how do i get my two year old of her pacifer?

Ashley - posted on 06/12/2010 ( 76 moms have responded )

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Isabella is attached to her pacifer she uses it like a child would use a blanky.. i try to only give it at nap time and bed time but she is almost three and everyone one says she needs to be off it now ??what do you think any tips?

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Karen - posted on 06/15/2010

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I tried dipping it in yucky stuff, tried hiding it, even cut the nipple off! My son wanted his binky! I have 3 kids now and the only thing that has ever helped was throwing it away when they aren't looking and telling a little white lie such as it got lost or something. They all screamed, threw major temper tantrums, and kept me up late for about 3 days then it was over. They forgot all about it. Never clung to anything else either. Well my daughter did because I used this cute blanky every chance I got. She clung to it for about 2yrs. Then she just got tired of looking for it all the time I guess. Or I stopped washing it as much and it was always in the dirty hamper. I don't know. Throw it away so you aren't tempted to give in to her.

Randi - posted on 06/15/2010

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Just stop letting him have them. Put them up or throw them away. Out of site out of mind. My son is 18 months old and stopped using his about 15 months, but if he sees it he still will try to take it. You might have some trouble with nap time and bed time but after a few nights it will be ok. I knew one little girl who walked around with hers all day. Her parents had a hard time keeping one away from her. When I would be around her and she tried to talk to me I would explain to her that with a paci in her mouth I couldn't understand her. If she didn't want to take it out then she couldn't talk. I know that sounds mean but it worked. Before to long she stopped using it and her dad was kind of amazed that she would give it up to me so easy that they stopped giving it to her. I hope it works out for you

Rachael - posted on 06/18/2010

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hang it on a tree at night and tell her the dummy fairy is going to come and leave her a gift, worked for me, the fairy left a fairy doll, the child was around the same age, we had to talk it up for a week first though

Jenni - posted on 06/18/2010

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Ashley, do you think she needs to be off it?? If everyone else is telling you that she needs to be done, then that's not a big deal! If YOU think that she needs to be done then that's different.

A pediatric nurse told me, "Honey, when you don't want him to have the pacifier anymore just take it away, he's going to be too young to hop in the car and drive to the store and buy another one!"

Now, granted, my son HATES the pacifier and just the sight of one makes him furious! He thinks they're fun to throw...anyway, back to the topic, I don't have any experience with this other than what the nurse told me...
I hope I was able to help somehow!

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Krista - posted on 05/17/2012

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My daughter is 2 1/2 she was on her pacifer till she turned two. what i did was when she only had one pacifieri told her i dont have money to buy anymore so once that one is gone she wont have anymore. so one day we were in walmart and she lost it. i didnt even bother looking for it. she kept asking for it and i told her that she left it at walmart and shes a big girl now. pacifiers are for babys i told her and shes been off of it ever since. and when i ask her what happened to her mimi (thats what she called it) she says its at walmart, but those are for babies!

Ashley - posted on 05/15/2012

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I tried this...and posted it in another thread called "Three year old and pacifier" if you are able to find it. Some other mom's gave some great tips there too.

First and foremost, don't worry about what other people say. It's your child and you have to determine the right time. If it soothes her it's not the worst thing in the world!! However, there does come a time when it has to be taken away. I'll tell you what we did - and it worked. Only problem is - if it doesn't work - you HAVE to take it away because it could be a choking hazard, in my opinion.

My now 11 year old, at 3, would not give up his 'binky'. One night - it was looking pretty worn and got a tiny hole in it. My husband took it from him, cut a much larger hole in the end of the nipple, and then gave it to him. My son put it in his mouth - sucked a second - announced it was broken and he didn't want it anymore and handed it to us. I looked at my hubby and said it would never work - he'd never sleep without it - but he did. And - he never asked for it again! I guess he didn't want that broken thing back, it just didn't feel right.

I actually kept my pacifier with the hole in it - because he loves to hear the story of how it caused him to give it up.

Other mom's suggested giving them a new clutch bear, or blanket. I also LOVED the idea one mom posted that in Iceland the have a tree at the zoo. The children take their pacifies to the tree to give it to the baby animals...so sweet!

