How do you deal with rebellion from an 8 year old girl?

Bethany - posted on 03/18/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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She is well behaved most of the time. But recently at sporting events when she doesn't get her way she starts to get louder & louder while challenging my authority the entire time. What would you do to put this to a quick stop?

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Mgreen - posted on 09/20/2012

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Oh please help. I have an 8 year old girl who I can talk to about her problem of not doing what she is suppose to do. She understands and then, , , she will do it again. She gets all worked up and I am just at my wits end. Spankings will not help. I keep asking her why she wants this bad attention. At after school, she was not listening to teachers when she was shoving a table between herself and another child at the other end. She had to stand by the wall for awhile, which is their punishment, and they are suppose to not talk. We had a conversation about this. Then she gets home and will not listen, will not do as he is told, and reverts back to behavior that is unacceptable. She knows this is unacceptable, she had never gotten what she wants when she behaves likes this. I don't know why she thinks she can get away with this. I am so frustrated because I cannot permit her to run the family like this. I do think attention is an issue, but I am not sure how tor eemedy this.

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Bethany - posted on 03/19/2009

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Apparently there was another incident last night. My parents took her to church with them and she wanted a drink of water...so she kept getting a lil louder each time even though they told her beforehand that there would be no getting up & down during church. I guess she was almost to the point of disrupting service when they finally made her leave. When she got home we had a long talk and she seems to understand but once again just don't know how to reinforce it. I let her know that the things she wants to do coming up (i.e. volleyball & sleepovers) would not be in her near future if the behavior does not straighten out immediately....I guess now its just wait & see if it works. Oh & Heather, it may not help the problem but its always helpful knowing when you're not the only one dealing with some of these same issues. So thanks for that.

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009

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this is a very good question!!!

i have that same issues with my daughter, and i can't just pick her up either. and when they are pulling the other way people think she is not your child or something or that you are hurting them. when really its the child acting up and we are just trying to parent. warnings don't always work either, my daughter will do it anyways and suffer the consequence of the warning. and giving them time outs, spanking their butts, taking things away, giving them chores, nothing seems to work! i totally feel your pain!!! there has got to be a way to correct this right!?

i know i haven't helped your problem, but you are not alone in this boat! k

Bethany - posted on 03/18/2009

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But how do you make her leave when she literally is pulling the opposite way & saying no no no...just pick her up (which I can no longer lift this child at all) and haul her out?its like she's reverted to the toddler stage again.

Alicia - posted on 03/18/2009

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Give her a warning, and then if she still doesn't simmer down, pick her up and leave. She'll get the message after the first time or so.....seems harsh the first time, but trust me, I have a 7 year old daughter that I've walked out of teeball games before. Didn't take more than one warning after the first time!

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