Jennifer - posted on 01/27/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
I'm the parent who does EVERYTHING! My husband has even gotten me out of the shower or stopped me in the middle of cooking dinner to change our son's diaper! He is just there to play, and even then sometimes he's "too tired". His excuse is that I'm the stay at home mom and he leaves and goes to work each day. Most weeks it's 6 days and usually 12-15 hours a day. BUt what bothers me is that is was what we both wanted ... me to stay home and raise our children. I NEVER have time for myself. And until recently I've been pretty much okay with it, but now we're expecting #2 in late April/early May. Our son, who will be 2 in May, does help clean up after himself and is pretty well behaved. But he is also very rambunctious! Going on 7 months pregnant, it's very tiring for me to chase him around all day on top of keeping the house. One day last week I was kinda cranky and our son wasn't feeling too well and was cranky too. And my husband says "Why are you both in such bad moods? I'M the one who works all day long and you guys just sit around the house all day"! My argument was that I did 3 loads of laundry, washed the dishes, dusted, mopped, and vacuumed, AND entertained our son all day. And now I'm cooking dinner and still having to keep our son entertained while he was on the computer! He says "Oh, what was that?-- a whole 20 mins worth of work"? I may not thank him everyday for being the "bread-winner", but I NEVER belittle what he does or make him feel unappreciated for it. I don't know how to help him see that even when I don't get a lot of house work done I'm not just sitting on my butt all day. I don't know how to help him see that I need some me time too! I feel like I'm unappreciated and that I'm losing myself.