Leanna - posted on 05/09/2012

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Cold Turkey doesn't work if your child is defiant and throws a fit every night. Do it gradually to avoid the drama and battle of wills

Davida - posted on 05/04/2012

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I am a Preschool teacher and I have three degrees in Early Childhood Development. The one thing you will have to learn is not to listen to everyone's bullshit (sorry I am just a blunt person). Your daughter obviously needs the pacifier as a self soothing tool this is developmentally appropriate for her age(it's normal for her age group).

When people tell you that she she should not use her pacifier you should ask them what research has told them? Tell them to show you the research. There is no research that shows the there is anything wrong with the pacifier as you noticed she is treating it like a blankie she needs it for her emotional health- let her have it. This is how some children learn to regulate their emotions.

Self regulation of emotions is so important... you can look up studies that will show you self-regulation of emotion leads to higher SAT test scores and better emotional health.
This information has been the topic of discussion in a recent class I had and at the latest Child Development Symposiums around the country. This is cutting edge research You should be able to search for them on line.
When others say something it's ok to say these are my families values and they have to respect it especially if your problem is in a day care setting. Tell them you don't want to hear anymore about it. If they say something like it will give her buck teeth (bs my niece who was an extreme pacifier case she would not get rid of it until age 5 perfect teeth) so ,that is also bs another thing you might hear is it can cause speech issues there are lots of Myths about pacifiers. They are myths. You are the advocate for your child you do what is right for her and your family, and believe me I know it's hard to stand up to other people. I had to do it when I was younger. stewarddcory@aol.com

Cleo - posted on 07/04/2010

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im having th same problem with abigial-jessy me n her dady is stil trying 2get her of this pacifer n sumtims she cry,s 4it n im a bit of a softy then i just give it 2her

Melissa - posted on 06/29/2010

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A friend of mine carefully cut off the tip slowly until it was down to nothing, her sons did just fine once it was gone, i just stopped buying them and they "disappeared".

Christina - posted on 06/28/2010

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My daughter is 20 months old and I just got her off her binky almost a month. I just took it away. She cried when I would put her to sleep but she finally gave up crying for it after about 2 weeks. It was hard but I just stuck to not giving it to her not even once and she finally realized she wasnt getting it back. Its not the nicest way to do it but she didnt understand the binky fairy "lie" or just didnt believe it.

Jessica - posted on 06/28/2010

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My daughter was a lil over a year when we got rid of it but she got sick and gave it back to her in the hopstial then a week later after she came home. My mom told her that the dog ate it then when she kepted finding them i told her to give it to mommy and i would cut the paci or biki up and told her that the dog got a hold of it and she never said another word about the biki.

Sarah - posted on 06/28/2010

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I have a toddler that has been out of his dummy for four months now! Since April he gaves his to the easter bunny. Anything for chocolate to be honest lol. I feel that it was easier for my son as he had another security which was his bub bub his stuffed dog. I think if he only relayed on his dummy then it would have been so hard.
I also feel if they are not ready to give it up, then dont do it. Just think if some one toke something that helped you sleep away. I wouldn't like iot at all. Hang in there and jsut keep talking to her and im sure when she is ready she will happily hand it over to santa?

Yasmin - posted on 06/28/2010

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Wih my oldest son we started to ween him off his pacifer and only give it to him at night then just quit giving it to him when he was around 2. With my second we just took them all and put them up when he was 15 mo. he also needed it at night so it was rough for the first week but after that he had forgotten about it. But we also broke him of his bottle at the same time.

Mary - posted on 06/26/2010

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paci fairy.
give them to another baby or pet.
lose all of them.

don't freak out if she's not automatically okay with no paci, it may take time to adjust - but it will only slow the adjustment to give it back.

Heather - posted on 06/26/2010

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My son is almost 2 and has the same problem. I told him once he loses them, thats it, I am not buying anymore. Someone did tell me that she had her granddaughter gather her pacifiers together and give them to Santa Clause to give to the other babies. She put them under the tree and next day she recieved a gift from Santa for giving away her pacifiers. She didn't need them anymore after that. I am thinking of doing that with my son this Christmas if he is still using them at the time. Good luck and hope you find some way to solve that problem!

Ruby - posted on 06/25/2010

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try throwing it away or hiding it so no one can find it not even u...reward her with something she likes or replace it with an activity that will make her to tired to want to suck anything

Rebecca - posted on 06/25/2010

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I had to get braces because of using a pacifier until I was 3 and a half. When my nephew was 2 my sister told him at christmas that if he left all of his pacifiers under the tree Santa would bring him an extra special present. He left them under the tree. It doesn't have to be anything super spendy and could be for any occasion, christmas just worked for them.

