Amber - posted on 05/08/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )
My husband is loving to our 16 month old daughter, but he is a little obsessive compulsive in the asking department (questions to me). He keeps asking me the same questions. One being about what time our daughter and I go to bed and wake up. I am a stay at home mom and feel perfectly comfortable with our go to bed around 10:30 pm to 12:00 pm bedtime and then wake up around 10:30 am to 11:30 am routine. I think and feel it is more important that our daughter is getting 10 to 12 hours of sleep, then what time we go to bed. It helps me as well because I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and Fibromyalgia and the sleeping in helps me get moving in the morning. Our daughter is happy and I am happy every morning and ready to start our day.
How do I address this with him? I suspect he is thinking old world ways as he is 54 and from a very old world country (former Yugoslavia) that she should be in bed by 7 or 8 pm. I keep telling him since I am a stay at home mom and don't work that its ok to have her go to bed later and wake up later and that we won't have to worry till we get closer to school age and can slowly change the sleeping then.
We are co-sleeping/ bed sharing and still breast feeding in the day and at night. My husband doesn't come to bed till later, after we are asleep, because he is a night owl. He asks me this questions every few weeks and changes how he asks it.. When I call him on it , like does it bother you or something, he says no, but he's just curious or wondering if I like it because he thought I liked getting up really early which is not true. He asks me these kind of questions all the time from bathing her to how I do things for myself and its really hard because he doesn't take the answer I give him.
Thank you in advance for thoughts, comments, advice, and personal stories.