How did you know it was the perfect time to have a 2nd baby?

Fiona - posted on 10/18/2010

Hey, for the sake of you time it so 2nd baby is born when your one is 2. Ive wanted a 2nd since my girl was 2 months and shes now 19 months, we will start trying dec/jan time x

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2010

I went through the same thing! I went back and forth over and over and over again! It drove me mad! I am now expecting my second child in February. She is due 3 weeks before my son turns 6! I am nervous b/c it has been so long. I do know that it is the perfect time for me b/c it is the time that God has put this baby into my life. I miscarried last year extremely early on in the pregnancy and it tore my life apart...I had tried for so long to get pregnant and then when I finally did it was all over and I felt like that life was taken away from me and I wouldn't have ne more kids. I lost my position at my job first and then my job b/c I was too depressed to deal with my daily duties. I then became even more deperessed b/c they found the worst way to let me go. I then ruined the relationship I had worked so long to keep all b/c I couldn't handle it. Now I am in a relationship with someone I had been friends with since elementary and I never actually saw myself with. He is the greatest guy ever and the first month we tried I got pregnant and I was like WHAT!? LOL! I told him it might take a long time and not to get his hopes up at all and it might not even happen for us and I waited 2 weeks after my missed period to call the dr and then I took a test 2 days before my appointment. Turns out I was pregnant and I am now 23 weeks today! I would have really liked for them to be closer together, but my son is in Kindergarten, he is potty trained, we are working on other things and I no matter what I am HAPPY! Are lives are great and I couldn't have asked for anything better! It all happens when it is right and when it is suppose to! Just don't stress yourself. It will happen when you are ready...and you just have to decide where you want your first child to be at when the second is born. Do you want double diaper duty? or do you want your first to be potty trained? Do you want your first to be sleeping through the night every night before you try...and you shouldn't get discouraged when you are trying to get pregnant. It always seems to just happen when you aren't trying and then when you do try it just doesnt! I wasn't expecting to get pregnant at all when we started trying I refused to get my hopes and then get discouraged! Just know that the right time is different for everyone. Discuss it with your partner and set a goal...ne way Good Luck

Katie - posted on 10/18/2010

Thank you : ) I really think I am ready for another one sooner than later but me and my husband want it to be perfect time together where we both agree. So far that is January lol unless we change our minds

Monika - posted on 10/18/2010

@Heather, the perfect timing is different for everyone. If you feel like now is the time go for it. I had really bad depression when my daughter was born for about 6 months and I am waiting until my daughter, who is 19 months, is about 2 and half until we start trying for another one! I am still not able to fit into my old pants. Your baby is beautiful!

Jayde - posted on 10/16/2010

i would have gotten preg again when my daughter turned 1 if financially stable- but now we decided we will start trying so that they will be 3years apart. Any more than 3years & i wont get pregnant- i want them to be close in age :)

Laura - posted on 10/16/2010

when i found out i was pregnant with number two..lol my first was only 4 mos old

Danni - posted on 10/15/2010

my kids are 18months apart its a great age difference for them as they have someone to play with all the time but at the same time it really hard. but great to watch them learn things from each other. i was scared when i found out i was pregent with my 2nd child kept thinking can i do this what if i dont have enough time to look after both but once you have your 2nd it all falls in to place you get a new rotine and everyone gets used to. it really is great to have them close then they wont be jelous of each other as much and they dont get the idea that everything is always going to be about them all the time. hope this helps good luck

Heather - posted on 10/15/2010

My husband and I started talking about the timing of our second one pretty soon after my daughter was born (she's 6 months now.) We knew we wanted them within 2 years of each other, but i was having a lot of trouble accepting the shape I was in after going through my pregnancy, and wanted to be back in old pants before getting pregnant again.
I think for us setting a more physical goal was better. I don't want to start off from square two, so to speak. I want to be healthy and strong so I can have a healthy and strong baby. For a little while I wasn't losing any of the weight and thought it was going to be at least 18 months before we could undertake anything, but when i went back to work the weight started to drop off, and now it is looking like we could try as early as 9 months. (However, my brother and best friend are getting married in late sept/early oct and I don't want to be due at that point.) We are currently going between trying in Feb or in April. (in Feb we would have the baby in 2011 and get money for taxes, but have to pay into an insurance deductible a the end of the year and immediately wstart a new one - blech!)
In the end, we are going to stick our original goal - when I feel my body is healthy and in good enough shape to give another baby the best beginning I can, we are going to start talking about it. The rest we are leaving up to God. There may be the "perfect" time to have second one, but when it really comes down to it, whenever you have your second baby will be the perfect time to you, because it is the only time you could have gotten that particular child. I'm sure no one ever thought "wow, I would switch out my second child for someone else if her birthday were only two months later."