How can I get my 18 month old to start picking up his toys?

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Janessa - posted on 07/19/2011

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Consistency, show him, be the example. They figure it out eventually and even like it, my little 2 year old sometimes will dump stuff out just so he can pick it up. They like to do what you do, so example is one of the best ways.

Lindsey - posted on 07/15/2011

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make it a game and lots of praise!! a big yaaaaaay! and clap usually does the trick for a while :)

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MAXINE - posted on 07/21/2011

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We sing 'CLEAN UP CLEAN UP' SONG HAVE HIM PARTICIPATE IN THE SONG AND I HELP HIM SO NOW WHEN I SING IT HE RUNS TO PICK UP HIS THINGS

Brandy - posted on 07/20/2011

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I have a 3, 2, and 1 year old and I know all about this! lol. what i did was start singing the CLEAN UP SONG! (clean up, clean up, everbody, everywhere. clean up clean up, it is time to do your share....(just add in more...)) and while i was singing this i would walk with them and show them what to do and where to put the toys. it took me doing this a few times (no more than 10)and each of them loved it. i started this at about about 12 months. its all about repitition and making it fun. Now i can walk into a dirty room and say clean up and they start singing and cleaning! ******same thing works for dirty clothes and trash. having 3 i need them to help me out so after baths i tell them dirty clothes and make them put them in the hamper. also with trash. i make them put their trash in the garbage,.. It makes them more self reliant and responsible. and truthfully they just think they are having fun and its a game.

Antonietta - posted on 07/20/2011

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what i did with my boys was take their hand and physically did it wth them the first few times then i would go do it side by side with them until they understand. even if they would pick up 1 or 2 toys out of 5 i would prais ethem so it encouraged them to do more the next time

Charleen - posted on 07/19/2011

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The way I got my son to start picking up was hand that to mommy lets go put it away. I let him follow me over and said in a happy voice lets go put the car in here. Then pretty soon I could sit back and he would pick up the car and put it away. I would have to ask him time to pick up are you going to help. Help pick up the toys and put them away they go over here and I point to it and sometimes i still help him when he needs it of course but it also helps to have them follow an older sibling while picking up too

Nicole - posted on 07/19/2011

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make it a game!! Put on some silly little song that you can use all the time for "clean up" or make up your own song... start with the biggest toys and have them in 1 spot so he knows that those toys go there.... then move on to smaller and smaller... that helped me and my son loves to clean his room if he knows that there might be a prize at the end... :)

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It really has to be a game, make it fun or he will lose interest fast. Think of different ways it can be fun: have his stuffed toys "walk" to the toy chest, sing a song, get dressed up in funny clothes, make up a "put away" dance. And then when he does it on his own, thank him for being such a big help.

Victoria - posted on 07/18/2011

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hi, i taught my son to put his toys away when he was about 15 months old...the easiest way i found was for him to watch what i was doing, then give him one of his toys and he just started putting his toys away by himself

Jaimee - posted on 07/18/2011

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I cleaned up my sons toys with him at that age. I would let him put a sticker on a chart for good helping. Now he is 3 and if he refuses his toys go in a garbage bag and he doesn't see them for 3 days. I've only had to resort to this on two occasions now just the threat gets him on his feet and cleaning up.

Brandy - posted on 07/18/2011

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My son is 23 months, and he now picks up all of his toys. I started out by getting him to help me pick his toys up, even though he used to only pick up one or two, and I would pick up the rest. I tried to not make a big deal out of it. Now, I just name each toy and tell him to go put it in his toy box, and he does it with no complaining because that is what we have done for awhile. I think it has something to do with his attention span getting better now.

Katrina - posted on 07/18/2011

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I just make it a game, and do it with him. He is starting to get the concept and is beginning to do it on his own when I ask him to. Good Luck

Melanie - posted on 07/18/2011

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I make it a game, Can you find..... then put it in the container. Now she resorted back to just leaving them everywhere, so had to do a harsh approach but hey it worked and now have no problem, I tell her if she doesnt pick them up im gonna throw them away. At first she didnt believe me until i grabbed a garbage bag and started loading it up. Now no problem and shes almost 3!

