Veronica - posted on 09/01/2010 ( 100 moms have responded )
I have 3 kidds and it seems like every time i pick up they are behide me getting everything back out any tips to help????
Veronica - posted on 09/01/2010 ( 100 moms have responded )
I have 3 kidds and it seems like every time i pick up they are behide me getting everything back out any tips to help????
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Autumn - posted on 09/11/2010
hahah mine are the same way, I think I came up with a break through with mine a couple days ago, my 3 year old has learned what money is and so because he wants it so does my 2 year old son. So I told them everytime they clean up they get money (which is a penny) and they get to put it into their little piggy bank. So far it has worked wonders! I tried telling them the toys would go bye bye and they actually helped me put them in the garbage bag ( it was really cute but not the response I was looking for)
Oh and my 2 year old loves to sweep and mop so I usually help him wet and drain the mop and he goes ahead and mops the floor for me, it's awesome!
Hope that helps a little bit!
Judith - posted on 09/11/2010
have you thouht about using treats or pocket money for helping with chores depending on their age
Mary - posted on 09/11/2010
one other suggestion...to get your kids to pick up if they are a little older. when I was little if we left something in the living room it became up for grabs. the thought of my brother taking my stuff made me much more responsible!
Emma - posted on 09/11/2010
I know how you feel and wow you have 3 kids i only have 1, 16 months and i will be literally vacuming and she is making mess just where i have been. It feels like a never ending job, toys are dragged every1, i can't keep up! I do the best i can and know people come to see us not the house Easy to say i know as you must be frustrated but life is way too short to worry about the housework, do what you can do and that should be good enough. Good luck.
Roni - posted on 09/11/2010
Also look up the House Fairy through the FlyLady.net site works really nice with my 3 yr old and my neice does it and she is 10!
Roni - posted on 09/11/2010
Check out FLYLady.net! Big help with me and many moms I know
Laurie - posted on 09/11/2010
The definition of clean can be a multitude of things...especially when your version of clean involves children : ) I feel the only way to achieve "clean" is to involve everyone for small amounts of time throughout the day. Keep it fun for the kids, and short enough that they won't lose interest or become impatient; I'm sure you know the amount of time varies with the ages of the children. If it's a family effort, I think it will work out better. And of course you know that pre-children "clean" and post-children "clean" are definitely not the same, and that's okay...you're a mom for three kids...and I'm sure a wonderful one at that...and that is worth a messy home. : )
Danielle - posted on 09/11/2010
I only have one child she is 13 months old and I have a very small place. The only way that you can keep it even somewhat clean is to get a laundry basket and toss things in there when they are not looking. Yeah they are going to pull it back out eventually but what fun would you have if you were a kid and not have something to get into? Look at it from their point of view. I hate stepping on books all the time but at least they are out where she can get to them and read them at any time she wants. I "toss" the toys in the basket at 9pm after she goes to sleep. That way first thing in the morning you have a somewhat clean floor.
Jennifer - posted on 09/11/2010
Move into a new one everyday. LOL. Seriously though, when I was married, and this may not work for everyone, my husband HATED looking at toys and clutter, so the living and common rooms became a toy free zone. The only things allowed in the living room were books that were kept in a basket. Toys stayed in the bedroom only. I kind of resented it at the time, but now my daughter is 9 and she still keeps all of her things in her room and now she is only responsible for 1 room and I am able to keep the others neat. If her things are in the living room I say "Ummmm your room is spilling into one of my rooms" and she laughs and picks it up. Just a thought.
Sarah - posted on 09/11/2010
i worked in childcare befor i had kids and although i dont practice what i preech our childcare rooms where always lovely and tidy because we had strict routine and structured activities and encouraged the children to tidy up with a fun song like "its time to pack away hooray!!!"we tidied up after every activity and befor every meal/snack!!!! good luck
ps. it doesnt really matter if your house is tidy as long as it is safe and your kids are happy thats all that matters xx
Sara - posted on 09/11/2010
I'm in the same situation, I have twin 22 months olds and a newborn. Cleaning just does not get done. I actually started paying someone else to clean a couple times a week. I couldn't do anything else. Wish I could help more. Other than that, I stay up late and straighten up after the kids are asleep.