Whitney - posted on 06/25/2010

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I just wanted to share something my daughters doctor told me. She told me that babies actually benefit from a binky until at least one year of age because they help prevent sids.So that a baby should not be weaned until a year old. She also told me that toddlers often still have the natural urge to suck up until the age of three. She further stated that a pacifier will not harm a child's teeth unless, they have it all day long past age four. And that even if it does affect the child's teeth a little that it is not a big deal because baby teeth just fall out anyway. That being said, my daughter is two now and I have taken her binky away from her during the day and she is only allowed to have it in the car, during nap times and at night. I want to have her off of it by two and a half but the problem is, is that I live with my mother and she does not work think my daughter having a binky is a problem. She argued with me on taking my daughters bottles at 14 months and said she was to young but I threw them out anyway. The problem I see with the Binky is that my mother WILL go buy her more if I throw hers out. Because she is ok as long as my daughter is happy but she can't stand to hear her cry and will give her anything she wants to stop her crying. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Outi - posted on 06/25/2010

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you can cut a small piece off the tip of the nipple. Then just tell her that you dont have anymore and the store is out of them. ( cutting a hole in it makes it hard to suck, it wont fall apart in her mouth and choke her etc)
My son turned 2 and I only allowed pacis in bed within two weeks he was off them. when my Other son was 18 mos he broke his favorite one and I couldnt find one like it ( it was bought in europe so it was a different brad) I got him another, he put it in his mouth once and then thru it behind his bed and went to bed. Never again he wanted one. My daughter was also about 18 mos and kept loosing hers and I jsut got tired of buying new ones. She scremed for an hour or two and then went to sleep and was fine ever since.
And they were all complealty 100% addicted to their pacifiers before that, you couldnt separate them without a tantrum.

Briana - posted on 06/25/2010

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my fiance was 3 before he got off a pacifier, i also know a friend of mine her son was 3 at xmas and got rid of it he put it in his stocking for santa.
my daughter is 2 in august and i will get rid of her soother when shes ready. my deadline is 3.
i know some people told me they cut the nipples off and let the kid have it and they didnt want it . or put all the remainign soother in a jar and said once these are done there done

Nicole - posted on 06/24/2010

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my daughter loved hers as well and when she turned 2 i took it from her and said that my bf's (at the time) dog really needed it and it seemed to work. i have also heard of people tying it to a balloon and telling the child that the baby angels need it. hope this helps :)

Ashley - posted on 06/22/2010

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thanks for some great tips i really like the cutting the tips and the fairy idea.. some where helpful and some where rude people dont need to be rude im asking for advice you dont have to give it ..

Shawntae - posted on 06/19/2010

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YOU buy a sippie cup with the silicone suction and when you take the pacifier away she will be okay , but do it when see is sleepy. It will take some time though. You will have to tell her no after you got her with the cup more and less with the pacifier.

Kari - posted on 06/19/2010

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When my son turned two, I cut them all in half, then had him throw them away and never had another problem.

Lauren - posted on 06/19/2010

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take it from her and dont give it back.....yes, its gonna be harder and she is gonna be mad prolly but u have to have to get it away from her now! we took my daughters away from her at 10months old she threw a fit for a day or two then she was over it! LIKE I SAID ITS GONNA BE HARDER NOW THAT UR DAUGHTER IS OLDER but u might wanna do it sooner than later thats for sure

Lin - posted on 06/19/2010

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We worked from letting him have it when he fussed to having it only when he was sleeping to only during nighttime sleep. He kept throwing it out of the bed so we decided to not give it to him anymore. Instead we bought him a Thomas plush pillow to sleep with. It seems to have worked pretty well for him, he's gotten into the habit of finding his baby brother's binkies on the floor and throwing them in the kitchen sink to be washed.

Amanda - posted on 06/19/2010

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We were at m fiance's brother basketball game and my son decided to throw his pacifier, well guess what?? Of course it went under the bleachers. We told him that if he threw it and it fell down there that there was no way to get his pacy back. When we got home and he headed to his sock drawer to get his pacy (thats were we hid the extra) and I told him he didnt have any more they were all gone he'll have to sleep without it. The first couple nights are rough but they get over and he's still alive without it. I was so thankful he threw it cus I had NO idea how i was gonna get rid of it. Good luck.

