How long did you wait to have your second baby?

Rachel - posted on 03/22/2010

My husband and I got pregnant with our 2nd when our 1st was 11 months old! When Chaise was born, Skylar was 20 months. It was actually harder to have Chaise so close to Skylar cause she didn't quite know what was going on and would get a little jealous every now-and-again. I wish we would've waited atleast a year until Skylar was older, but i will never have any regrets about it.

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

My kids are 4 years apart. I have a 7 month old and a 4 year old(almost 5 year old). We planned our kids to be 4 years apart because it is a lot easier this way. My 4 year old can do mostly for himself and loves to help out with his sister. She loves watching him be goofy and laughs at him. He loves to entertain her. I wouldn't have my kids 2 years apart, but that is my opinion. It would be hard to have two kids that little.

AnnMarie - posted on 03/22/2010

Well I have a 3 year old a 9 month old and I'm 6 weeks pregnant. I think it will be good for them to be so close in age they will have lots fun together and always have someone there own age to play with

April - posted on 03/22/2010

There is a 3 year 9months between my boys and I love it my 4 year old is such a big help with my 5 month old. It all depends on how you feel about having them close together or kind of apart. 2 years is a good age apart.

Ashley - posted on 03/22/2010

i had my second baby when my oldest was 22 months old.

Meagan Mary Fisher - posted on 03/22/2010

My sister and I are a year and day 8 apart and we hated it. People treated us like twinswhich I think is a reason why we do not get along. We are 25 and 24 now and to this day we still do not see eye to eye. My younger brother and sister (yes there are 4 of us) are almost 3 years part and they have one of the best relationships in the world. My son is 18 months and we are talking about getting pregnant around his 2 second birthday which will make them also 3 years apart and I think that this is a good age difference. Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

I didn't wait long at all. Not purposely but my son was 2 months old when my daughter was conceived. Having them so close was hard at first but they love each other so much and are so close. I love it. They were both potty trained at the same time. Hope this helps.

Dawn - posted on 03/22/2010

my first was born on may 14 of 2009. im 4 weeks pregnnt with my second which means ll give birth in december of this year. im happy they will only be 18 months apart. the only problem im having is my first was a premie. hopefully my second will not be. good luck to you tho.

Sarah - posted on 03/22/2010

2 years between pregnacies are what is recommended. That way your body and your hormones are back in shape. My 2 older children are 16 months apart with the 3rd one 2 years and month apart. They are each others best friends. Add a second child whenever you feel the time is right, just let big brother know you'll love him just the same and everything will be great!

Colleen - posted on 03/22/2010

my kids are 22 months to the day apart and it is greaet i dont think i would have wanted then any further apart then that. it was a week after my son turned one that i got pregant again

Dominique - posted on 03/22/2010

I had my son nine years ago and am expecting my second child in the next two weeks. It really depends on your life style and how you think having another child will fit into your family and schedule.

Angela - posted on 03/22/2010

i have 3 kids and my oldest is 4 and my 2nd is 2 and my 3rd is 9 months i would rather have them close my labor went easy and you don`t feel as bad its easy to take care of them when there around that same age because the toys and cartoons lol i dont know if that help but i hope it does

Susan - posted on 03/22/2010

My daughter,Kacie was 21 months old when I had my son Logan. She just loves him so much. She always wants to give him a kiss...when he's getting tired she will give him his blanket, when he spits up, she'll run for the receiving blanket and try wipe him up and now she always tells anyone...even strangers "shhhh baby sleeping" lol she's soo cute. I figured having them close together would help them stay close. I have 2 older half-brothers that I'm just getting to know well recently but my brother and sisters are all 2yrs apart and were really close :D

Katrina - posted on 03/22/2010

I had my second son when my first son was 14 months and now hes 20 months and my second son is 6mo and they get along great. I think that if you have them closer together that they will have more fun together. but trully its what you think is the best thing to do. hint: Its a lot of fun

Amanda - posted on 03/21/2010

I conceived my son almost exactly 8 months after i had my daughter. It's hard having them super close together.

Kyeisha - posted on 03/21/2010

I got pregnant with our 2nd when our 1st was only 4 months

Jessica - posted on 03/21/2010

Well I am currently 21 weeks pregnant with our second daughter and our first just celebrated her first birthday. While it wasn't planned that way we are excited. The idea was to start "trying" after she turned one but it happened much sooner than we expected. I think that 2 years apart would work out fine but I also think it should be what the two of you feel is right. Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 03/21/2010

Our second baby was born just before our first turned 3 years. I think that it worked for us because she was ready and understood that a baby takes alot of time and attention. She is very helpful, we call her our mini mommy.

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2010

I have a 13 month old daughter and my husband and I decided we wanted to try for our second a little before she turned one. We just found out we are 6 weeks pregnant so the babies will be about 21 months apart. I hope this is a good gap between them.