Crystal - posted on 09/11/2010
i ask myself that everyday! i have 4 children...my sons 4...my twin girls r 2...and my daughter is 6 mths old. i say as long as my house is clean once a week and they r bathed and fed everyday im doing good....lol! life gets crazy. my kids do a good job cleaning up the toys most of the time.....but we have our moments!
Mary - posted on 09/11/2010
I don't shoot for clean very often - managable is a better goal for us. I do have my 2 year old pick up her toys before either lunch or her nap and before bed. If she gets out something with a lot of pieces, she has to pick up up before she moves on to something else. I want her to learn to help out - and especially to be responsible for her messes. Maybe when the kids are bigger I'll have enough well-trained helpers clean can be a goal...haha :)
Ashley - posted on 09/11/2010
I'd say make them clean up after themselves... I'm sure they are old enough to understand how to clean up their toys at least. I have a 7 month old that I bring to work with me where I'm a nanny for 2 boys who are 2 and 4, and at this point they know they need put their toys away before they go off and play with something else so its not mass choas of toys everywhere. The 2 year old needs reminding sometimes, but then he goes and puts his stuff back when he's asked. And the 4 year old cleans up after himself really well, like his toys, and after meals and he feels like a good big boy that he can do all that himself. So i'd say, let them do it.. Let them understand they made the mess they need to clean it up ;)
Sharon - posted on 09/11/2010
U dont tidy... there is no point!!!! Ur stressed, they cant understand why they cant play wit their toys.... leave the housework for once a week and just enjoy the kids.... they wont stay like that for long, and u will be left wit a clean house,,,wishing it was messy again :)
Jessica - posted on 09/11/2010
join the club hun i have two year old twins and sometimes i wonder why i bother so i just clean up wen they go to bed dosnt matter that i think i have put everything out of their reach they still find stuff to throw every where
Hanne - posted on 09/11/2010
i have 2 kids and indeed it is a mess somethimes, but i keep ik clean and the toys all over the place that is just a period. Most of the time i clean up their toys after them when they are a sleep. I think it is normal that they make a mess when they having a good time. So i don't care so much. When it is clean in the evening and i can sit in my chair in a clean house, that is ok, during the day... well let them play. It is good voor their evolution.
VANESSA - posted on 09/10/2010
i usually just clean up of a night when the kids go to be that way your not picking up the same thing 5 times a day
Jeanine - posted on 09/10/2010
as long as you keep up with the cleaning (sweeping, mopping, vaccuum, ect..) people should expect to see toys around your house. I mean kids live there, it's only natural.
Jessica - posted on 09/10/2010
Trust me on this one honey I am in the same boat. Do me a favor and look up the the website. www,flylady.net I am addicted to this site and it teaches us that any cleaning done right or not blesses our family and that we can do it all fifteen minutes at a time. I pray you take this advice and FLY (Finally Loving Yourself) with it!
Meghan - posted on 09/10/2010
What I do is make my kids keep their toys in their room. If they want to play with toys, they have a bedroom for doing so. Makes keeping the house tidier much easier.