Tamara - posted on 06/19/2010

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i just took it of my 19mth old and she cracked it for 2 days now all is good.

Tasha - posted on 06/19/2010

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This may sound a little funny but it worked for me. Cut off all the tips and let them lay around and when she picks them up or asks for them and puts them in her mouth she is not gonna want it! lol.. then when she wines and says its broke you say "oh my goodness what happened, guess its time to give them to the paci fairy!" and put them all in a bag for the paci fairy..lol She will be less upset to give them to "the paci fairy" if they are all "broken". lol..worth a try it worked perfect for my daughter..good luck! :)

Samantha - posted on 06/19/2010

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We took our daughter's away when she was 22 months. We took her to Build A Bear workshop and told her she could pick her own animal if she gave up her paci. She did it. The first night we heard her talking to her animal asking "where's my paci dog?" Lol. She never mentioned it again after that. Now my son is 13 months and is a little more dependent on it than my daughter was. Hopefully we'll be able to take his away around the same time. 2 years is the cut off for me with pacifiers.

Danielle - posted on 06/18/2010

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my daughter (she was 1.5 at the time)we just joked around with it and take it and pretend to trow it out made it so it wasnt important, told her she was getting to big for a "susu" and she agreed and trew it away her self. i took it out of garbage and washed it and put it in cupboard when she wanst looking just in case she had a melt down about it. but she never did ask for it again.not even when she saw other babies with them.

Samantha - posted on 06/18/2010

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Well i know my sister sucks her thumb and she is 3 and it is starting to mess her teeth up and the over all shape of her mouth. It would be best for her to be off it. I would suggest what we are concidering to do with her. There is a type of nail polish you can buy to put on your nails that taste bad that is supposed to help so you stop biting your nails. We plan to put it on her thumb so it taste bad and she wont want to put it in her mouth you may try to put some on her pacifier. They may learn though if you deal with the bad taste long enough it goes away. But she maybe young enough she wont know she can do that. But it may be worth a try.

Tiffany - posted on 06/18/2010

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I got my daughter off her paci right before she turned 2 because her dentist saw it was creating problems already with her teeth. I started by not giving it to her at nap time, and after a week then I stopped all together. It doesn't matter how much she begs for it or asks why, just tell her 'no' and leave it at that. After a few days of being without it, she'll forget about it, for real.

My daughter, months later, still knows exactly what to do with a pacifier when she finds one- but I'm quick to nab it from her. I don't care if she does whine for it, I won't give it back.

This is more about you than her. You can't give in. She needs to stop and you need to be strong enough to not give in.

Sara - posted on 06/18/2010

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well I've tried taking them away just for nap and bed times but I have an 18 month old that uses them too and my oldest will take them out of her sisters mouth to get it so anyone have any suggestions?

Angelica - posted on 06/18/2010

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We took our son to build a bear and told him he could buy a new toy but it cost a binky. The people there were awesome and totally played along, they also put the binky inside him for oue son and told him the new baby needed it. My son still sleeps with the bunny he bought and never once asked for the binky. Good Luck!

Jamie - posted on 06/18/2010

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You could always try cutting the nipples off and let her carry them around with her. She gets the comfort of having it but doesnt get to suck on it. Good Luck. I'm dreading that day with my daughter too but I think that is what I am going to do.

Lisa - posted on 06/18/2010

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as harsh as it might be just take it away, yep she will scream and cry her little heart out but after a few days she will get over it.. we just waited till shayla chewed a hole in hers and after that she chucked it in the bin fine but that night was horrible and make sure you throw them all away so your not tempted to give it back... be strong and good luck

Christy - posted on 06/18/2010

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My daughter was deathly attached to her sippy cup & binky. I gave her the option to throw them away herself. I asked her, "Are you are big girl? Do you really need this?" And she threw them away herself. It made it her decision and she's never looked back.

Tanith - posted on 06/18/2010

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I have a friend who tied her daughter's pacifer to the post of her bed. If she wanted to suck on it she would have to go to her room to do so. Eventually she got bored and irritated and left it.