Christina - posted on 03/21/2010

We had our second child when my son was two years old. I have read alot of parenting books and they say that is a good time to have more is two years apart. Hope this helps you.

SarahJane - posted on 03/21/2010

My husband and I are using condoms for birth control.. our son is almost 8 months old. My husband and I are considering another child.

Stacy - posted on 03/21/2010

We got pregnant with our son when our daughter was 6 months old. They are 15 months apart. It's working out great for us :)

Rita - posted on 03/21/2010

It's really up to you...a 2 year gap is pretty good. I got pregnant with our daughter Addison when my son Adyn was 3 months old. It wasn't a planned pregnancy but, she's a blessing! They're 1 year and 2 days apart. Yep...spring break got us twice LOL!!

Monica - posted on 03/21/2010

Personally I like having them closer together

Alicia - posted on 03/21/2010

my lil one is only7week and my oldest is 18months i think. that if ur son is easy like sleeping thur the night and started to go to the bathroom ok somewhat and able to talk good i would go for it my son loves to talk and sing and sleeps really good so we had r second one and it and lil girl. she alil hard then he was too. but think about that to when u want a 2nd one can u handle or can the older kid handle not getting all the attention anymore and have to share my son loves his lil sister.

Alicia - posted on 03/21/2010

my lil one is only7week and my oldest is 18months i think. that if ur son is easy like sleeping thur the night and started to go to the bathroom ok somewhat and able to talk good i would go for it my son loves to talk and sing and sleeps really good so we had r second one and it and lil girl. she alil hard then he was too. but think about that to when u want a 2nd one can u handle or can the older kid handle not getting all the attention anymore and have to share my son loves his lil sister.

K. Erin - posted on 03/21/2010

my son and daughter are 6 years apart...we didn't plan it, but waited til we were financially able to handle another child...when that didn't happen we just thought that if we don't have another now, we never will...my son is the oldest...he is now 8 and my daughter is now 2. It's hard, so hard, having them so far apart. My son didn't take it well at first and still doesnt sometimes. And it;s like starting all over again...but it's getting fun now...terrible two's and terrible 8's...super fun! :)

Serena - posted on 03/21/2010

i have three girls 11 7 and 3. they are all 4 years and 2 months apart. we did not plan this but the age differance does help. they older they are they more help i have gotten

Charlene - posted on 03/21/2010

my son was 16 month when i had his lil sister now hes 19 month and baby is 12 weeks he love his little sister, i dont regret having them close together and personaly i think its better to have them close together.

Megan - posted on 03/21/2010

My daughter was 8mths when we fell pregnant with our son. There is 17 mths between them

Kristie - posted on 03/21/2010

My daughter is 8 months old and we are trying to get pregnant now. I want my kids to grow up close to each other, my mom space me and my sister and brother out alot and it sucked.

Alicia - posted on 03/21/2010

i waited until my daughter was 4 was not okay with that at first but it has worked out great she helps out alot and makes it not a stressful and they still have that bond

Brittney - posted on 03/21/2010

I have a four year old who is an only child. I want another baby but my ex-husband would never agree. Now she seems very lonely and we both wish we would have had one when she was about two, so they could be playmates, with out a huge age differance.

Kristina - posted on 03/21/2010

• Timing pregnancies less than 18 months or more than five years apart could raise the odds of the second baby being born prematurely, at low birth weight, or small for gestational age



I couldn't help but laugh about that, my daughter was 5 and a half when her brother was born at 10lbs 2oz 22inches delivered ON his due date. Guess he's not a statistic :P



But in all seriousness I waited the 5 years because my daughter was born when I was 17 and having another child at that age when she wasn't planned just wasn't happening. My husband and I have decided we're ok with a large gap between our son and the last baby we plan to have because right now it's not financially/timewise possible to have another.

AnnMarie - posted on 03/21/2010

I waited 4 years so you I didn't have 2 in diapers. LOL

Jennifer - posted on 03/21/2010

I am 5 and a half months pregnant already, and I have a daughter who is 14 months. She will be 18 months old when this next one comes. We figured that even though it will be tough for the first 6 months, as I will be at home with them both, trying to entertain my oldest whilst breastfeeding my newest will be difficult, but we'll take it one day at a time. After that, i should be a little less difficult. I am already training my first to sleep in a bed, so everything will be available for the next. My oldest will atleast help out when the new one can sit and play nicely, coz then they can entertain each other, which is what I did with my sister, as we are 18 months apart aswel, and my mother did is all alone, no help. She's my biggest role model. Anything is possible, we as moms can do anything, even though we do break down sometimes and wish we weren't going through it... We are only human! But we love our children, and we can take care of many babies close in age. Its encoded in us.