Jayme - posted on 09/10/2010
i hav 3 also i no what u goin thourgh what i started doin was useing the baby gates to block them out while i clean a room that works some what intil u open it but theres been times i kept it up all day for like when i had company coming over that day an i did'ent want the kids to mess up thats as long as they dont climb it. u can also try cleaning up after they go to bed then u dont hav to worry bout them at all thats when i do the mager cleaninthe mopping an dusting fixin up the room. also too if the hav any toys r thing where u cleaning hav the kids help with that an have ur kids help it well help them learn. i got my kids a cleaning cart from toys r us it as everything u/they need to help r u can tell them to do therre room with the stuff. well good luck
Carol - posted on 09/10/2010
I also have 3 kids, 5, 2 and 9 months so my house is never clean either. But since my oldest started kindergarten, we started a routine, everyday when she gets home, her and her sister pick up the room and then they can play with a few things at a time. We have a neighbor she loves to play with so thats a good motivater:you can play with ben but only if your room is clean....also we make sort of a game the little one will pick up blocks while my oldest folds all the clothes that have been pulled from the dresser lol. So dont be discouraged, as you see we all deal with the same struggle and most of us have the same idea, do what you can, but choose your battles! Hope this helps:)
Elizabeth - posted on 09/10/2010
I've always wondered why my babysitter’s house can stay so clean when she watches 6 kids all under the age of 3. I learned her secret yesturday. She only keeps a small amount of toys for each child out and store the rest away. After a week she will switch toys with ones that she has been “hiding” from them. That way it keeps the kids interested in the toys and they can see different ones every week. The kids seem to like it and it keeps a small amount of toys to be cleaned up. Less toys, less mess, less stress.
Stacey - posted on 09/10/2010
My husband has severe ocd and can't handle the mess our 9 month old makes. I let him make as much mess as he wants during the day, at 5pm i pop him in his walker and play the tidy up game (this consists of me dancing around making him laugh whilst picking up his toys and hoovering), by time i finish doing all that the baby is tired and its time for the bedtime routine. This means we can have a peaceful night with a tidy house :-)
Suzi - posted on 09/10/2010
You cant! i have one and my house is like a bomb site, i try and potter around her and clean up but its impossible, the only time my house gets done is when she is at school!
Kerri - posted on 09/09/2010
I have a cleaning schedule. I also have 3 kids (all boys) & it is very difficult to keep things clean; which is why I came up w/ the cleaning schedule. In addition to dishes, laundry & picking up daily- Mon I wash towels& sheets, Tues I clean bathrooms, Wed I do floors, Thurs I dust & Fri, Sat & Sun I just try to keep things presentable. I also get my kiddos involved in the cleaning to where its fun for them
Camber - posted on 09/09/2010
I have taught my 2 year old son to keep his toys in his room. He will come out to the living room with a car or something but he takes it back to his room when he is done. That way I only have to clean his room when he is about ready for bed. I am working on having him help me clean his room, occasionaly I will go to do it and it will already be done. I would say start them young. My son has been doing this for a while now and it makes my life so much easier and less stressful. Good luck!
Melina - posted on 09/09/2010
I feel that it's easier with more kids as they occupy the others... I have rules that they must clean up their mess before going to another activity.... (not that you don't have rules)
This rule is hard to reinforce as I have things that I want to get done...i.e. dinner, homework..ect..
My house is never perfect however I do have a home daycare and the kids listen and clean there own mess.
I hope that this helps...
Ruth - posted on 09/09/2010
i also have 3 children two sons one is 8 and the is 2 and a daughter who is 4 months.
it is really hard to keep things tidy but i find not getting to stressed about it is the best thing. at the end of the day its not the worst thing in the world if
your house is a bit untidy.
my 8 year old tidies up really well because i have made him from a really young age and he knows if he doesnt he wont get his pocket money. and we give his a bonus pound at the end of the week if he keeps his room tidy everyday.
with the 2 year old who makes 90% of the mess i tend to tidy when he is eating his lunch or having his nap. i make sure every toy is picked up before dinner so it don't seem like even more work on top of dinner mess ect. make the tidying up a game i do how fast can the toys go in the box this still works with my 8 year old.
but if you have one of them days like we all do were nothing gets done don't stress there is always the next day to finish it.
i have started having a weekly chart and do certain jobs on certain day for example monday. clean the bathroom, tuesday strip the beds, wednesday irioning. you soon find you are keeping on top of it.
