How long after birth would you say to wait to resume sex and why?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Msmabern - posted on 06/05/2013

10

0

1

How long after stillbirth would you say to wait to resume sex and why? is stillbirth and life birth sex waiting period the same or different?

User - posted on 10/24/2009

7

20

0

with my first one i waited the full 6 weeks but with the second i waited 4 weeks! the doctor told me no earlier then 4 weeks! even though i still felt uncomfortable! but waiting 6 weeks was hard!

Jasara - posted on 10/24/2009

3

4

0

i cant say for everyone, bc everyone is diffrent and only you know your own body. but i waited a week afterwards. some how i still had those crazy hormones flowing i guess. for the first time hubby was the one who was worried. i couldnt wait. like i said everone is diffrent

Kristin - posted on 10/30/2009

25

124

1

they say 6 wks but i think i had sex after 3 weeks it all depends on how comfortable it is plus i was pretty much only spotting at 3 weeks after having my son

This conversation has been closed to further comments

124 Comments

View replies by

Kim - posted on 10/30/2009

12

26

0

my doctor told me after i had my daughter to not have sex for a min of 6 weeks, because you are still very fertal after giving birth and it will up your chances for another little one. i actually only waited 5 weeks tho.

Mary - posted on 10/30/2009

10

28

1

doc says 6 weeks. but everyone else is right on. when your ready. my first child we made it to 4 weeks. my second 1 week.

Brenda - posted on 10/25/2009

12

23

0

I waited 6 weeks. I had my checkup at that time and was told it was ok to resume all normal exercise including sex. It was also a good excuse to say no since I was to freaking tired to anyway. lol

Monica - posted on 10/25/2009

20

31

1

Recommended after you visit your OB at your 6 week appointment so they can give you clearance. however, I had a few people tell me that since they had a c-section and didn't dialate, they did it sooner. I had a c-section but did dialate to 10cm so I waited to see my doctor, just to be safe.

Mandie - posted on 10/24/2009

38

27

0

You should wait 6 weeks. Having a baby puts your body through alot of trama, It needs that time to readjust. Really don't want to push yourself to much, No need to chance damage to yourself. You need to be 100% for the baby!

Elisha - posted on 10/24/2009

65

9

5

The nurses & doctors recommend waiting until your 6 week checkup to make sure everything is healed up etc.. But I think you should resume sex when you feel comfortable this might be earlier or later than 6 weeks. Its up to the individual.

User - posted on 10/24/2009

4

8

0

i think me and my partner almost went three weeks so i told my midwife cos i worried weed caused damage but she said dont worry about it some women dont even make it out of the maternity word without some sneaky sex in the showers so i wouldnt worry too much it all depends on you your body and essencially that its not sore or uncomfertale so just trust ur own body itll let you no if you should stop and ur partner should understand aswell cos well uv just been streched lol

Noldy - posted on 10/24/2009

6

15

1

I waited the 6 weeks. I had a C-section so I was still in pain and needed to heal also you are still so furtil at that point your period may never come and you might be pregnant again without knowing it. That happens ALOT

Christal - posted on 10/24/2009

181

33

22

i tore so i was advised to wait 6 weeks. and i did wait the six weeks. i'm glad i did too, cause my daughter is almost 10 months and it is still sore where i tore.

Jayme - posted on 10/24/2009

15

33

0

With my first child I waited 4 months, just because he was my first child and I was scared it may hurt. My second child I only waited 4 weeks. They say to wait atleast 6 weeks but you know your body better than anyone- including your doctor, so when your ready and comfortable, do it. Just remember it's much more easier to get pregnant after birth so take precautions...unless you don't care! =]

Danielle - posted on 10/24/2009

915

38

38

I think you should wait until you feel like you're ready...give a try gently and if it works great, if not wait another week and try again.

You might think I'm crazy but I had sex one week after I delivered my son through c-section and it was great. I had no problems whatsoever.

There's no need to rush it either...if it's been over 6 weeks and you still feel uncomfortable with sex than wait until you are completely ready.

Brandy - posted on 10/24/2009

4

2

1

They tell you 6 weeks to make sure you're healed completely. But with my last one we started at 2 weeks. But you have to listen to what you're body is telling you. Make sure it not uncomfortable to you.

Gemma - posted on 10/24/2009

9

26

0

i had a e-csection and i started having sex again about 2 weeks after lol! but then i was feeling abit more up to it lol!

Shayna - posted on 10/24/2009

214

0

28

I have a very active sex life with my hubby. After my first born when I stopped bleeding at 4 weeks I was the one prawling him. They say wait until 6 weeks, but when you feel you ready then do so gently.

