How can I help my child lose weight w/out hurting her feelings? She is being picked on at school!

Wendy - posted on 07/10/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




She is over weight compared to other children.. There have been kids calling her fat and it is making her very depressed. She is always wanting to eat. If I tell her not now she will cry and kick and scream. She is only 6yrs old. I don't know what to do!

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Veronica - posted on 07/12/2010




Talk to her. My daughter is 7, she is the same way - she wants to eat and eat. Give her some fiberous things to eat. If she wants to eat all day -- slice up and prepare lots of varieties of vegetables -- you can literally eat as many vegetables as you want --- they are loaded with fiber and nutrients. Throw in a few servings of fruit (not soo much watermelon or canteloupe - they are empty fruits) for sweetness. Nuts, and beans are perfect as well for filling a tummy up - that are also loaded with nutrients and fiber.

I sent you a message about a program that explains these things - a lifestyle, not a diet.

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Count calories for her!

How many calories does an average 6 year old girl need?

Calorie requirements for children depend on their gender and activity level, as well as their age. The average six year old girl needs 1200 calories at a sedentary activity level, 1400 calories for moderate activity, and 1600 calories for the most active child. The average six year old boy needs 1400, 1600 and 1800 calories for the same activity levels. The parent's job is to prepare healthy food, provide regular meals and snacks, ban grazing in-between, and make eating times pleasant. Children are responsible for how much food they eat. A well-feed child will grow at a predictable rate.

Joanna - posted on 07/11/2010




Don't allow her to eat junk. If she wants to eat, fine, just offer her healthy snacks and let her know that's it. Get her used to eating fruits and veggies. Don't give in just because she throws a fit, that's not good for her health, and it's not good for her to get what she wants all the time.

Tiffany - posted on 07/11/2010




Try and make it an entire family thing. The whole family is to eat better and be healthier. That way it doesnt seem like you are targeting her. Maybe make a schedule for when its time to eat. Only certain times for snacks and if its between times you have to wait.
I know its hard to only buy the healthy things, but if the treats arent there then she cant get to them.

Kelina - posted on 07/10/2010




She needs to listen when you tell her no, that's not up for debate. It sucks that she's being teased, so when you tell her no, no snacks, make sure it's not about her weight. Tell her you don't want her to ruin her dinner, or she just finished a meal she can wait a little bit. Get her interested in other things so she's not thinking constantly about food. Also i agree wtht he other ladies, don't keep junk in the house. Make sure it's fruits and vegetables, yogurt, even trail mix, and always help her portion it out. Don't let her do it herself, kids will always pour too much. Again, tell her you don't want her to ruin her dinner/lunch, etc. Is there anyway you can enroll her in a sport? like swimming or soccer or seomething else, that will get her involved with kids her own age, get her exercising, and again get her mind off of food. It will give her an alternative to do when she gets angry or upset. And talk to ehr about what the kids at school say. Now my question is-is she actually overweight according to the BMI? If she's not then tell her that! Explain that just becasue she doesn't look like the little girls at school that's ok! Everyone is different and she is perfectly healthy. I also thin Rachel has a good point get the whole family involved in exercise. If everyone is changing their lifelstyle, she won't think it's becasue she's fat. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 07/10/2010




i think the best thing to do is give her more fruit and veg and get her doing more exercize, like playing in the garden or even helping you with the house work just kee her active and healthy, and hopefully she will start to lose some weight, have plaenty of healthy things she can snack on ready, but o the other side it might just be "puppy fat" and she will lose it naturaly anyway! if its realy getting her and you down, you could always go to the docters and see a dietitian!

kids are so cruel nowadays, i know cuz i was a "fat" kid, my mum told me that the other kids were jelouse cuz they were so skinny and didnt have the nice stuff i did, n that cheered me up when i was her age lol
as for her tantrums, you might just have to be a bit strick with her!
best wishes and love to you both tho hunni xx

Rachel - posted on 07/10/2010




Have healthier snacks in the house. dont have any junk in the house at all. I hope it helps. sorry that she is being picked on. And another idea is to not just worry about her diet but also excercise like maybe the family go bike riding or for a walk. to get everyone involved and not make her feel like she is being singled out. and also explain to her that everyone's bodies are different and she may not be as thin as everyone else. good luck

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