how can i get my two-month old to take the pacifier?!

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Brandi - posted on 12/30/2009

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For anyone that has had a child that would literally scream and cry for hours on end with nothing that could be found to soothe them, these people understand how necessary pacifiers can be. It's easy to say pacifiers aren't necessary when you have a baby that doesn't fuss much or is easily consolable. Until you've walked in another mom's shoes and been on the verge of nervous breakdowns cuz you can't calm your child down, you have no idea what it's like. These mothers shouldn't feel guilty for using pacifiers. They're not any harder to break than sippy cups or security blankets or anything else.

Tessa - posted on 12/27/2009

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You could try different kinds but it's possible that your child just doesn't need it. My theory with soothers is that if they spit it out they obviously weren't sucking that hard on it. And kids do just fine without it. Lots of moms never use it and they are just fine with it. It also become a crutch for some moms. "just give him the suckie so he stops crying" instead of finding the reason behind the cries or fussiness.

Tami - posted on 01/02/2010

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try putting a little somthing on there dummy, bit of tea, even water. I'd much rather my daughter have a dummy than suck her thumb or fingers, as you can take the dummy away, there stuck with fingers lol xx

Meredith - posted on 01/02/2010

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If i were you I wouldn't push the passy... I work at a daycare and i see all kinds of children and children that still have passies when they are 4... I didn't want my child to have one but i brest fead in the hospital and they said she just liked the sucking sinsation so they gave her one... That is one of the hardest things to get rid of... thank goodness that my child finally got rid of hers by 3... And then when i was trying to get rid of it grandparents and other people would give it to her so it made it more frustrating... i would try nything else that you can think of maybe a little more milk she isn't getting completely full... or a teething ring... i know that she might be a little young to teeth but there gums can still bother them that early...

Chrissy - posted on 01/01/2010

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I can honestly say, If they don't want it, don't force it on them. My daughter used a soothie until she was about 4 months old, but she gave it up on their own. Some babies just don't like them. I would just try to find another way to soothe her.

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Laci - posted on 01/02/2010

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Well my daughter uses her pacifier at bedtime and it really does seem to soothe her but, she will not take the orthodontic nipples at all on anything bottles or pacifiers so they have to be the straight kind. Try using a different kind of nipple. Some babies will not take pacifiers at all my parents said that when I was a baby I wouldn't take one at all so just keep in mind that there are other things that will help soothe them!

Tasha - posted on 01/02/2010

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some babies do not want to take a pacifier mine had it when she was in the hospital and she been sucking on it ever since. Some times they don't want to take them, my two nephews when they where babies did not take them at all. what all of the pacifiers have you tried giving your two-month old? mine only sucks i certain one and not the others maybe you just haven't found the old they like.

Jodi - posted on 01/02/2010

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I too say why. If ur baby doesn't want it then don't force it on them. Pacifiers equal parent laziness.

Talia - posted on 01/02/2010

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DON'T! lol My daughter never really loved pacifiers and around 3 months decided she wanted nothing to do with one which was fine with me. Unless you have a really colicky baby, I would suggest waiting it out for another couple of weeks until your baby finds its hands and can suck on those. If you are worried about germs then wipe your baby's hands often and ask people not to touch baby's hands. Pacifiers are always being dropped and needing to be washed. They are really a pain so if you can avoid using one and not have to deal with weaning baby from the paci when it gets older, you'll be be glad you did!

CHRISTINA - posted on 01/02/2010

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I would just stop trying, it's good they don't want it. I gave it to my son when I had him and I regret it because it is so hard to get him to break from it.

Erin - posted on 01/02/2010

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Quoting Nicole:

My son is 2mo. and i would love him to take a pacifier only because he always wants something to suck on. I rather him suck a pacifier than his fingers because of germs. I tried every pacifier on the market, and he refuse to take one so i gave up.


Why would you want your child to suck on plastic full of chemicals rather than something natural.  A little germs isn't going to hurt, it is necessary to build a strong immune system.



 

Michelle - posted on 01/02/2010

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don't i gave a pacifier to my two oldest when they were first born because i didn't want them to suck there thumbs and it took my older one till she was over 2 to get rid of it we ended up having to take it away from our son at the same time cause she would steal his my youngest one we never gave it to her and she slept through like 9 hours a night by 3 months

Madilyn - posted on 01/02/2010

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Sometimes babies just dont want them. My son only used his sparingly for a few weeks and doesnt take it anymore. If you really want your baby to take the pacifer, try putting "gripe water" on it. That worked for my son when I REALLY wanted him to take one. You can find "gripe water" in any drug store in the baby section.

Becca - posted on 01/02/2010

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my sister's baby never took one. It just makes it so much easier to break them from a pacifier if they dont have one! I broke my 5 month old of a pacifier because pediatricians discourage use after 6 months. it was a lot of crying for a whole day. So use toys to calm her and feel lucky!