Ashley - posted on 07/18/2011

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i found that me daughter was more willing to pick up her toys if i helped her. we would sing a song to help her to make it fun and they i would congrat her on a good job. eventually i wouldnt have to help her anymore all i would do was ask her and she would do it on her own. she still does it on her own now but every now and than she asks he to help her. when i notice its starting to get messy then i tell her to tidy up a bit before she plays with anything else because it will be alot to pick up later. if i help her and she doesnt help me then i tell her i will throw them in the garbage because if she doesnt want to help, then that means she doesnt want them. that usually helps but if not then i put them in a bag with her watching and put it in the kitchen until she is sleeping and hide them for a bit.

Maren - posted on 07/17/2011

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It helps to be very specific: pick up your red truck and put it in the basket. At they age they really don't understand what clean up means or how to go about it so if you tell him step by step it teaches him how to do it. And also having him see you do it with him and telling him what you are doing.

Olivia - posted on 07/17/2011

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Babies love helping out mom and dad, sit down and sing a song about picking up or cleaning up and start by picking up a toy or two, then try handing toys to them and you continue singing or saying clean up. Make sure you show them how happy you are they are cleaning up. This is what I did with my daughter for the past month or so she is now 18 months.

Tessa - posted on 07/17/2011

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DS is expected to help pick up his toys. We get down and help him, and make it a fun time, even a learning time. Telling him to pick up certain colors, shapes etc. If he doesn't pick up his toys, he is disciplined. If he does help, he's rewarded with praise and sometimes a treat (fruit, juice..).

You can make it a race of who can do it the fastest, etc.

Nicole - posted on 07/17/2011

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Making a game definitely helps, singing a song that you can make up too. And doing hand over hand pickup in the beginning to help him. It will take time, but eventually it happens. Just make it a daily routine.

Amanda - posted on 07/17/2011

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What I did with my son was I got him a Cars toy box( he loves Cars) and I would clean up with him for about a month then I asked him to do it himself then I would give him a sticker...then just eventually he would clean up himself before bed...it just became a routine

Michelle - posted on 07/17/2011

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My son is 18 months old and he puts away all his toys, puts the laundry in his basket (he LOVES that it makes him feel great and he claps and giggles and says "good job" after haha.), sometimes he will put his dishes in the sink or on the counter and if he finds something on the floor he will put it in the garbage. He just feels so good to be able to help with the little things so I just make a huge deal whenever he does anything and then he does even more. The laundry is his newest thing and we have to be careful what he takes because he will go into my dresser and get clothes to put in the laundry haha. I always clap for him and say thank you and good job or what a big boy you are. He loves it. When he first started putting his toys away he would only put the toys away that went into bins and not on the shelves so we bought more bins for him and now he knows which bins are for what and will fix it if he puts something away wrong. I think he also likes the sound of the toys falling into bins. The most important thing to remember is to make it fun, don't make it into a chore and always praise them for doing it. I also run a dayhome and with the older kids we sing the clean up song.

Teresa - posted on 07/16/2011

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my son is 16 months and i ask him "can you help me?" and he gets a big smile and help put away toys. he is very proud of himself when i smile really big and say "thank you! you are so helpful, look atr our nice clean room!"
make it fun and offer lots of praise. if it feels like a "chore" he won;t do it.

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We sing the clean up song and make a game of it. I say, "Let's pick up FAST!" and we pick up as fast as we can. Then I say, "Let's pick up SLOW!" and we move as slow as we can. I also count and see if she can pick up the toys before I get to a certain number (depending on how many toys are out). I also have a rule that she can't take out a new toy until the first is put away...but that doesn't always happen. Of course, my kid is 3 and we've been working on this for a while now.

Maggie - posted on 07/14/2011

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My 19 month old son copies everything I do so i started asking him to help me pick his toys up a few months ago. He'll now put half of them away, so its a good start

Jodi - posted on 07/14/2011

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At this age, he won't do it himself. You need to help him and make it part of the daily routine. In time, he will be able to do it himself, but at this stage, it's a bit much to expect him to do it on his own.

Kiley - posted on 07/14/2011

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Do it with him, song the clean-up song and have him help show you where he got things from and where they live. It can also be very helpful to post pictures of the toy bin filled with cars and the book shelf filled with books etc so that he can look at the pic and match the clean-up process to that image.

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