Tori - posted on 06/17/2010

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A friend told me to go to a Build-A-Bear and put the binky inside a stuffed animal. Then when the child asks for the binky, give them the animal. I'm not close to a Build-A-Bear so I just took her to the dollar store and let her pick a stuffed animal. We unpicked the stitching on it's back, inserted binky, and re-stitched it. Now 3 years later she still laughs when she sees the duck and she knows the binky is there. We had a couple rough days at nap and bedtime at first but it wasn't too bad. Good luck!

Rosanne - posted on 06/17/2010

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my son had his binkie until he was 4 years old. Don't feel bad> she will let go of it sooner or later. ~Rosanne Schmitz

Anna - posted on 06/17/2010

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My four year old Elizabeth didn't give up the binky until almost six months before her fourth birthday. If your child goes to the dentist, have the dentist explain to your daughter what happens if she keeps using it. Then work from that...
I used the ep. of Chowder when he was put into 'tooth jail' for my daughter. I simply told her that if she kept using it then her teeth would fall out and she would go to tooth jail for treating her teeth badly. She hasn't used it since, and she hasn't even asked for it.

Sabrina - posted on 06/17/2010

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My son is now almost 4. Before his trip to Disney for his 3rd b-day we took the day time out. This past Christmas we gave it to the "babies". My son hates being called a baby so when we said pacis are for babies he gave it up quick. I never had a problem.

ERICA - posted on 06/17/2010

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U HAVE T 2 ACT LIKE IT IS A GAME WITH HER AND TELL HER BIG GIRL Z DNT SUCK ON PACIFER S AND REWARD HER WITH A GIFT EVERYTIME SHE DNT ASK FOR IT AND GO FROM THEIR!! I DID IT WITH MY YOUNGEST LIL. GIRL

Chelsea - posted on 06/17/2010

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My daughter stopped using hers the day she sturned two. On her birthday we went to her very first dentist appointment. When we went in I had her lay down and have the dentist take it away and sneakily put it in my purse and told her that the dentist needed to use it for the babies that comein. The first night without it she did ask where it went and I just had to remind her. She understood and did perfect without it!! Now only a short 2 months later we see binkies in the store when we pass through the baby isle and she says baby binkies only babies use those! She did very well. I always find that with a lot of friends of mine as well that telling them that the binks are needed elsewhere they tend to give them up without a fight. But only if someone else takes them. If mommy does they tend to get more angry cause they know they can... just a thought maybe next cleaning you take your angel to have the dentist take it away and tell her that the other babies need it :)

Crystal - posted on 06/17/2010

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She definetly needs to get rid of it. My kids never really like the pacifier, but I use to babysit kids that did and they were to old for them. So I had them go around and find everyone of those little boogers and told them that their where other babies that needed them that they did not need them they were big girls. Tell her you want the other babies to have them.See if that will work.

Jessica - posted on 06/17/2010

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No, not necessarily. Alot of kids I have been around get rid of it on there own. Alot of kids also will go to sucking their thumb all the time if you take away the pacifier too soon. It CAN be, not always, but can be very dramatizing for a child if you take it away and they are not ready for it.

Christin - posted on 06/17/2010

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my friend has a three year old and she simply told her daughter to throw it in the trash and told her it was going bye bye. her daughter hasnt asked for one since.

Kori - posted on 06/17/2010

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With my son he had only one type he liked and he lost it on a family outing at about 8 months we never could find another one like it so he had no choice he would not take another one, thank god. I seen something on the PBS channel about parents buying two helium b-day balloon types and tying them to the pacifier and letting it go to the pacifier angel in heaven something like that, looked like fun.. Good luck

Cassie - posted on 06/17/2010

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My little girl is 18months and I have only allowed her to have her dummy at bed time and nap time for the last few months coz she was starting to use it all the time and try to speak with it in her mouth or just speak less coz she was sucking her dummy and I did'nt want it getting in the way of her speach development. she has been really good about it, just doesnt ask for it anymore coz she knows I wont give it to her unless it's bedtime. I really dont mind her having it at bedtime, it helps her to self-sooth. When the time comes that I think she should stop using a dummy I think I will just go cold turkey - could be painful for a few days but when she realised there is no dummies then she will get over it just as she has about having it during the day.

Jackie - posted on 06/17/2010

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IT WAS VERY HARD FOR MY SON HE CRIED AND CRIED FOR 3DAYS MY HUSBAN WANTED TO GIVE IT BACK TO HIM BUT I WAS FIRM ABOUT IT I SAID NO IT WAS SAD TO SEE HIM CRY BUT IT WORKED

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