Rebecca Lynn - posted on 01/02/2010

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Yeah def go with what Tammy says I tried dipping my Sons soother in some thing but couldn't convince him but it could work for you just keep trying oh and maybe try diff brands and what not, my daughter hates silicone soothers will only take the brown tipped ones. I've gone through alot with Logan sucking his fingers he is 5 now and in Junior Kindergarten and the first month of school he caught Pin Worms from another student at school because he was sucking his fingers and touching things. Next month the dentist is putting in a little device that will stop him from being able to suck on them.

Amy - posted on 01/02/2010

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hello hun my name is amy and my baby girl would not take a pacifer so i asked my doctor wat i could do . she told me to get this cream call grins& giggles infanr tooth& gum cleanser and put a littel on the pacifer so i did now my daughter loces her pacifer is works believe me ...... try it and let me know ...

Monica - posted on 01/02/2010

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don't worry about it, both my two sons never used them. my youngest just turned 5 months. he puts his hole hand in his month or uses other things

Monica - posted on 01/02/2010

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don't worry about it, both my two sons never used them. my youngest just turned 5 months. he puts his hole hand in his month or uses other things

Rebecca Lynn - posted on 01/02/2010

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I had this problem with my son he took it till about 2 mo and then tossed it and that was the end of it, now he is 5 and still sucks his fingers, I have to take him to the dentist next month to have a device put in his mouth to make it impossible to get suction with the fingers. My 1yr old daughter took a soother tho.

Tiffany - posted on 01/02/2010

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my son never wanted the pacifier he is 4 months and wont let me get one near his mouth.. he just wants his bibs and hands in his mouth

Jordan - posted on 01/02/2010

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WHY FORCE A PACIFIER ON A CHILD THERE IS NO REASON FOR IT!!!!!!!!!! Im gonna have to put out a blunt opinion here and say why would you want to when you are gonna have to turn around and ween the child off of that and sometimes thats worse than potty training. Besides some kids just dont like a pacifier.

Erika - posted on 01/01/2010

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If she wants it, she will take it. My daughter didnt really use hers in the beginning. And she only likes the one kind... She is over a year now, and still uses it. Mainly in the car, and when she naps and goes to bed at night. She has started sucking her thumbs and fingers, I think cuz she is teething. When she does that I will give her the pacifier. Why? Cuz I can take that away, but not her fingers!

Julieanna - posted on 01/01/2010

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Ok ,so I do agree with a lot of the ladies on here about it being difficult to wean off of when it is time.however, I think that you also have to take into account that pediatrician approved pacifiers reduce the risk of SIDS by 99%. Thats the main reason I got my girl to take one. and she didn't want one at first either. Plus, it helps to strengthen their sucking when they are infants. I just weaned my two and a half year old off of her bink. I just slowly took it out of the equation by only letting her have it when she slept. then, she started to chew holes into it. I told her if she chewed holes in the next one, she wouldn't get anymore. She took longer to fall asleep the next couple nights, but she was fine after that. Doesn't ask for it or anything. Her bink was very important because of medical issues she has. So I guess I'm saying, for me, knowing that I was reducing the chance of SIDS by that much, made it worth it. And if you do it right, the weaning can be done.

Michelle - posted on 01/01/2010

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Don't force it. My daughter hated the pacifier from day 1 and my son is the complete opposite. I know its hard when they r crying/screaming and you just want a moment of quiet, but if you continue to push the pacifier you will kick yourself later.

Michelle - posted on 01/01/2010

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Don't force it. My daughter hated the pacifier from day 1 and my son is the complete opposite. I know its hard when they r crying/screaming and you just want a moment of quiet, but if you continue to push the pacifier you will kick yourself later.

Danielle - posted on 01/01/2010

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i wouldnt push it. there is no reason to try to make them. there are other ways to sooth the gums, try a warm washrag or teething toys. pacifers are a hard habit to break. thank God my kids were never fans of them.

Amy - posted on 01/01/2010

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i wanted my son to take one so bad when he was little, but now he's 9 months and still doesn't want anything to do with it. he doens't grouch unless his teeth hurt and then i get him orajel or tylenol a nd he doens't seem to miss it. he only chews on his hands when he's getting teeth. i just figure it's one less thing to deal with. so i guess in answering the original question - you can't. either they want it or they don't.

Mindy - posted on 01/01/2010

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babies will only take pacifiers if they want to and your baby probably doesn't want to. which is a good thing cause then you won't have to wean your baby off of it.

