how many of u's had postnatal depression?
Amanda - posted on 02/14/2010
When Emma was born she stayed in the NICU for a week (longest week of my life). With all the craziness of going to the hospital and home and back to the hospital it wasn't until she was home that i realized i had it. It's a scary thing i had just turned 22 and i didn't want anyone to know what i was going through in fear that they would see me as an unfit mom. When i finely told my mom and she told me i just had the baby blues but i know thats not what it was. Women NEED to talk about it more, and let other moms know that its ok and not your fault. I helped myself mostly by talking about it to my partner. Telling him how i felt inside and what i would like him to do to help. Meds were not an option for me so i just had to learn that its ok to ask for help and it is ok to let yourself take time for you, that does not make you any less of a mom. Also eating better and yoga are life saving when you can find the time! Emma is now two and some times i do feel blue but now i know when to ask for help.
Tabetha - posted on 02/14/2010
yep I dealt with post partum depression after all 3 of my kids were born. After the first child was born, I talked with my OBGYN and she suggested that I start taking (approx. 2 months before the due date of the second child) a very very small dosage of Zoloft. I believe she only gave me 25 ml. and I took it up to two months after I delivered. I used this method for my third child as well. I twas a wonderful way to feel like you could actually get through it and feel normal. I also went to counseling as well for awhile.
Amber - posted on 02/14/2010
I'm still struggling with it and have had it since the beginning. In fact, I had signs of depression during the pregnancy as well, though they went untreated until a few months ago. I've been on anti depressants as well as anti anxiety meds for a while now and will continue to be on them for a while yet. It's tough to deal with and you are most certainly NOT alone! I find that the more people I talk to the better I feel. Even with the meds I still have my down days. Do whatever you need to do to feel better, even if it means taking a day "off" and having somebody babysit. You don't just deserve it, you NEED it!
Alicia - posted on 02/14/2010
With my first son, I had it so badly that I probably should have been seeing a doctor. No one recognised it as PPD. It went on for almost a year. With my second one, I was fine until I went back to work. I had to abruptly stop breastfeeding when he was four months old because work didn't allow me the time or place to pump, and I think that contributed to my sudden depression. With my third, I was good for the most part. I cared for him and my bed ridden husband. I think what got me through without incident was the fact that I had a maternal/post partum couselor who came to me once a week. She helped me so much. She was there for me, making me feel confident and good about myself and my ability to manage my household. You are not the only one, trust me. PPD is very common. I would highly recommend finding a post partum counselor. I was given one for free through my local health and human services department. You could also ask your local hospital or clinic for resources. You should tell your midwife or OB about how your feeling and ask them for help as well. Being a mom is one of the most challenging, emotional jobs in the world. Your hormones are all out of wack, and you are physically drained from labor and delivery, sleep deprivation causes depression and even psychosis. We all know that new moms don't sleep much! Make sure you are resting at every opportunity you have, and eating properly. Forget about cleaning the house, it's not important. Find a friend to come help you with chores. Get out of the house for a little bit, so as to not isolate yourself, to a favorite coffee shop or play group.
Samantha - posted on 02/14/2010
Of course you aren't alone! I thought that I was for months though. Post partum was scary because you honestly believe that it will NEVER feel betterand you will always feel hopeless. Thanks to a very smart friend and Wellbutrin for a few months, it passed. Although deep down, I fear that one day it will creep back up.
Julie - posted on 02/14/2010
i think we all feel like that while we r going through it .But let me tell u so many of us get it and just dont admit it untill it gets to much to handle. Please do talk to someone about it i got it with my first child n it continued right through till my fourth over a period of 6yrs 6 mths because i had my children so close it just continued rather then got better, i thought i could handle it my own not admitting it or telling anyone untill i got so bad i was suicidle. I then got help and talk about it thankgod n now im much better. so anyone out there that has it my advice is as silly as u feel admit it and talk to someone anyone it really does help it takes time but it does help
Finnola - posted on 02/14/2010
i had post natal depression and depression during pregnancy. its really horrible thing to have to go thru! I only told my bf and best friend it helps to talk about how you feel. I keep a journal on how im feeling to especially if I feel like im having a bad day.
I hope everything works out ok and you shouldn't be ashamed x
i had postnatal depression too i found it really hard to get out of the cycle i felt i was a rubbish mum and didnt deserve my son but the i found out about a support group in my area for this and got to meet other mums going through the same jst knowing i wasnt the only one feeling that way made me not feel as bad as i did
Anna-louise - posted on 02/13/2010
i had postnatal depression after i had my first all the way though my pregz of my sec. nd i felt so ashamed of it, i didnt wanna tell anyone bout how i was feelin or anyfing. but u feel 90/100 % better in de end wen u do. over half de world hv som kind of depression it nofing to be ashamed of
Sheree - posted on 02/13/2010
I had depression too, i had to see a counsellor about it and it have been ok since. Still have my down days, but who doesnt. All mine was to do with my in laws and them not believing my husband was the father of our daughter and them not wanting anything to do with their granddaughter. My maternal health nurse diagnosed it at one of my check ups and sent me to the counsellor straight away. it really helped in my situation :)
Tannisha - posted on 02/13/2010
After I had my daughter I had very severe post partum depression. I had moved from the United States to live with my husband in Germany. He was working all the time and I was always alone. My daughter was only a few months old and it was very hard to deal with. I believe I had it for almost the first year of her life. Do not feel like you are the only one who has gone through it. There are a lot of us women. I agree with Angelica you should try talking to family or friends. If it helps maybe even a counselor like I did. Take care ♥
Angelica - posted on 02/13/2010
i still have it pretty bad. my daughter was in the NICU for a little over amonth and once i got her home it just felt like there was no way life could get better and i feel like i am not happy when i know deep down that i am. its okay and its normal dont feel bad k try talking to someone. they are going to medicate me but its not for everyone sometimes it just helps to know that your not alone. i hope you start feeling better.
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