don't stress your kids are the most important things at the end of the day xx
Chantell - posted on 09/09/2010
My daughter is 14 months, and believe me, once she's done playing, my house is a mess!!! I also had to get locks for the cuboards as she loves unpacking them. But at this stage, all i can do is pick up after her. She is still to small to pick up after herself, so I let her play as it keeps her happy. I suppose its all part of parenting :) But it gets better as they get older :) My 8 yr old is always willing to help pick up after his little sister. And my 13 yr old is very helpful around the kitchen :)
LATOYA - posted on 09/08/2010
make them help u like doing simple task and reward them at the end of the week with things like arts n craft family timeand snacks that u can make with them look up sprout please and noggin the have lots of fun things 2 do with your children
Tava - posted on 09/08/2010
Win the lottery and hire a cleaning lady :), just kidding. I am with some of the other moms. I have made a game of it and if they kept their messes cleaned up after playing, they get a sticker on a board. At the end of the week they can exchange those stickers for different activities. Or I have also, cleaned up once the were napping or I tackle on room while they're playing in the other. However, it is good to teach kids young that mom is not a maid! Get them to help out as much as you can.
Candyce - posted on 09/08/2010
LMAO!! I only have one very active little boy and it's still damn near impossible to keep things in order. So I gave up. Just resign yourself to the reality of a mostly messy house for the next 18 years. Efficient storage can help, along with just little things every day. Plus, if your kids are mobile, they're old enough to start picking up after themselves and helping with other chores. My four year old's job is to sweep, pick up his own toys, and wash the doors and cabinets with his own little spray bottle. Once he's a bit taller, he'll be vacuuming too!
Laura - posted on 09/08/2010
You can go crazy trying to keep a tidy home with little ones afoot! Try to have them contain their toys to a certain area (their room or a play area). Before meal or snack time play the clean up game and have them put away their toys.. For the heavy cleaning, I wait until my munchkins are in bed so I can enjoy a clean house before my bed time.
Aimee - posted on 09/08/2010
ahhh im going through the same thing! i have an almost 3years old and a 1year old and they destroye everything! as soon as i clean i turn around and its a disaster area.. when i have the house completely clean it only last though nap time then they wake up and you cant even tell ive cleaned... i wish i knew how some people do it. i feel like cleaning is a wasted effort most of the time and just give up!
K - posted on 09/08/2010
I only have one six month old and he already destroys my house so I can't imagine what it's like with three lol. I clean whenever he's asleep so I can sit and enjoy it (hopefully). When he's awake I let him do what he's going to do, if people come over and it's a little messy then that's how it has to be. I'm sure anyone who comes over will understand - if that's what you're worried about. I only read a few of the other comments but the suggestions about making it a game are great too. Good luck :)
Juliette - posted on 09/08/2010
I have for and seemed to do all the cleaning in a continuous circle. Still do, but I have been reading this awesome book on cleaning. Its called children stuff and what to do with it. Its a book by mops(mothers of preschoolers) and the general editor is mary beth lagerborg. I would have to say its a must read to get that organization and cleaning in order. I am still reading it and so far has been the greatest help for cleaning after four children and two pets.
Cynthia - posted on 09/08/2010
My mom made a rule where if you get it out you have to put it away before you can do something else. So as long as we were playing our room or playroom was allowed to look like a tornado hit- but as soon as we were done, if we wanted to keep those toys, we had to put them away. Otherwise Mom would put it in a black bag or a big tote and we wouldn't get it back for a week. She also made us thin out our toys every once in a while- usually when she felt that there was always a mess. She said that if we couldn't keep everything put away we obviously had too many toys and needed to get rid of some. It worked pretty well from about the time we were 2 or 3. Cleaning up before naps, meals, and bedtime was also a game, and every Saturday (our typical chore day) we had to go through and clean up EVERYTHING in our rooms, not just the toys, but she made that seem like a game too ("how fast can you pick up all of the books?"). Also, thinning out your toys every once in a while (especially if your kids are younger) is a great idea. Or, when you confiscate toys, if they forget about them, keep them. You can always give them back later, and them they'll seem like a fun "new" toy all over again and you'll only have about half the mess to deal with since they only get half their toys at any given time (of course favorites stay out constantly- very bad idea to try to hide "Mr. Cuddles" for even 1 day- lol!). I know that always worked with my little brother! When he quit playing with something for a while, we'd secretly hide it and give him one of the toys out of the stash to give him something new. He totally never noticed his others were gone. (PS- this also works great with toys that make loud noises and drive you crazy, if you can't take out the battery and tell the kid that it died and you don't have any more of that kind- LOL!)
