/2010

I didn't get the energy and mental motivation to really get up and do housework until I stopped nursing and my daughter started walking! lol Coincidentally, that happened around the same time, when she was nine months old lol. I guess when you get into the groove of taking care of your new child, other possibilities open up lol

Amanda - posted on 03/17/2010

Yes, I do! I find that it helps to do one thing a ay (ex. the kitchen one day the bathroom one ay the floors one day)

Libby - posted on 03/17/2010

With a toddler and a newborn- totally understand the "lack of motivation". I give myself a list of daily things that need to be done. We don't have a big house so that helps. Dishes and one load of laundry are a must every day and once a week I get to the floors. The thing that makes it all easier to keep a tidy house is helping my daughter pick up her toys after she is done with them and at night tidy up a little bit so I don't wake up to a messy house (helps me not to be frustrated first thing in the morning). This is a good thing for children to learn- once you're done with something put it back (and the same thing goes for me!) I figure if I can do this with a toddler and a newborn, anyone can. :-)

Curvavaciousgerry@hotmail.com - posted on 03/16/2010

u dont carry yr kids all day keep them occupied and clean a room a day not too hard time management a place for every thing

Cara - posted on 03/16/2010

We all do!!! What I do is clean 10mins out of everyhour!!! It seems to work for me!!!

Jessica - posted on 03/16/2010

lol Yes yes and yes!!! I don't even have the post partum excuse anymore! My son is one, and keeping up with him just takes it out of me! My husband is very understanding and helps me when he gets home from work. It took him one day with our son to realize and after that smooth sailing lol you are not alone!!!!

Jessy - posted on 03/16/2010

Housework? What's that? I have three kids with the oldest being 3. I can't keep up with them let alone housework. My husband is worlderful about it though, and he is a huge help.

Tabitha - posted on 03/16/2010

All the time... Most of the time I can keep up with the little things(laundry dishes vaccuuming).. It is the deep cleaning that I fall behind on.. Like dusting, baseboards, and cleaning the fans.

Curvavaciousgerry@hotmail.com - posted on 03/16/2010

my house is always clean i do this early morning i leave cooking dishes for my son to do after school just to teach him house chores i like to do my own house work as i am fussy.

Evelyn - posted on 03/16/2010

That's me lately and I'm an at stay at home mom. My hubby is in the military and it's hard for me to stay motivated when he's not here. It's spring cleaning time and slowly but surely getting it done. When I know he's about to come home... that motivates me to have everything ready for when he gets here. But most definately very guilty of the lazyness once in a while. I just get tired because I do it all the time! lol... I have three boys and they are constantly making messes even though they do "clean" up time. But the baby is my number one reason for disinfecting and cleaning ugh.... lol

Kellianne - posted on 03/16/2010

yes that is me,i clean most of the time first thimg in the morning to havr the rest of the day to spend with my 1 year old,but when my 9,7,4 year old it takes 30 minutes for them to mess it up and i think why do i bother

Nicole - posted on 03/16/2010

i find it very interesting that only ONE person has said no.... as far as im concerned as long as the bugs arent relocating inside, there are clean clothes and everything and everyone is fed....JOB DONE... there are more important things in life

Angela - posted on 03/16/2010

And Andi I can totally relate about the dishes. I always tell my husband not to put yucky dishes in the sink. Scrape them and set them on the counter. He always put them in my clean sink without scraping them and fills them with water. He says he is soaking them. Our dishwasher is a pressure washer-we don't need to soak the dishes. It just means I have to stick my hand in stinky, scummy water to get them. He says it is how his mom taught him. We have been married almost 6 years. Time to learn my rules my friend.

Angela - posted on 03/16/2010

My 20 month old can now help me unload the bottom of the dishwasher (great because I'm 8 months pregnant and it's hard on my back) pick up laundry, put toys in her boxes and take her garbage to the can. The best part is that she likes doing it. She is Mummas Special Helper. She also likes helping make cakes and getting ingredients for supper. All in all it is getting better. I don't wash my floors as much as I should though. They just get dirty 3 seconds later. The great thing is that my husband is totally laid back about it all. He would rather I spent the time with our daughter as long as our home is sanitary.

Louise - posted on 03/16/2010

yep!!!! my two are at the stage where they follow behind where i have cleaned and remake the mess!!! but im very luck to have my hubby as he does so much for me :D

Jessica - posted on 03/15/2010

OhMyGosh, I can definatly relate. I have a 2 1/2 year old who makes it almost pointless to clean cuz he destroys it faster then I can clean it. Plus I have a 4 month old daughter, who is so demanding. One of them is always crying. I used to clean during Jayden's naptime. But they never sleep at the same time. I never even get a second to consider cleaning our house is an absolute disaster. 'Daddy' gets mad cuz the dishes dont get done but i never have a chance to do them and when say the grandparents take the kids for a few hours or even the night I dont want to clean I want to relax. So I definatly understand.

