How long did you wait before having 2nd child?

Tawana - posted on 06/12/2011

Wow, I'm glad you have the same question I have. I just don't know. My son is now 21 months and Im trying to decide when to have another. I know "time is running out" but I just want to be able to plan everything this time....idk

Emma - posted on 07/11/2009

I had my Daughter Nov 2006 And my son was born Mar 2008 a mear 14 month gap, it was hard for the first 6 months, but now they keep each other entertained, share there toys and sweeties with out having to be asked. they are a team ( not always a good thing when they gang up on me ...LOL ) if you can take the madness i think a small gap is great. But if you go this route be prepared for some feelings of o my god what have i done but only in the begining.

Yvonne - posted on 07/09/2009

hi i had a lil girl when i was 21 and now she is nerly 3 we hav decided to try for nother one.....hav always wanted more kids its only now that i feel ready for more..both in my emotions and financially it woulda been selfish for me to hav another one too soon.....everyone is different it really depends on how u feel ..no one can tell u when u should or shouldnt

Nataly - posted on 07/09/2009

well i had my 1st at 18 and my 2nd at 23 it felt like starting from scratch.. my hubby n i wanted another and planned getting prego NOvember2008 so they could be 2 years apart but i gave birth november 2008 so they are 1yr n 3 months apart... it's hard having a 1yr and a month old i think 2 or 3 years is okay even 4 but after that it will feel like you have never done this before...jajaja

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2009

My oldest just turned 6 in may and my youngest will be 3 in september. I wanted them a little closer together but had miscarriage. We are currently thinking about #3 and hopefully this time we'll have a girl if not oh well! That means another boy:)

Katie - posted on 07/08/2009

My daughter will be 2 in September, and everyone keeps asking me when we're going to have another one. Blah, I hate those questions. I personally want to wait until my daughter is out of diapers before I worry about another one. We really can't afford another one at the moment. But If one should happen to surprise us, that would be fine too. My husband asked for a long time when we were going to have another one, but I think he understands I'm just not ready. (I had a traumatic birthing expirience)

Nicky - posted on 07/08/2009

i waited 8 long years!!

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2009

my kids are 5 years and 11 days apart but i have a hard time getting preggo which explains the gap

Penny - posted on 07/08/2009

a feel sorry 4 u sandra when ur twins r older lol as am a twin a have a twin sister n we still fight like cat n dog lol even tho when we were younger we cudnt b seperated lol xxxx

Sandra - posted on 07/08/2009

Well i had my daughter on July 11th 2008 at 12:41am! And two minutes later i had my son! Lol...Yes i have twins! I think to have children close in age is a blessing. They both are different lil people but i can tell they will have a very close relationship (even if they do whack eachother in the face!) It also depends on yourself if you feel ur ready and if your body is ready!! Goodluck with it all!!!

Penny - posted on 07/08/2009

a had my son at 17yrs old hes now nearly 4 n am expecting a lil girl due in november so theres goin 2 b a 4yr gap which me and my partner had planned it all depends on when u feel ready 2 have another child xxxx

Kelly - posted on 07/07/2009

Well....i have only one child right now and he is almost 8 months old...and we have decided to try for another when our son is about 18 months old, that would make them about 2-2 1/2 years apart, my sister and i are 2 years and 2 weeks apart and we are the best of friends, most of the time but we still have our fights like most siblings.....but i want to have at least one more child, maybe two more but i guess we will wait and see....i would just make sure that you can handle them, money wise and mentally, they say that going from one child to two children is hard, but after two it doesn't really make much differance......

Sarah - posted on 07/07/2009

My fiance and I have two boys together. Our first son is 2, and our second is almost 10 months. So they are about 16-17 months apart. I've always wanted mine close. They always have someone to play with. My fiance actually just got custody of his 3 year old daughter ( i call her my daughter, too, i love her like shes my own) so her and our first son are actually closer in age than the boys! It requires a lot of patience, especially when they are all in cranky moods, or are all demanding different things at the same time! But overall its worth it, they are play mates, we are getting the hardest stages out of the way basically at the same time..I love having them so close in age..They all kinda help eachother out in a way too. the older one basically is teaching our middle one how to talk, the baby is already trying to talk because he sees the older ones doing it. Our first son seemed kinda lonely before our second son came along, and before my fiances daughter came to live with us. They are all very happy kids. It all depends on if you are ready!!

Jessica - posted on 07/07/2009

i had my first child at the age of 19 and i waited a little over 3 years before i got pregnant with my second child so they are 4 years and 1 month apart

Laura - posted on 07/07/2009

I do agree with carrie - I am 6 years younger than my closest sister and have a hard time relating to my sisters because of the age difference. That being said have kids close together is hard on mind and body.

Carrie - posted on 07/07/2009

I got pregnant with my daughter at 17 and had her when I was 18. Then I got pregnant with my son at 20 and had him when I was 21. I know I was young when I had my first child but when it came to decide if I wanted another one or not I decided yes cause I already had one. As to how long to wait in between my decision was at my age right now I am 26, my sister is 18, and my brother is 11. Thats alot of years in between us and none of us are close at all because of the age differences. So I said when I have my kids they are going to be close in age but not to close. Right now my daughter is 8 and my son is 5. Hope this helps you out!

Nicole - posted on 07/07/2009

I beleive how long you should wait is different for every one. Ask your self how far apart you want your children, sometimes the closer they are the harder it is and vice versa. Think about school as well when one will start and finish, it may be helpful to you in the future to plan financially for their college schooling. Ultimately its one of those things I beleive you will just know by instinct. Alot of being about being a mother and making decisions rides on your natural instinct. I beleive following that is often the best advice given.

Crystal - posted on 07/07/2009

This is a good question, because I am also wondering when my husband and I should go for Number Two.
Jami, your kids are going to have so much fun growing up together! That is just like my brother and me; he was born 13 months after me and we have always been the BEST of friends!!

Leanne - posted on 07/07/2009

It all depends on how you feel are you ready to have another baby I had my first at 25 we started trying again 5mths later for no 2 it took awhile but there is 18mths between them only reason we had them close as my husband and his brother are only 9 mths apart (my husband was 3 mths premature) and he like how close they are.

Ana - posted on 07/07/2009

i have my son at 22 and now that he is 15months with are staring to plan the second one we want them to be about 2years apart

Jami - posted on 07/07/2009

At 24 years old I had my first(girl) and when she was 4 months old I found out I was 1 month pregnant with my second(boy). They are 12 months & 23 days apart!!

Laura - posted on 07/07/2009

I had my first at 23 (c/s), 17 months later my second (vbac), 17 months after that my third (vbac). By design because my husband and his brother are 16 months apart and that is what he wanted. We are now trying to decide if/when we should have another. We want 4 children, but I feel my body needs a break.