Brittany - posted on 05/12/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
My 5yr old is amazing. She is responsible, funny, smart and everything I could ever ask for, except for when it's time to come inside at night.
We live in a very close, safe community and every night the neighborhood kids will go outside and play.
Kayla is an only child so we understand that this time with the other kids is pretty important to her development.
Every night, when it is time to come inside, she has a complete mental breakdown, lasting anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours. Some nights, it's a fight to get her to eat dinner or do anything other than sit and cry.
It's always the same thing. The second I say it's time to come inside, she crumbles.
She screams that she doesn't want to come in, she spends the next hour or however long repeating the same thing over and over. " I just want to go play with my friends, I don't want to stay inside"
We have tried to explain to her that this behavior is not acceptable, we have tried to get her to realize that acting like this in front of our neighbors is embarrassing. Most of the kids she plays with are, unfortunately, older and male and with her behavior of late, some of them don't want to play with her anymore, and that number is increasing with every breakdown she has.
My husband thinks that we should punish her more harshly, that we should start a rule that if she throws a fit she doesn't get to go out the next day. I disagree. I think that she needs to learn to control her emotions and learn to deal with disappointment but I don't know how to teach her.
Any advise is appreciated!!! Thanks