how do i know if my husband is cheating
Kera - posted on 01/08/2010
hay, in my case my ex was accusing me of the stuff he had done. he also actually introduced me to the girl he was sleeping with said she was a work mate. but he lied al the time on where he was, said he had fencing jobs when he didn't. he went out drinking alot to. but every guy is different not all the signs are the same some r bad lyers and some are good. i brought my ex a gps for his car which he didn't know had a tracking device that how i found out. hope all works out for you
Amanda - posted on 01/08/2010
you ca usually tell when they are deffensive such as my soon to be ex when ever i went somewhere he was up my ass oh why do u gotta get dressed up for why u talking to him. When they get deffensive there trying to cover there own ass hun...
Ricky - posted on 01/08/2010
Trust you instincts. My boyfriend became distant and defensive. He will act differently too, my boyfriends fridge was always empty when I was gone (I moved in with my mom when i got pregnant and for the first 5 months of our sons life) and a few times I went to visit to find food and it wasnt the normal stuff he snacked on. He baked a cake for someone and he despises baking. His stories constantly changed too (ex: he told me the cake was for a coworker coming back from mat leave, when I asked how his cake turned out he said he helped a friend make it for her mother) and got super defensive when i called him on his lie.
If your comfortable with it you can snoop through his things. My boyfriend started hiding who he was texting and Instant Messaging so when he was gone to work or sleeping I would check them. if there are strange numbers on his phone they have reverse number look up online so you can see who he is calling.
talk to him about it, if he gets upset and defensive about the subject he may be cheating. If your going to confront him stay as calm as possible and make sure you have a plan encase you have to leave him or if he leaves you.
You can work through it, be Strong, I am still with my boyfriend and he knows he has to work my trust back and that if he ever cheats again that I will leave him and take our son with me. I seriously hope that your Hubby is faithful because it is a hard thing to go through, remember you got to be strong for yourself and for your child(ren).
*if you find out he is I am here for you if you need to talk to someone*
Kelsey - posted on 01/08/2010
A few of the red flags that come to mind are, obviously stories that just dont match up or make any sense, hiding his phone or always having the memory on his phone deleted, or not ever calling you on his trips. Just because hes horney doesnt mean he would cheat on you, but if your convinced and need to know if your crazy or not, check his phone bill, is there a weird number he calls alot? You would have to figure out if it was a coworker or a strange girl before you started making accusations though. Check his text history. Check the bank statement and look for odd purchases like movie tickets. Check his luggage or car for condoms or other clues. Im not saying I think you should do all these things, but when I was being cheated on, and needed proof before I left, these are the things I did. I had alot of reasons to suspect cheating though, not just the fact hes a nympho. Just a warning, searching through his stuff and accusing him of cheating without proof can be extremely damaging to a healthy relationship and can eventually cause a domino effect that completely wrecks a good relationship. Try to trust him and avoid being crazy like this unless you are convinced and need to prove your intuition correct.
Pay attention to any changes..if he goes out a lot or has the excuse that he has to work late and he usually didnt do that..If he started to fix himself more..lost weight..acts different with you..doesnt answer when you call..doesnt call you when he usually would..be strong..it's not easy..i recently teminated my relationship because he was cheating, but he wouldnt admit it..you just have to put your kids and yourself first and do what is best for them and you..love yourself and respect yourself. dont let him treat you bad..if it's meant to be then it will happen and if not them it was never ment to be..
Veronica - posted on 01/08/2010
How I knew, was the way he treated me - he was a complete asshole, very defensive about stuff - and was gone when he should have been home. Was seeming to get close to a coworker - and that was who it was.
The best advice i have for you is this: Love him, care for him, and continue to be a good wife, partner and person. Be stron and take care of yourself. Become a better person, for yourself and family. Tell him how much you love him, admire him, etc. etc.
When i was suspicious - i worked on being a better wife/mother/person -- when teh blow came - I was able to handle it much better because of the person that i had become.
Take care, I hope the scenerio you are feeling - isnt true.
I heard once - treat the person like you want them to be -- for instance - if you treat him like he is cheating on you, he may or will ---- if you treat him like he is a king and the best husband - he will be that.
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