How long after birth would you say to wait to resume sex and why?
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They say 4-6 weeks. The reason is so things can all go back to their normal positions and any possibility of infection can be weighed. Sex can be quite painful after having a child after 9 months of things being kicked and stretched beyond normal limits.
Jovan - posted on 10/19/2009
Ok here is the deal the standard is 6 weeks because by then you should definately be healed but in actuallity that is overkill. The true answer is when you are done bleeding because this means your vessels have healed up and the risk for infection is gone. If you have had a vaginal delivery you would need to make sure all cuts, tears ect are healed as well once again to prevent infection. This is what I learned in Nursing school and from personal experience If your done bleeding and have been for a couple of days and you feel ready and everything is healed....Go for it.
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Monica - posted on 10/25/2009
Recommended after you visit your OB at your 6 week appointment so they can give you clearance. however, I had a few people tell me that since they had a c-section and didn't dialate, they did it sooner. I had a c-section but did dialate to 10cm so I waited to see my doctor, just to be safe.
Jasara - posted on 10/24/2009
i cant say for everyone, bc everyone is diffrent and only you know your own body. but i waited a week afterwards. some how i still had those crazy hormones flowing i guess. for the first time hubby was the one who was worried. i couldnt wait. like i said everone is diffrent
Mandie - posted on 10/24/2009
You should wait 6 weeks. Having a baby puts your body through alot of trama, It needs that time to readjust. Really don't want to push yourself to much, No need to chance damage to yourself. You need to be 100% for the baby!
Elisha - posted on 10/24/2009
The nurses & doctors recommend waiting until your 6 week checkup to make sure everything is healed up etc.. But I think you should resume sex when you feel comfortable this might be earlier or later than 6 weeks. Its up to the individual.
Hazel - posted on 10/24/2009
i think me and my partner almost went three weeks so i told my midwife cos i worried weed caused damage but she said dont worry about it some women dont even make it out of the maternity word without some sneaky sex in the showers so i wouldnt worry too much it all depends on you your body and essencially that its not sore or uncomfertale so just trust ur own body itll let you no if you should stop and ur partner should understand aswell cos well uv just been streched lol
Jayme - posted on 10/24/2009
With my first child I waited 4 months, just because he was my first child and I was scared it may hurt. My second child I only waited 4 weeks. They say to wait atleast 6 weeks but you know your body better than anyone- including your doctor, so when your ready and comfortable, do it. Just remember it's much more easier to get pregnant after birth so take precautions...unless you don't care! =]
Danielle - posted on 10/24/2009
I think you should wait until you feel like you're ready...give a try gently and if it works great, if not wait another week and try again.
You might think I'm crazy but I had sex one week after I delivered my son through c-section and it was great. I had no problems whatsoever.
There's no need to rush it either...if it's been over 6 weeks and you still feel uncomfortable with sex than wait until you are completely ready.
Allison - posted on 10/23/2009
Depends, I waited 5 weeks. We tried after 4 weeks(once the bleeding stopped) but it hurt to much & my stitches had not fully dissolved. I wanted to, but could not. It was very frustrating. The next time we tried (a week later) it was ok.. Don't force it, I know it can be very frustrating. If you feel any pain, stop....your body is not ready. It might be a little uncomfortable, but not painful the first time after the baby. You will know when your body is ready. Just take it slow & easy. Also, be very careful because you are very fertile right now. Good luck!!!
Simone - posted on 10/23/2009
it just depends on how you feel. i had my daughter 9 weeks ago now and me and my partner have started havin sex about 4 weeks after she was born, but i had a c section so i wasn't worried about down there. i would say, just take your time and see how it goes.
Elin - posted on 10/23/2009
Im not one to always follow what the doctor says, but on this one, WAIT!! Wait until your six week check up so that oyu know everything is healed! You don't wanna tear anything or do more damage to your body! 6 weeks isn't that long!! Satisfy your man in the meantime!
Queenee - posted on 10/23/2009
As a nurse I would have to say that you should wait the recommended 6 weeks, or until your doctor clears you. Most women need time to heal and if you have an open would or laceration from tearing you can be prone to an infection. Also some women have been know to not wait the recommended 6 weeks and not use protection and get pregnant.
Hayley - posted on 10/23/2009
as soon as you and your partner are ready you may find you are really in the mood for it or maybr youll find you just cant be bothered i find most kids have a hidden sex radar as soon as you think about it the cry ,want a feed or change so step 1 find time to do it
Ashley - posted on 10/23/2009
Well, if your not having any pain from giving birth anymore then you should be alright. It's just whenever you feel ready unless your doctor tells you otherwise. My sister wasn't in any pain afterwards and resumed sex like a week afterwards. And her doc was ok with it.