Jacinda - posted on 01/01/2010

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its ok if they dont want to take it... my oldest who is now5 she wouldnt take one either she hated them..... so never botherd... but then my youngest whos just gone 1 has one all the time... but omg it is annoying we are for eva looking for the dam thing dosnt matter how many u buy you always lose them and some nites she will wake up screaming and u gotta get up and go in the dark and try and look for the dam thing...so i reakon you better off not having one.... hope it all works out for ya.....

Cherylene - posted on 01/01/2010

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My two month old also wont take his pacifier, he wants to suck his fingers. Im worried he will keep sucking his fingers when he is older. With pacifier you can throw it away but you cant do that with their fingers.

Pamela - posted on 01/01/2010

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My son doesn't take them either. I've tried the hospital kind, latex, and silicone ones but he prefers his hand. I wouldn't worry to much about it.

Veronica - posted on 01/01/2010

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My daughter needed one because my milk flow was too strong and she couldn't comfort suck at the breast. But in those early days they still have the tongue thrust reflex so they spit it out without trying to. I just kept giving it back to her and when I held her I would help her by holding it for her or sticking it back in when she cried for it. Don't try to attach it to them. My sis-in-law thought they were cute and wanted hers to suck a passy so she made an elastic thing to hold it in. Yikes, choking hazard! If your baby wants it just be dilligent and if they don't want it, eventually you will know. I'd keep trying to give it until that reflex goes away, ususally when they start swallowing thier solid food. Then you will see if baby really wants it. I use Mam brand from WalMart or they are at Target too. They go in stages to fit baby's mouth and if you are breastfeeding they are a better shape so not to confuse baby with nipples. Nuk brand are shaped the way a nipple is NOT supposed to look after a breast feeding so baby learns to latch wrong = pinched nipples. Also, don't worry about pacifier use and teeth... there are new studies that say that's old info. Thumb sucking on the other hand is related to tooth movement. So paci is a good thing! It's your choice mama... Good luck :)

Fatima - posted on 01/01/2010

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What worked amazingly for my little one, was honey!

Every time I needed him to take it, I would dip it slightly in some honey, and he'd suck on it for hours..

Only needed to do that for a few days, before he was loving it! Good Luck!

Louise - posted on 01/01/2010

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Quoting Tah:

my pet peeve is seeing a child taller than me in a store with a binky..that and them being in a stroller they can hop out and push...



I know this isn't a post about it, but it drives me mad too!  Especially having to wait for bus after bus because people won't make their precious 4 year old walk!  I saw one in a school uniform in a pram...why?!

Michelle - posted on 01/01/2010

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Dont force it!!!! Your baby knows what she wants and does not want! My son hated pacifiers. He is 11 months now and Im loving every minute of him not taking the pacifier. Sorry but I think its TERRIBLE when I go to a store and see a 2-3 year old with a pacifier in their mouth. Trust me. It all depends on the baby. You should be happy. Its one thing you wont have to break her of!

Renee - posted on 01/01/2010

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I dont think your bubba wants it if by 2 months they havnt taken it! I forced my now 2 yr old to take the dummy from advice from family and it ended up being more trouble than its worth! He was completly hooked and had to have heaps in the cot because he couldnt settle himself without it and would wake all night looking for it! ARGGGGG! also in the car and shops he HAD to have it! I spent most of the time looking to see where he had lost it and buying more if I forgot to take one out with us, I had a huge stash my the end of it all and as he got older and started with tantrums he would throw them! We have now taken them away and he is actually a lot happier and calmer without it. Think we have started a bird fobia now though because we told him the birdies came and flew away with them! now we play spot the birds with dummies as we drive along. so If i was to have a 3rd bubba I wouldnt make my baby take it if they didnt want to, only because of the dramas it caused in the long run. The only thing is that I dont know of many other settling techniques other than the dummy and wrapping? that will be another learning curve!

Becky - posted on 01/01/2010

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If your child doesn't want one, don't try to get him to start!!! Its a horrible thing to break once you do start!! My son who is now 3 had one till he was 2 and it was a nightmare. I have a 4 month old now and we used the Soothie brand for a few weeks, but now he won't take one and I am so happy! I won't even try to get him to take one anymore!! When he was taking one, we got him the Pacipals. they are little stuffed animals that are attached to the the Soothie pacifiers. He loved those, he could hold on to it and I didn't have to worry about it constantly falling out of his mouth while he was in the car. Nothing worse than trying to find a paci while your driving!! He now just likes holding on to a soft blanket while he goes to sleep. Something to keep his hands occupied.

Sharmaine - posted on 12/31/2009

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just dont give ur baby one both my babies never had one, my youngest sometimes sucks his thumb...i know heaps of people that have heaps of trouble getting their children to get rid of it.. and it is not good for teeth!

Courtney - posted on 12/31/2009

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Try going to wubbanub.com and see if they will take that cause then they will have something to cuddle with =]

PRECIOUS - posted on 12/31/2009

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When my son was that young he wouldnt take a passy so I just never gave it to him. If he wants it then he would have already taken it. I suggest playing with the baby or buying some new toys for your little one. It is okay if your little one dosent want the passy.