Allison - posted on 10/23/2009

7

6

1

Depends, I waited 5 weeks. We tried after 4 weeks(once the bleeding stopped) but it hurt to much & my stitches had not fully dissolved. I wanted to, but could not. It was very frustrating. The next time we tried (a week later) it was ok.. Don't force it, I know it can be very frustrating. If you feel any pain, stop....your body is not ready. It might be a little uncomfortable, but not painful the first time after the baby. You will know when your body is ready. Just take it slow & easy. Also, be very careful because you are very fertile right now. Good luck!!!

Stephanie - posted on 10/23/2009

3

4

0

i think 6 months is the best because the wound is totally healed it no longer bleed anymore.

Simone - posted on 10/23/2009

150

20

12

it just depends on how you feel. i had my daughter 9 weeks ago now and me and my partner have started havin sex about 4 weeks after she was born, but i had a c section so i wasn't worried about down there. i would say, just take your time and see how it goes.

[deleted account]

We tried 3 1/2 weeks after Harry was born but it hurt too much so we stopped. Tried again at 5 weeks and it was much better.

Elin - posted on 10/23/2009

44

42

2

Im not one to always follow what the doctor says, but on this one, WAIT!! Wait until your six week check up so that oyu know everything is healed! You don't wanna tear anything or do more damage to your body! 6 weeks isn't that long!! Satisfy your man in the meantime!

Queenee - posted on 10/23/2009

17

18

0

As a nurse I would have to say that you should wait the recommended 6 weeks, or until your doctor clears you. Most women need time to heal and if you have an open would or laceration from tearing you can be prone to an infection. Also some women have been know to not wait the recommended 6 weeks and not use protection and get pregnant.

Hayley - posted on 10/23/2009

3

35

0

as soon as you and your partner are ready you may find you are really in the mood for it or maybr youll find you just cant be bothered i find most kids have a hidden sex radar as soon as you think about it the cry ,want a feed or change so step 1 find time to do it

Kristen - posted on 10/23/2009

74

33

2

My hubby and I only made it to three weeks. We were both ready, and I felt like my body was healed enough for me to be comfortable. Take it slow. And USE protection.

Fiona - posted on 10/23/2009

34

16

1

well six weeks but i was to scared to so i just waited til i was ready so id say just wen u feel ready to

Ashley - posted on 10/23/2009

46

34

4

Well, if your not having any pain from giving birth anymore then you should be alright. It's just whenever you feel ready unless your doctor tells you otherwise. My sister wasn't in any pain afterwards and resumed sex like a week afterwards. And her doc was ok with it.

Kelly - posted on 10/23/2009

12

22

0

they say 6 weeks but we did after 3 just make sure you use contraception has you can get caught really easily

Karissa - posted on 10/22/2009

8

20

4

Lots of reply's, lol, but almost all of them are the same (i couldn't read them all). The doctor's say 6 weeks to be safe. Some (poor) women bleed that long! I didn't with my three kids, but I did wait the 6 weeks. I felt up to it sooner, and probably could've, but in my opinion, just because you've stopped bleeding doesn't mean you're not at risk of an infection. In my opinion, I feel that when you've stopped bleeding, it's like a cut getting a scab (i know, wierd annalagy). It may be done bleeding, but now it needs time to heal fully. I'd wait until you get the go ahead from your Doctor, but if the mood strikes, and you feel right... Who am I to stop you!!!! ;) lol

Betsy - posted on 10/22/2009

18

31

1

You should wait until the 6 weeks because those 6 weeks are the most fertil and you can become pregnant right away and also wait to be completely healed if you had any stitches due to a cut or tear...After that use protection and a personal lubricant like KY because you are going to be real dry down there and it can hurt when you have intimacy...Good luck!

Kim - posted on 10/22/2009

23

23

3

Doctor's say 6 weeks but I didn't wait that long. To warn you, it's not the same down there for a while and for me it wasn't enjoyable the first few times. But every woman is different and they heal at different rates. If you experience no pain, then go for it

Angela - posted on 10/22/2009

46

47

3

At least wait till your bleeding has stopped. Then do what you feel is comfortable. If you feel back that you arn't providing sex to your lover and feel obligated, just tell him. Babe i just gave birth and i love you but my body isn't ready. you could always offer him other love too .