Debra - posted on 03/21/2010

my daughter will be 3 this august, i always wanted my kids 2 yrs apart bc thats how me and my brither was and were always closer than me and my sis who is 4 yrs older than me. same with my husband and his bro and sis too. hubbys been in korea though so its been impossible to have another when we wanted so were gonna start trying when he comes home in about 3 weeks. my daughters a major handful but im hoping by then shell calm down a lil bit.

Heather - posted on 03/21/2010

My husban d was in Iraq when I was pregnant with our 1st daughter. Now we both knew we wanted more kids and we agreed that we would wait until our daughter was 1 before we would start trying for anothee one. She is not almost 19 months old and I am very proud to say that I am almost 7 months pregnant with our 2nd daughter. We both wanted our kids to be close in age. Especially me sincemy brother and I are 14 months apart. I loved being able to have someone my age to play with when we were kids. And I knew I wanted the same for my kids. Now depending on how you feel about an age difference between your kids is how I would look at it. Sit down with your husband and decide if you both want your kids to grow up close in age or if you would rather there be a few years between them. But either way, you will make the right decision for your family and your lifestyle. I wish you all the best of luck and congratulations on your son!

Amanda - posted on 03/21/2010

My 2 girls are 4 and a half and 4 months and i have to say the age gap is kinda nice in the sense that my oldest understands a lot more and she is intrested in helping. I do wish that they were closer in age because the closer the are in age the better they usually play together ( i.e one is out grown the game the other wants to play) but either way there are advantages of both

Leanne - posted on 03/21/2010

hi there am a 25 year old with3 little girls age 9 7 and 4i waited till my oldest was a 1half before i decided to have anouther she was just over 2 when my middle child was born then i had my youngest when she was nearly 3 it was a good time to have her as they bring each other up my oldest enjoyed helping with the baby and getting her bathed and changed it makes there momd some much stronger that is my personal respons

Jessica - posted on 03/21/2010

my husband and I are thinking the same thing. Our daughter is 17 months and we don't want the siblings too close or too far apart, we've decided to wait till she's two.

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2010

My oldest daughter is 4 now and my youngest is 2 months. We waited almost 3/4 years. Seemed like we we tried forever. lol

Miz Supawoman - posted on 03/21/2010

14 months and then the pregancy!

Amber - posted on 03/21/2010

my oldest daughter was 10 months old when I got pregnant with my second daughter. My second child was unplanned, so it just kinda happened that way.

Shelby - posted on 03/21/2010

My first son was 7 months old when I found out we were pregnant with our 2nd son. they are 16 months apart and I wouldn't change a thing. I never got used to sleeping through the night or not having to change diapers. Plus I still had al my baby stuff. Good luck but I say sooner is better!!

Heather - posted on 03/21/2010

My daughters are 16 months apart. While it can be chaos at times (one child can be chaos at times...lol) it's also alot of fun getting to watch how Mikayla (18 months) interacts with her little sister Isabella(2 months). They adore eachother. Mikayla loves to help me with her sister, and whenever she is around Isabella loves to stare and smile and coo at her sister. I wouldn't trade it for anything. We want to try for a boy, but we are going to wait a few years so we can enjoy our girls.

Rachel - posted on 03/21/2010

And by the way..... it's a fact that closer in age bond more. You can always have arguements, but all the siblings I've seen that are closer in age are there for eachother. My brother was 5 years older than me and tried to sell my to his kindergarten teacher for a dollar. He HATED me for at least the first twenty years of my life. You can't really expect a five year old not to be jealous... my son who is only 18 months older than my daughter.... he adores her. We play games together. It's not like he's on a completely different level than she is. Peek-a-Boo is still fun for him. He also has the ability to teach her everything he knows.... it seems that she understands him more than anyone :-)

Rachel - posted on 03/21/2010

My kids are 18 months apart. Awesome because they interact so much and there wasn't much jealousy to deal with, but I will tell you what.... being pregnant with a baby that's just starting to get into things.... very hard! Haha. My son was so confused when he couldn't sit/lay on the couch with Mommy anymore. He got pretty upset that I couldn't hold him too. He did not like that belly haha. Wouldn't change a thing though. He is two and a half and she just tirned one a couple months ago.... and they LOVE eachother. He gets mad if we're not all together!

Jade - posted on 03/21/2010

To be quite honest that is a good age gap.. The longer you leave it the harder it'll be on your eldest child. And you. They do say to have at least a 16 month age gap so your body can 'recover'. But yes it's about personal preference! We didn't plan to have a second baby but I ended up falling pregnant when our son was 4 months as I was on medication that counteracted the mini pill. My little man is 15.5 months and our little girl is now 2months. Best thing I could have even done. Just watching how much love he has for her brings a smile to my face ;D

Jernelle - posted on 03/21/2010

I am pregnant with my second child now. My first child is four. My husband and I started trying when he was three. A lot of people say close in age is good but I think it's all personal. I'm not for one buying two sets of diapers or preparing two bottles, I'm glad my son is old enough to help me when my husband isn't around.