How do I break my son of the binky!?!?

Tammy - posted on 06/02/2010

You have to make it fun. ask him to get all of his binkys and put it in a baskit. Put a bollon on it and say look all of these binkys r goin to the binky fairey. After it is gone it will be hard but just sick with it.

Liz - posted on 06/01/2010

If you own your house, or are really good at patch jobs:



Glue it to the wall, and tell him if he wants it...there it is.



Or collect them all in a bag and hang them in a tree in your yard. Tell him the Binky Fairy is coming to get them and take them to babies, because he's growing up.



When he goes to bed, take the bag out of the tree. In the morning before you go out to see if the BF took them, hang a new toy in the tree and then take him out to see it.



(if you cant use a tree, just saw you live in a condo! You can do the same thing inside the house like on the kitchen table or where ever you would put Santa's cookies.)

Sarah - posted on 05/31/2010

Gradualy reduce the amount of time he has his binky. Try giving only during nap times and bed time and when he really, really needs it. During play time distract him with plenty things to do and play with and make sure the binky is out of sight when he doesnt have it.

Stefanie - posted on 05/30/2010

Forget the neighbors and worry about your child. My son is 14 months and we are going throught the same thing now. My son has to go every few months to see a developmental specialist because of a very tramatic birth but she advised that we start breaking him of the habit. My son came off the bottle easy at 9 months. At 12 months we started only allowing him to have the passie when he was in his bed in his room. Not at all throughout the day and at 15 months I am taking it away completely. It doesn't really bother me for him to cry because with the passie it slows them down developmentally. If he walks around with his mouth plugged all day long he will be less likely to try and talk. This is just my opinion but I wish you luck.

Jessica - posted on 05/29/2010

i gave my 2 oldest girls binkies. i took them away when they turned 2. they will cry an it does suck, every child is different. i say just take it away an let them cry. the other people in the building can just deal.

Stephanie - posted on 05/29/2010

MY SON IS GOING ON 8 MONTHS.. I HAD PLANNED FROM THE START NOT TO USE A PACI HOWEVER THE NURSES AT THE HOSPITAL BROUGHT HIM BACK INTO THE ROOM AFTER ONE OF HIS CHECK UP'S W/ ONE.. AND IS NOW GOING ON 8 MOS AND STILL USES IT "BUT" ONLY FOR BED TIME.. IT STAYS IN HIS CRIB IF HE WANTS IT HE GRABS IT AND IF NOT THEN HE DOESNT.. :o) I HOWEVER WANT TO BREAK HIM OF IT BY ONE YRS OLD.. I DID THIS FOR MY COUSINS SON, I JUST THREW THEM AWAY ONE BY ONE TIL HE COULDNT FIND ANYMORE.. AND THIS I WILL HAVE TO DO W/ MY SON AS WELL.. EASIER SAID THEN DONE.. HOWEVER THIS SOUNDS ROUGH BUT A FRIEND OF MINE PUT SOME SOUR TASTING STUFF ON HER SON'S PACI AND WHEN HE TASTED IT AND DID NOT LIKE IT HE TOLD MOMMY YUK NO MORE AND THREW IT OUT.. SO THATS WORTH A TRY IF ALL ELSE FAILS.. LOL BEST OF LUCK..

Capricia - posted on 05/29/2010

I had to do it on my own bc his dad is out of town on some business but i did it. It was hard bc i hated seeing him cry. i tried different stuff animal toys, teething ring, and blankets and nothing worked so i just let him cry until he stopped or went to sleep.

Capricia - posted on 05/29/2010

My son is 15 mos. and he been off his pacifier going on 3 weeks now. I did the same thing u did at first and gave in to his crying but i prayed about and the next day i just took him off cold turkey and he cried but mostly when it was time for bed time but i didn't give in. he finally cried himself to sleep in his crib or in my lap. After 3 days he was just fine.