Karissa - posted on 10/22/2009
Lots of reply's, lol, but almost all of them are the same (i couldn't read them all). The doctor's say 6 weeks to be safe. Some (poor) women bleed that long! I didn't with my three kids, but I did wait the 6 weeks. I felt up to it sooner, and probably could've, but in my opinion, just because you've stopped bleeding doesn't mean you're not at risk of an infection. In my opinion, I feel that when you've stopped bleeding, it's like a cut getting a scab (i know, wierd annalagy). It may be done bleeding, but now it needs time to heal fully. I'd wait until you get the go ahead from your Doctor, but if the mood strikes, and you feel right... Who am I to stop you!!!! ;) lol
Betsy - posted on 10/22/2009
You should wait until the 6 weeks because those 6 weeks are the most fertil and you can become pregnant right away and also wait to be completely healed if you had any stitches due to a cut or tear...After that use protection and a personal lubricant like KY because you are going to be real dry down there and it can hurt when you have intimacy...Good luck!
Kim - posted on 10/22/2009
Doctor's say 6 weeks but I didn't wait that long. To warn you, it's not the same down there for a while and for me it wasn't enjoyable the first few times. But every woman is different and they heal at different rates. If you experience no pain, then go for it
Angela - posted on 10/22/2009
At least wait till your bleeding has stopped. Then do what you feel is comfortable. If you feel back that you arn't providing sex to your lover and feel obligated, just tell him. Babe i just gave birth and i love you but my body isn't ready. you could always offer him other love too .
Kristine - posted on 10/22/2009
With my first child, I did as the doctor told me. I waited the 6 weeks. Well minus a week. With the second I couldn't be bothered after I got the go ahead and with my 3 I had not a choice but to wait 6 weeks or more due to the fact that I had gotten my tubes tied. I had to wait two months. But if you feel ready and the bleeding has stopped and the stitches are healed than by all means resume normal life before you had your little one. Only you know when your body is ready.
Bethany - posted on 10/22/2009
We all know the obvious 6 weeks that the doctors advise, I've heard some moms say they do after one week and some two months. It just depends on your situation. If this is your first, know that its common to not be interested because of hormones and changing dynamics because of the new baby. I and so many others struggled with this after our children were born. Don't be too hard on yourself and work with your hubby to maintain the romance that was there before your bundle of joy arrived. Good Luck!
Anastasia - posted on 10/22/2009
You really should wait at least 2 weeks to 6 weeks. to get your body healed. during this time you are still bleeding from having your child. you also should think about birth control, is you are not ready to have another child . right now you can get preganent.
Shirley - posted on 10/22/2009
i agree with everyone that is saying to wait until you're ready. dr's say 6 weeks but i never made it that long with any of my 3. the longest i waited was 2 weeks. some women go through a stage where the idea of sex is abhorrent. others are easily aroused. i had a friend that wouldn't let her husband near her for 6 months after their son was born.
April - posted on 10/22/2009
I say whenever u feel u are ready. If it hurts then stop! Your body will tell you. We waited 2 weeks. Everything was fine. Not that we had sex all day or anything....i think once u quit bleeding is a good sign...but definitely if it hurts then stop.
Erica - posted on 10/22/2009
ok they say 6 wks. part of the reason is so that u heal properly. the other reason u wait is so u dont get pregnant again. unless u r ready to have another kid i'd wait. my mom never waited the six wks and has 4 daughters all less then a yr apart. i waited even though i healed after 4wks. wasnt ready for another kid
Robin - posted on 10/22/2009
Wow! You ladies are all incredible!! The doctor gave us the go ahead at 6 weeks which was when we did it for the first time - but it was very uncomfortable - and I had about zero desire. It didn't start feeling normal again and the desire didn't start coming back until about 12 weeks postpartum.
My husband and I couldn't hold out longer than 10 days. He was really gentle with me and we used a condom so as to ensure that his cum wouldn't cause any complications. I didn't tear however when I gave birth and had no complications, I suppose that this helped.
Having sex 10 days after giving birth didn't cause any complications at all for me and everything was just great...we've been going at it since. ;)
K. Erin - posted on 10/21/2009
my doctor told me 6 weeks after my c-section so that I was appropriately healed. We waited 4 weeks...couldn't help it :) It wasn't painful or anything and I will say I am lucky for that after reading some of these other posts...i did insist on wearing the maternity bra during just so I wouldnt squirt milk at him but other than that all was well.
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