Celeste - posted on 03/15/2010

yes. i hate doing it and i tend to find other things to do when i have time to clean. luckily enough my husband helps me a lot with this because he sees how frustrated i am.

Shanna - posted on 03/15/2010

Yes! And it drives me crazy. Sometimes I think just because I can't be supermom and do it all, I just don't feel like doing anything. I don't ever get any help.. in fact he makes it worse... so sometimes, I feel like I just can't make myself care enough to get up and get it all done.

Jennifer - posted on 03/15/2010

I am def not at all interested in doing house work. I have a 6, 4 and 2 yr old boys and a 1 yr old step grand daughter that I keep everyday and I have no time to do it during the day. By the time they go to bed I am way to exhausted to do anything else. I do not think we are not the only ones feeling this way! I hope it gets better for you!

Heather - posted on 03/15/2010

I was just talking to a friend of mine about this very thing. It always seems that when I actually have time to do housework I need a five minute break for myself. And everytime I take that break it always lasts a little longer then five minutes and I lose my oppurtuinity to work becasue the kids always need me then,

Andi - posted on 03/15/2010

Yeah...especially when I'm the only one that picks up after everyone in the house. There's just my husband and my son but between the 2 of them they can have the house torn apart in a matter of minutes. My son is only 18 months so I don't expect too much from him since he doesn't understand my reasoning but the man of the house, that's another story! lol I tell my husband to rinse his dishes and put them on the left side of the sink and he somehow manages to put his dirty unrinsed dishes in the clean side. He says that he's not used to those rules for the dishes since his mom taught him differently. Well...he hasn't lived in his moms house for over 5 years and we've been married for 3 so you think he'd just get used to it since I'm constantly having to tell him. It's very hard to stay motivated when you're cleaning up and you have 2 people right behind you messing it all up. I do my daily pick up after my son at night after he goes to bed so I'm not wearing myself out too much. One thing I do is I do house work one day and I work hard at getting it all cleaned then the next day I won't do anything (in the cleaning department) and then I might go out the day after that and then do another day of nothing and then clean again. I'd much rather be the one making the mess with my son during the day than the one picking it up at night, even though I do do both. We gotta get our bonding time in for the day and that could last all day long. :)

Jennifer - posted on 03/15/2010

I do.....I have three children and am a full time online college student.........I am having a hard time juggling everything...I have been trying to do it a hour a day. Try that find one hour and do whatever needs to be done and see if that helps.........and try doing it to music

Breanne - posted on 03/15/2010

OH YEAH! It's so frustrating to look around and see clutter! BUT I have come to realize that spending time with my girls is more improtant than having a spotless house.

KENYETTA - posted on 03/15/2010

Yes. I thought I was the only one. I just feel so drained by the time I put my son down for a nap. I just want a breather too.

Cindy - posted on 03/15/2010

All the time!! lol! Whenever I do get a chance to do housework I'm usually too tired to do anything and I'll end up just doing a couple of things, even though I should be doing like several things! lol! Cause I just want to relax!

Bridget - posted on 03/15/2010

yup all the time im just to tired to do it alot of the time

Anna - posted on 03/15/2010

Psh. My son wants to be held all day and he eats every two hours. Housework be damned!

Ericka - posted on 03/15/2010

Yes. It seems like when I get a chance I'm too exhausted. I have a four month old daughter who is teething and she constantly wants to be in arms so it makes it hard to get any housework done.

Gail - posted on 03/15/2010

i start from top work my way down staires.i try do it when kids in bed or out with family xx

Beka - posted on 03/15/2010

Its rough. I've always been told that the laundry can wait.

Terra - posted on 03/15/2010

I don't mind doing housework but I have a hard time finding time to do it. My son is 10 months old, I work 40 hrs a week if not more and my husband works 12s on nights. So by the time I get ready to clean either the baby is sleeping, my husband is sleeping, or I am just too exhausted. I also try to make it a point to play with my son when I am off work because that is very important to me. Now that he started crawling last week I am going to be atleast vaccuming once a day. I have been cleaning the house one room at a time for months now. HELP! lol

Angel - posted on 03/15/2010

Lots of trouble for me. I hate sometimes when Bianca's finally sleeping because its way too quiet and I love playing with her so it makes it hard even when she is sleeping.

Stevie - posted on 03/15/2010

haha yeah i hate hate HATE the kitchen anymore and i went to college for culinary i dont think im suppose to hate the kitchen lol i will clean at the last min possible most days other days i just clean and clean and clean but those are very far and few between it doesnt help anything that once its clean only min to a few short hours later someone comes by and makes it look horrible i hate that its always the same thing to clean 50 million times a day and there is no one who helps keep it that way esp cuz with me if im ganna clean i become a perfectionist most of the time

Kimberley - posted on 03/15/2010

yer dont we all the only thing i find is that i work then pick up my son come hom,e cook and do house work - my parter gose to work and thats it no matter how i try its all down to me.

Sybil - posted on 03/14/2010

I used to love doing housework but now that i am a homemaker and mom I have to do it. It is now my job and i think thats why i lose motivation now. I just remember im lucky to have a great home and i want to keep it clean and uncluttered.

Tina - posted on 03/14/2010

I just keep telling myself that if I don't do it then nobody will and it'll never get done. And it gives me an excuse to hand the babe over to daddy for a bit!

Amy - posted on 03/14/2010

All the time! I work full-time, school part-time. My husband is military and is constantly traveling. So, with a 6 month old, house work is last in line. I pick up the house at night when the baby is sleeping, but find it hard to motivate myself to do things like dusting. One of these days I am going to get it done :)!

Alisha - posted on 03/14/2010

Oh yeah!!!! Its something tat is ever ending! One thing that i find is once you clean a room its a mess before I have finished the next room. ugh . . . . . I just can't seem to stay on Top of it. I have a 3chilren. .3, 2, and 5 months so there is always stuff everywhere. I find that i just get sick and tired of doing it dayin and day out. I woud rather spend the time doing something else then scrub the house like ply with my kids, visit with a friend, BAKE.. im a big baker, be on COMssss but i stil alays do thhousely pickup throughout the day. .i ust don't scrub all day every day. . i try to scrub te house once a wk but it doesn't always happen. . my sayin " a clean house is a sgn of a waisted life :P its not but it is. My aunt has OCD and she wishes she could just let her place get mess as shewould rather be doing somthing else the always cleaing!

Emma - posted on 03/14/2010

Well I have 6 month old twins but I still manage to keep the housework under control. I'm not houseproud by any means but I do like to keep things clean as I go along. It takes no time at all to put a load of washing on or to wash a couple of dishes. What I tend to do is keep the basic things under control as I go along, and then pick one bigger chore to do each day - so one day it may be cleaning the bathroom, another cleaning the downstairs windows etc. I have to keep organised with twins otherwise the house would be utter chaos

Shantelle - posted on 03/14/2010

i find the easiest thing to do is try to keep after yourself from the get go like tossing all garbage as you go wiping counter rinsing dishes off the easy stuff like as you use it put it away spill it tidy it than etc.. which seems to help a bit so when i wake up in the morning i do a load or 2 of dishes a load or 2 of laundry sweep something than if i really feel like cleaning i get right into oit but if not than i have a bit of stuff done i have a brand new baby and a 2 year old so ya housework is darn near impossible as is so cleaning as you go seems to be the only way its not mass tornado hit my house and left dirt gremlins behind

Kristal - posted on 03/14/2010

sometimes.. but i notice that once i start doing housework i feel better..

Christi - posted on 03/14/2010

not really, i hate living in mess since i did as a child. my house isn't spotless, but the laundry is always put away and caught up and the dishes are done, floors are vaccummed and mopped. i do housework whenever my lil man is napping and i can get most of it done after he goes to bed at night.

Z - posted on 03/14/2010

Yes, sometimes I am too tired to wake up in the morning cos I know I need to prepare breakfast, wash clothes, gave bath to my children. Finish doing all my chores then need to teach both of my sons alphabet, numbersand read some books.....this is the part I enjoy most. Then folding clothes. If I have the time I can read newspaper then surf internet. Around 5.30pm both of my son want me to accompany them to the playground. 7am, again giving bath to my children, cooking some food and reading story book. Then I can rest. But rest assured one of my son might need something or in the middle of the night screaming for me. This cycle will continue. Reading my own writting just make me feel tired alr3eady.

Paige - posted on 03/13/2010

I found this poem and thought it might help!
Cleaning and Scrubbing can wait til tomorrow for babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow, so quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep. I'm rocking my baby cause babies don't keep!!
Love this, and when I feel unmotivated to clean I always remember this little saying, and it always makes me feel better, because it is sooo true!! =) Hope this helps!