Megan - posted on 09/08/2010
I try my hardest to keep my house presentable, and lately it feels like its paying off! In eveery room of my house I have "pick up points" meaning a shelf, a table, toy box, where I can neatly toss her things when the door bell rings or if you wanted to vacuum/mop real fast. Its not "clean" but just having things picked up makes it not feel like such a disaster. I'm over having a super clean house, best of luck to you!
Vikki - posted on 09/08/2010
hi ive the same problem if they are old enough you should get them to help you clean up and make it fun while you are doing it and another way i find helps is a reward chart if they clean up after them selves they get a star and when they get so many stars they get a treat help this helps from vikki
Monica - posted on 09/08/2010
girl I know the feeling. My one year has even began pouring out his food in order to eat it off the floor. so its a constant challenge.
Alexis - posted on 09/08/2010
hello, i know u have recieved a lot of responces but ill put in my thoughts too. i have 2 boys and they are little tornatos, they will get into everything 3yrs and 2 yrs, i was a few months ago wondering just the same thing as you. i have come up with a sulution. i moved my boys into the same bedroom and made the remaining bedroom into a toy and hobby room for the kids to play. they have all their toys in there, they know that is their room to trash and play in and that no toys are allowed in the rest of the house, so far this is working my house if finally clutter free and i can now see my carpet lol. every night after their bath the boys go into their play room with me and we tidy it together i have found coloured storage boxes are great fun and a great way to organise the room. i hope this helps you
Paige - posted on 09/07/2010
I tell my son that his toys are getting sleepy and they have to go in their bed for them to go night night lol...He'll give each one a hug and put them in his toy box and before he knows what he's doing the room is clean!! Or another thing I do is to tell him to pick up just his clothes, and then when he gets done to pick up only his stuffed animals or only his cars and it all gets picked up!!!
Krystal - posted on 09/07/2010
I put the t.v. on cartoons, give them juice and cookies or a snack and a toy. I keep a tub for the toys, so I clean their room 1st. Then I work my way around. I also have the washer/dryer going and the dish washer. I also get them to help. They are 3 and 1 years old.
Alicia - posted on 09/07/2010
Ask them to pick up their toys and if you have to do it, put them up where they can see them, but they can't get to them. I know it sounds mean but they aren't going to learn anything if you keep doing it for them. My parents used to do this with us.
Jade - posted on 09/07/2010
Oh man if I knew how to do this as well! my 3 year old is a tornado! I put a lock on the fridge and she figured it out..I can't even go to the washroom without coming back and having milk all over the floor or something.. not to mention the mess in my kids rooms and everywhere else! so if anyone knows the answer please do tell!
Brittany - posted on 09/07/2010
wow i kno how u feel i feel like my house is trashed all the time other ppl dont think so but im not happy with it,its hard to keep it as clean as i would like with my 1 year old baby ava right behind me messing it up as im cleaning if u come up with a solution to it please let me know!
Ashley - posted on 09/07/2010
::giggle:: i know EXACTLY how you feel!! I had to start making my kids pick up after themselves, they seem to make smaller messes when they know mom's going to make them pick up afterthemselves. good luck!
Donna - posted on 09/07/2010
i have 4 kids the oldest been 6 and the baby is only 11 weeks i dont mind about the mess aslong as it is not dirty my partner goes mad when he comes home but like i tell him they are only kids once so enjoy them while u can the mess will still be there when they are sleepin and it means that u are not pickin the same stuff up over and over againxx