How come I'm still not in the mood for sex?

Tara - posted on 03/05/2013

Me and my husband ( 5 years married) always had sex and then went on the pill it slowed down but not to bad but once I had our son then went back on the pill when he was 3 months and it was totally GONE...!! And it got to the point where he thought it was him. I never thought anything of it thinking it was me after the baby. This went on for about 1 1/2year and having sex about 1 maybe 2 times a month wasn't working. So I talked with a girlfriend who to say it nice has had ALOT of men and after her son she was going threw the same thing with the PILL.. so she got off of it and got a iud and now she is great. So I got fed up and stop taking the pill. After 2 months I am 100% back to normal. We are now about 4-6 times a week. I would never go back on the pill ever again. After my son it wasn't good for me. I hope this helps.. I know when I was going threw the no sex drive I thought there was something wrong with me and that I was the only one..!!
Hope this helps

Jen - posted on 02/26/2012

Yes emma paraguard is the copper iud. You could also check out the FAM method of birth control.

Stifler's - posted on 02/25/2012

It is non hormonal? The pill has a lot of good pouints for me that's all my snail trail hasnt grown back and my skin has cleared right up

Jen - posted on 02/25/2012

Have you considered and IUD like paraguard emma?

Stifler's - posted on 02/19/2012

I agree with Joanna I used to have a raging sex drive and now..... nothing. Damn the pill!

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2012

I had the same problem after I had my third child. I was just so tired. My husband actually talked to me about it because it was bothering him. So after that I told myself i do want to have sex. I do want my husband to be happy. I am in the mood. Having the positive attitude really helped no matter how tired I was. The result was were have been having the best sex and we have been together for 9 1/2 years. For the not feeling very sexy is how I felt too. I also lost most of the weight I gained while I was pregnant by working out which is also hard to try and find the time to do it but it was worth it. You are not alone. Hopefully some of this helps. Good Luck!

Kay - posted on 02/18/2012

It can take a while to get back in the swing. "Fake it 'til you feel it" is a good strategy--a lot of times your body will take over and do what comes naturally.



Everyone has body issues after having a baby. It's totally natural. But those changes that you see are because you carried his child, and at least for my fiancé, that is apparently irresistible. So often we don't feel comfortable talking about these things with our partners, but he's truly your biggest ally when it comes to seeing yourself as sexy again--so I would definitely let him know if you aren't feeling attractive.



Breast feeding causes hormone changes. If you are taking any birth control with it, that can exacerbate things. I'd you are feeling depressed or unhappy overall, that can hurt your drive too.



I would definitely bring it up to your doctor the next time you have an appointment. Like suggested below, it can help to rule out medical reasons. I don't know if I would make a special trip for it, but that would be entirely up to you.



Good luck!

Chrystal - posted on 02/18/2012

Breastfeeding lowers ovulation hormones which lowers your sex drive so that's maybe why you aren't in the mood plus well being a mom is exhausting and not real sexy. My youngest is 8 months and what I did was fake it I put on the outfits I know my husband finds sexy even though I'm not totally happy with how I look in them right now and I think about what he sees when he looks at me and that is a sexy woman. I tried to be more open to my husbands affection I didn't automatically say no because I wasn't in the mood at the beginning sometimes it's just I was to stressed from mommy duty to think about if I was in the mood. Doing both those things have helped keep the connection with my husband and as time went on I felt more in the mood and now I'm even the one starting stuff at times again. Also I talked with my husband and let him know that since having children things in the bedroom had changed for me and I was having troubles and he was really understanding and would give extra attention when I needed it that didn't have an end goal of having sex. I'd suggest making an appointment with your doctor just to be sure it's not medical though. Good luck it's something really common for women so don't feel like your alone in feeling that way.

Firebird - posted on 02/18/2012

Are you on birth control? That stuff can kill a sex drive.