How can I push my daughter to want to be potty trained?

Candace - posted on 02/10/2010

potty training in a day and potty training 1-2-3 are good books to read for ideas. good luck!

Ashley - posted on 02/09/2010

Hello Cassandra

Im actually in school right now taking a class on child development. One thing that we talked about in class was potty training and how to be successfull with it. I have used this to in helping my neice and plan on it when my daughter arrives. Try hyping up the potty to her like " Oh were gonna be a big girl and grown up and go to the bathroom on the potty!" show excitement and happiness to her saying it and then tell her everytime you go on the potty give her a sticker and put it on a chart and do it for about two weeks and tellher if she has 10 stickers on the chart by the end of the week or two you do it she will get something from it. It gives her motivation to do it and teaches her to work at things at the same time and she will gain the attention and happiness from you that she may be lookin for. Trust me if it doesnt work there are plenty of other ways. If she feels motivated to do it and then realizes hey i get this out of doing this it must be a good thing to go on the potty. She will eventually understand and get use to not going on herself and wont really like it when she does. Dont get discouraged if she doesnt do it everytime tho.. It will happen i say 2 weeks is a good legnth to try it out and if that doesnt work switch to something else but show her praise and motivation when she does it. When she doesnt just tell her " well we will have to do it next time. we gotta make sure you get that prize at the end of the two weeks." Kids feed off of our emotions as well. If we show we are frustrated they will be. If we show anger they will show anger. I hope it helps and hope you try it!! let me know!!

Ashley G.

Hanna - posted on 02/09/2010

I agree with Christine. this whole issue arises from kids being comfortable in the diapers -- the whole dry when wet thing is great for us parents, while the baby is young, but it also takes away the sensation of going to the bathroom. we (me and my two younger siblings) were potty trained as soon as we started to walk. and the way my mom did it was take away the diaper. and you go with your baby -- first you show them what happens on the toilet (potty), then you take them there pretty much every 15-20 minutes. and sometimes you catch it, sometimes you don't. when the baby goes in the potty, it needs to be a big deal (positively!) and when they don't they need to feel the discomfort of wetting/soiling the underwear. i'm not saying let them sit in it for 30 minutes, but they need to feel uncomfortable (3-4 minutes, provided that they're not outside) to trigger the realization that when they want to go, they need to run to the potty.

also, make sure that sitting on the potty is not a game, otherwise the whole process is out of the window because all they want to do is sit and play rather than go. my son is about to turn 1 at the end of the month and one of the things he's getting for his bday is a potty.

one more thing, you might need to switch the potty your daughter is currently using. go to the store and let her pick out the potty that she wants and start all over. it might be that the current potty is now a negative thing for her and if you get a new one, it'll be different. good luck!

Monica - posted on 02/09/2010

My son waited til he was three. It sometimes comes down to stubborness. I made it so not using the potty was a big inconvience. I put him in regular underwear and when he messed up his britches i bathed him and took away all his toys til he would go in the potty. once he did that, he could have them back. he was using the potty with in a week, and now a month later he goes without even needing me in there

Sarah - posted on 02/09/2010

i could use some info to my daughter is 5 now and she is still wetting she is fine at school its when she is at home thats the problem.

Keturah - posted on 02/09/2010

girrrl i have da same issue!! yessss my daughter was all into it for 2 weeks and just stop all together. so i try something new. first things first how much water or juice she cosuming a day? what i tried differntly is to control her drinking habits and cut it down, i use to let her have the sippy cup in da bed and just always leave the sippy cup on the counter full of milk or juice and she just drink drink drink like nothing. you have to get her in the habit of drinking afther she eats all of her food and thats it! like dont give her her cup or leave it out at all, she'll be jus fine. if she have a little snack in between u give her not even half full cup of water......this is very importian too...right afther she done drinking her cup and you put her on the potty and tell her that she a big girl. when she gose reward her and praise her. for example my kid love m&m so i tell her hay u want those bag of m&m and she would say yes and i would tell her okay then use the potty then u can have them,lol:)
hope this helps
now im down to 2 diapares a day because i make her go in the morning and i would put on a new one afther that and when lunch pass by ill make her go again and she would still be dry until nap time when she get up at nap time i change it again(still working on da get up and pee) then snack and dinner time comes and she still dry until she sleep, at least it some progress and i happy with it so give it a try:)

Catherine - posted on 02/09/2010

it is a controll thing trust me i have had 3 and my daughter did the same thing. make her change her own pull ups. after we did that for a while we took them away and refused to give them back. when she seen that she didnt have controll she started useing the potty. also dont put her in pull up at bed. you might have to wash more but if you give them to her she will think that it is ok to use them