Shannon - posted on 10/22/2009

1

4

0

Its when ur most comfy down there, I was sore for 6weeks. But be warned, it does hurt the first time. feels like the first time all over again...lol

Kristine - posted on 10/22/2009

1

39

0

With my first child, I did as the doctor told me. I waited the 6 weeks. Well minus a week. With the second I couldn't be bothered after I got the go ahead and with my 3 I had not a choice but to wait 6 weeks or more due to the fact that I had gotten my tubes tied. I had to wait two months. But if you feel ready and the bleeding has stopped and the stitches are healed than by all means resume normal life before you had your little one. Only you know when your body is ready.

Anna - posted on 10/22/2009

2

6

0

They doctors want you to wait at least six weeks so your body can recover from what it went through during labor. Also that is when you can get pregnant again very easily if you don't use the right protection

Bethany - posted on 10/22/2009

2

4

1

We all know the obvious 6 weeks that the doctors advise, I've heard some moms say they do after one week and some two months. It just depends on your situation. If this is your first, know that its common to not be interested because of hormones and changing dynamics because of the new baby. I and so many others struggled with this after our children were born. Don't be too hard on yourself and work with your hubby to maintain the romance that was there before your bundle of joy arrived. Good Luck!

[deleted account]

WELL I HAD A C-SECTION SO I HAD TO WAIT SIX WEEKS BUT I STILL DIDNT FEEL LIKE HAVING SEX I JUST WANTED TO BOND WITH MY BABY AN GET THE FEEL OF BEING A MOTHER FOR THE FIRST TIME. THEN IT WAS BAC TO THE SEX.

Erica - posted on 10/22/2009

5

5

0

They say 6 weeks til you're fully recovered from giving birth. Personally, I waited 8 with my first because I had an episiotomy. Only waited 3 with the second and nothing bad came of it. lol

Anastasia - posted on 10/22/2009

12

30

1

You really should wait at least 2 weeks to 6 weeks. to get your body healed. during this time you are still bleeding from having your child. you also should think about birth control, is you are not ready to have another child . right now you can get preganent.

Shirley - posted on 10/22/2009

53

36

6

i agree with everyone that is saying to wait until you're ready. dr's say 6 weeks but i never made it that long with any of my 3. the longest i waited was 2 weeks. some women go through a stage where the idea of sex is abhorrent. others are easily aroused. i had a friend that wouldn't let her husband near her for 6 months after their son was born.

[deleted account]

depends on what type of birth you have and what your doctor tells you. but not right way your more likely to get preggers again or you could hurt yourself. BE CAREFUL! :)

April - posted on 10/22/2009

3

8

0

I say whenever u feel u are ready. If it hurts then stop! Your body will tell you. We waited 2 weeks. Everything was fine. Not that we had sex all day or anything....i think once u quit bleeding is a good sign...but definitely if it hurts then stop.

Erica - posted on 10/22/2009

2

14

0

ok they say 6 wks. part of the reason is so that u heal properly. the other reason u wait is so u dont get pregnant again. unless u r ready to have another kid i'd wait. my mom never waited the six wks and has 4 daughters all less then a yr apart. i waited even though i healed after 4wks. wasnt ready for another kid

Robin - posted on 10/22/2009

17

10

1

Wow! You ladies are all incredible!! The doctor gave us the go ahead at 6 weeks which was when we did it for the first time - but it was very uncomfortable - and I had about zero desire. It didn't start feeling normal again and the desire didn't start coming back until about 12 weeks postpartum.

[deleted account]

My husband and I couldn't hold out longer than 10 days. He was really gentle with me and we used a condom so as to ensure that his cum wouldn't cause any complications. I didn't tear however when I gave birth and had no complications, I suppose that this helped.

Having sex 10 days after giving birth didn't cause any complications at all for me and everything was just great...we've been going at it since. ;)

Lindsay - posted on 10/21/2009

1

20

0

6 weeks. Your uterus is like an opened wound after having a baby. Anything going into the vagina poses risk of infection!

K. Erin - posted on 10/21/2009

125

17

6

my doctor told me 6 weeks after my c-section so that I was appropriately healed. We waited 4 weeks...couldn't help it :) It wasn't painful or anything and I will say I am lucky for that after reading some of these other posts...i did insist on wearing the maternity bra during just so I wouldnt squirt milk at him but other than that all was well.

Heidi - posted on 10/21/2009

52

6

3

the 1st time after i had my son was probably 8-9 weeks but honestly it has just started to get enjoyable and my son is 3 `1/2 months, just make sure you take it slow! and listen to your body

Manuela - posted on 10/21/2009

9

10

0

at least wait for the 6 weeks your doc told you to wait for, but me personally I waited for 3 months, ( i'm haitian) the hot baths,hot washes, it hurts, but it's a must for us.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms