How do i get my 2 year old to stop biting and scratching when he doesnt get his way?

Kayly - posted on 11/10/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Everytime my almost 2 year old does not get his way....whether it be a cookie or a toy.....he always gets so mad at me or anybody who tells him no. He will come up to you and either scratch you or bite. And sometimes he doesnt even go up to the person who tells him no....it could just be the person closest to him! How do i get him to stop?

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Kristy - posted on 11/10/2010

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I have a son who is almost three... he has phased this out over the last 5-6 months.... All I ever did was let him know that I wouldn't tolerate it... If he wanted something and didn't get it and then smacked me or bit me.... He was always told.... you dont bite or you dont hit.. whatever was appropriate with his action and then he was not given any positive attention.... I would just try and drum it into his head that "only dogs bite" or "you dont smack/bite people" or "when you go to school they dont let you do that"... make them think about what they are actually physically doing..... but also explain that when they feel frustrated or angry it is ok... it's just not okay to deal with it like that....
It took a while of feeling like I was getting nowhere.... but consistency is the key.... :)

September - posted on 11/10/2010

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This is my opinion...biting back is not the way to go! How are you going to teach your child not to bite if you're biting them? Biting back teaches them nothing!

September - posted on 11/10/2010

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What works for our 2 year old son is offering options. When there is something that he wants but cannot have I offer two other options that are ok and ask him to choose one of the two options. It works every time without ever getting to the point of an all out tantrum. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 11/10/2010

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Absolutely don't start "popping" him in the mouth it only gives him the idea that hitting is ok. But even most peditrians will tell you that with some children bitting them back just hard enough that they understand that it hurt is enough to get them to stop. I have a 18 month old who's doing the same thing right now it's part of the terrible two's and every child goes through it. If your child is still in a crib my suggestion would to be to place him in the crib when he does this and frimly say "No Bitting/Scratching" and walk away for a few mins. come back when he's calmed down and reafirm no bitting and that you love him but you make the decisions not him

Tiffany - posted on 11/10/2010

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Timeout instantly, I have had to start biting my daughter back and or popping her in the mouth she stopped and now she just licks everything. You have to stand your ground and don't let him see that what he is doing gets to you.

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