Jen - posted on 12/31/2009

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My baby is 2 months as well and she took it before but now she would rather suck on her hands. Some babies just don't like the pacifier and they use other means to soothe themselves

Nadine - posted on 12/31/2009

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I planned never to give my daughter one but when she had to stay in the hospital they didnt give me a choose so I limited it to naps and bed time then at 6 and a half to 7 months I took it away. She is now 8 months and doesnt even remember having it in the first place.

Cristina - posted on 12/31/2009

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you could try different kinds of pacifiers i would try too many just incase if your baby doesnt take the first maybe 2 or 3 then he/she just doesnt want it. my daughter loves her pacifier its how i get her to sleep but my brother doesn't like them. he used them when he felt like it which was mainly when he was in his carseat. so if your baby doesn't take it then he/she just doesn't want it which is ok there are always other things to pacify your baby.lol

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if they won't take it, theres really no way to force them.
my son stopped taking the pacifier at 5 months.
it was the only thing that put him to sleep until then, after that i just had to find another way to soothe him.

Lindsay - posted on 12/31/2009

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My 11 month is very fussy with his soothers! there is only one soother he will suck... i wouldnt be pushed on the soother if he/she wants it they will let you know... Every baby is different some will not sleep without them and some will...

Kimberly - posted on 12/31/2009

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My daughter never really took to it from day one, and shes een ok with it since havnt seen any delays either, guess some just take it and some dont, good luck!!

Briana - posted on 12/31/2009

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Don't force it! Count your blessings dear. If she doesn't want one now then you don't have to worry about taking it from her later on. My 2 yr still takes one at bedtime and it drives me CRAZY. lol. She freaks when we can't find it! And it took FOREVER to work it down to just bedtime. My son however was not interested in a paci and he is fine without it.

Maysa - posted on 12/31/2009

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ok. this is all great advice

and im glad i got to see different points of view on the matter

its just that he's my first baby, and im still trying to get used to.. well.. motherhood in general..

im breastfeeding, and i was getting tired with putting him on my breasts whenever he needed comfort, or to simply fall asleep..

i like the seahorse suggestion :)

again, thank you moms!

Brittany - posted on 12/31/2009

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It's so hard to take from a baby! It's good that your baby doesn't want it! LOL!

Kelsey - posted on 12/31/2009

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Quoting Wendy:



Quoting Claudia:

put a little honey on it . but yur baby doesnt need it my kids kids got off of it before6 weeks, wouldn't take it back, try to comfort your baby some other way, a rattle, music, or a blanket.






my son is 10 wks old and has a strong sucking instinct (currently i have three hickies on my arm and two on my breasts..LOL) but doesn't really like the pacifier. if he is tired fussy and doesn't want to eat i let him suck on my knuckle until he falls asleep.






PLEASE do not put honey on the pacifier. babies should never have honey because it can cause a severe allergic reaction. you really shouldn't put anything but breastmilk or formula on the pacifier.






Good Luck!





It causes botulism which is a very serious illness and can even kill them!

Delia - posted on 12/31/2009

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My advice, if your baby doesn't want the pacifier don't force it. My son took it for a short while but indtroduce three week after he was born and gave it only to calm him down only when needed. Today, he won't take it to suck on at all, and if he does it's for chewing on.LOL! My nephew is a year and a half old and his parents are having a hell of a time trying to weaning off it. Consider yourself luckly, I know, I do.

Wendy - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Claudia:

put a little honey on it . but yur baby doesnt need it my kids kids got off of it before6 weeks, wouldn't take it back, try to comfort your baby some other way, a rattle, music, or a blanket.



my son is 10 wks old and has a strong sucking instinct (currently i have three hickies on my arm and two on my breasts..LOL) but doesn't really like the pacifier. if he is tired fussy and doesn't want to eat i let him suck on my knuckle until he falls asleep.



PLEASE do not put honey on the pacifier. babies should never have honey because it can cause a severe allergic reaction. you really shouldn't put anything but breastmilk or formula on the pacifier.



Good Luck!

Mary - posted on 12/30/2009

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It seemed like my son always wanted to eat, but it was that he needed to suck which is very comman the doctors say. I tried 4 different pacifier's and he would not take them, the only one that I found that he took and that he enjoys is the soothie pacifier.

User - posted on 12/30/2009

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Some kids just don't want the pacifier. During the day my son would not take it alot, so I didn't force it. It was much easier to get rid of at 4 months old then. Honestly he doesn't need the paci. My son prefered his fingers too, and we washed our hands alot, but it was better than shoving a pacifier in his mouth. I also am more in tune with his needs now without the paci.

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