How do I get my kids to help keep the housework up? Have tried everything!

Jodi - posted on 01/29/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have given allowances and free computer time and movie day and game nights and you name it, I've tried it! Now I'm at the point of frustration, I just don't ask anymore! Very bad on my part!

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Rachel - posted on 01/29/2010

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Sometimes games work for us, but the best thing that we did was make a poster for our son's door that has the day's "schedule" on it, where it has free time, snack time, bath time, chore time, etc, he can go right to that and see what is next. When chore time comes, he picks from a list of 3 chores to do, when he fights it we say something like well it's on your sheet, nothing I can do about it. He takes that much easier then saying well, it's time for chores because I said so. Another thing that also worked on weekends for us was for him to make the chore list, he knew what needed to be cleaned for the most part, plus it helped with his spelling, because he had to write the list out.

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Jodi - posted on 02/01/2010

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We have tried the taking first. For instance my 12 yr old is really into his games. Well, anyone can take a ps2 and put it up. Not me though. I took the games and controllers until he cleaned his room. Worked 2x. Now. he just doesn't care. The game thing may work! Competetive? Deffinately. And I thank all who have helped.

Monica - posted on 01/29/2010

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i do the star rewards with my son when he helps clean up, but he's 3 1/2... i can't imagine him caring about the game when he's that much older! and i couldn't tell my kids that i'd take everything away, that's an empty threat and most kids would know it!

Sara - posted on 01/29/2010

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the game works for all ages really once they start young they keep going. if u start out when their out when their middle school age then its a job and if they don't do their job take away anything that they like or love most. tv games movies friends phone. anything, hide their toys even. my favorite if u don't clean up ur room i'm going to throw all ur stuff away. and if they don't bag it all up and hide it. when they start picking up for awhile give some back. bits at atime.

Erin - posted on 01/29/2010

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I'm not that far with mine yet, but my cousin has a 6-year-old who used to be a pain when it came to getting him to help with housework. She made a chore chart on a magnetic dry-erase board. She had daily ones like "Brush your teeth", "Make your bed", "Do your homework", "Help Mommy set the table", etc., and a few weekly ones like "Clean up your room". For each chore he did every day, he got a point. For each one he got a 7/7 for, he got a small prize like a fun-size candy bar. If he did all his chores for the entire week, he got something nice, like his favorite dinner. If he kept it up all month, he got a small Lego set, or something of that nature. Now, if he didn't do his chores, he got nothing and she took away TV. It worked for her, so you might give it a try. I hope that works for you, or you're able to find another solution, because I can understand how frustrating that can be. Good luck.

Monica - posted on 01/29/2010

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the playing thing is a good idea, but the older ones might be a bit too old for that? you know ur kids :)

Monica - posted on 01/29/2010

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maybe since u've been nice and GIVEN for the chores, now u can try TAKING AWAY?

i would say no to snacks they normally get (treats) if they don't clean up, or no friends allowed over, no tv until they do whatever...

Sara - posted on 01/29/2010

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i like to think mary poppins. Every job is a game. find a way to make the work or job seem like a game or make it look like fun. If they see u having fun or its a game they most likely will want to "play" so they can jump up an down saying i won i won!! i did that with my sis when it game time for our bed room cleaning. we ran about making a pile then we ran about puting it all away who ever got done first won. no prize just braging rights, and the satifaction of a clean room that we both shared.

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