Christina - posted on 10/04/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )
My "husbands" 22 year old cousin is staying on my couch for now until his room is built, which is in the garage. He's been on my couch for 2 months now. Also, his girlfriend stays over 4 or more times per week as well. They don't share the couch, but they have admitted to sleeping together (if ya know what i mean) once so far. I made it clear that they cannot do things like that in my living room. I have a ten year old daughter and a 5 year old son sleeping right upstairs above the living room. But because they did it once, I still feel like they will do it again. My husband feels that the situation is entirely ok because eventually they will share a bedroom in the garage. In order to have my living room back I have to wake them up and ask them to move, but that only means they go back to sleep in my bed. I'm not a big fan of people sleeping half the day away in my room or living room.
Also, I am the one who still cooks and cleans. His cousin is here because he was staying with his sister whom made him babysit her kids, and take care of the whole house. I do not want to do that, but I feel I have the right to request some help. He will be paying 500 a month rent when he gets his room. Right now he only contributes to some of the food. But I don;t get help with the laundry (which his clothes are included because they are thrown in my hamper), I don't get help with the cooking, and absolutely not the cleaning, unless I keep asking and he will seldom do a chore here and there. I already talked to the "hubby" about this and he says it will all get better when he gets his room. But if he comes up, eats, then leaves, then who is helping with the cooking and cleaning? my kids help. I don;t know what to do at this point. I want to be helpful and I am, but doesn't that mean I get help too?