Karmi - posted on 05/29/2010

Thanks everyone! My biggest problem is I don't have a supporter, it is just me and my son. So that is the hardest, because I don't have anyone to hand him off to. But when his dad was around, which is very little, he listens much better to him but he is in jail now. Anyways, I will try it cold turkey again, I'm just praying the screaming won't last too long!

Susan - posted on 05/29/2010

It's great that you are thinking of your neighbors and you should pat yourself on the back for that but they will have to shut up because you are trying to be a parent and your child comes first. This will only work cold turkey and be consistent. Your son is a human being, not a pet that you can just get rid of because he is being nuisance. (I live in condos too). It will seems endless and long but your son will eventually get off the binky.

My daughter was 17 months when I first took it from her and it was surprisingly easy. I just told her no and that she was a big girl and I never even threw it out. She would find it and pick it up and knew not to touch it. I thought I was going to be in for a fight because NOBODY couldn't mess with her binky. For about two to three months of taking the binky away, she would grind her teeth but she has now stopped.

My son was 8 months when I took it from him. He is VERY loud when he cries and screams and often times, I wish I never took it from him but he never really cared for it in the first place so it was fairly easy to take it. This time around, I threw all the binkys out.

Hubby and I got very lucky but this is one of those moments you grind your teeth and just tough it out and do it. I don't think it's a good idea to try to please them.. It will be over soon.

Good Luck.

Stacie - posted on 05/28/2010

We told my daughter that big girls do not use them and at the times that we knew she would want it, we would distract her or give her a carrot or something. I have no other tips b/c my second daughter just gave them up no problem. We were lucky!

Davine - posted on 05/28/2010

My daughter was broke of her bottle very young as well so i was very worried to take her binkie away as well. we put it off for a very long time and it was just too much with her talking around it and doing crazy tricks with it. She was like a "binkie master" Some moms may get all hot and bothered by what i am about to say, but in your situation where u live in a condo i dont see many other options. its hard to let ur child cry with ppl complaining and especially where it is bothering his teeth. So my advice is to bribe ur son. I did it with my daugher and it worked like a charm. there was dora movie she wanted very badly and we told her it was something she was going to have to earn. of course she looked at us funny, but we explained to her that if she wanted that movie she was going to have to give up her binkies. So we bought her the movie and she gave up the binkies. Now I'm thinking that this might be difficult with him being 15 mnths and all. But if there is a particular toy or something that u think might keep his interest i would get it! And maybe like trying to get smokers off cigarettes, when he is looking for his binkie u could replace it with those freeze push pops that way he has something to suck on but it is for a short time! But i would throw away most of them and just keep one just in case it is too unbearable. and even start weening him off of it, make them more difficult to find! Good luck though....binkies are tricky!!!

Brandy - posted on 05/28/2010

My husband is a tough one too, but (just as a personal preferance) I would never suggest it.
It is good that he offered to do it on his own though.

Amy - posted on 05/28/2010

Brandy: My husband is very tough. I would never suggest a mother do it on their own, but my husband insisted he do it and I'm so glad he spared me the tears (mostly on my side). :)

Brandy - posted on 05/28/2010

I would NEVER suggest that anyone do this on their own!

Amy - posted on 05/28/2010

I would suggest that perhaps he's a little young to have it taken away. My daughter had hers taken away at just shy of two years but at that point we were able to explain that she is a big girl who does not need it anymore. Two nights of her crying for it (I was away so my husband lived through the tears) and she asked for it once or twice bu is over it now. You might try going away for two days if your hubby or partner is able to stay with the baby and endure the crying. If your neighbors complain, just explain that this is a short term pain for long term gain.

Brandy - posted on 05/28/2010

Just make it gone. We HAD to take our son's because it was causing problems with his teeth that were coming in. Just keep strong. It helps to have a supporter with you durring this time and try to have a lot of "new" fun things for him to do. It will distract him from what is acually going on.