how many years/ months is there between your babies??

Chelsea - posted on 04/25/2010 ( 164 moms have responded )

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thinking of having baby # 2 but we are debating the age gap at the moment

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Mos - posted on 04/29/2010

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I have 4 children, all about 18 months apart on average. I have a couple of friends who has a child every year. Then I have lots of friends who have children every 2 years apart and lots of others who have them every 3 years apart and a few who wait longer. The point is, it doesn't matter when you have them. Babies are a lot of work regardless of when you have them. What matters is that the timing feels right to both you and your spouse.

Tawny - posted on 04/28/2010

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Mine are 20 months apart and they are so close. I don't think it matters on the age though. My brother and I are 5 years apart and very close. we don't remember ever fighting like the rest of us did. I think it has everything to do with how you raise them!

Ashley - posted on 04/28/2010

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My boys are 2 years apart exactly. 1 was born im may and the other in April. It's hard work because when 1 get's out of toddlerville the other is just entering and sometimes you feel like It will never stop, but I sit back and think about the fact that my boys are closer relationship wise, and my youngest is always following the oldest, plus it helps with their talking, learning and their communication skills. The best part is they grow up 2gether and you'll get personal time more when they get older versus waiting 2 long and then having to start all over again.

Carrie - posted on 04/28/2010

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We had our 2nd baby when our 1st was 23 months 1 day old. We were a little nervous about the time gap as well, but our pediatrician said that 2 years between typically works out really well :) If you have a 2-yr-old and a new baby, there will still be outbursts/fits from the toddler, but he said that they see a lot less purposeful or malicious behavior with those age gaps. The 2-yr-old doesn't fully comprehend at that point, that the reason they're getting less attention is actually because of the baby. The baby may be in the middle of the toddler's tantrum, but the tantrum hopefully will not be directed at the baby :) This has proven true with our family, but all kids are different and handle changes in their own ways! Good luck on your decision!

Dona - posted on 04/28/2010

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i have two and im due in june and they all will be 5 years apart i had my daughter in 2000 my son in 2005 and this one in 2010 they are happy for their little sister but it will be hard starting over again i planned it with my first two but this one came as a surprise

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Danae - posted on 05/01/2010

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My first two are 22 months apart, and my third one is 12 months younger, they are all really close, but so far it is working out good...The third was not planned, but the younger two are boys...and my 2 1/2 year old loves mommying her brothers :D

Kelly - posted on 05/01/2010

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There is 3years & 4 months between my children. Harrison was in his last year at pre school every morning, so had the mornings together with Anderson. I feel this was a good age gap as Harrison understood about having to share mummy with his sister, & loved helping out with bathing etc They both have a good realtionship with each other.

Samantha - posted on 05/01/2010

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my kids are pretty close 17 months between my daughter and son I am pregnant with my third and they will be about 21 months apart. It is hard at first but my first two are 3 and 20 months old and really starting to play real well together:) Dad will have to help out to give both kids the attention they need, and the sleep you will need,lol.

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I have 2 children of my own. My son is 2 years and 8 months older than my daughter. I like somewhat of an age gap but I didn't want them to far apart either. I love how they have some of the same interest and are somewhat close in age because they play so well together. But I also have older stepchildren and like the 10 year boy, he gets annoyed at the 6 year old boy b/c he doesn't think he is old enough to play with him. My husband and I don't have any children together yet, but we are planning on it soon and I cannot wait!

Abby-lee - posted on 05/01/2010

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Between my No 1 and No 2 is 11 months, between No 2 & No 3 is 17 months and between No 3 & No 4 is 21 months. I always wanted as small a gap as possible and certainly less than 18 months because a baby 18+ months has greater memory than pre 18 months. So for example I was away 2 nights having No 2 and when I went back No 1 could not remember that I had ever been with out No 2 as he was so young.
When I had No 3, it took No 2 about 24 hours to forget she had once been the baby.
I lost a pregnancy at 11 weeks in between Nos 3 & 4 hence the 'big' gap between those 2. No 3 has never forgot she was the baby once and to this day still feels displaced (she is 10 now!). If you have a gap of 3 years or more you effectively have a series of only children as the older child is sufficently old enough to be reasoned with and also they are quite sure of their 'place' post 3 years.
Personally I couldn't imagine what you do with a 1,5,9 and 14 year old like a lot of my friends have. You can't all go any where together as every ones needs are so different. I also couldn't imagine getting rid of al the baby/toddler parafenalia, nappies and sleepless nights and all that to have to get it all out and go back to it all. I got every thing over and done with in one fell swoop and of course their interests are all simalar at the same time.
It is a very personal choice but I would strongly advice against a gap of between 19 & 35 months. None of mine had the 'terrible twos' quite as spectacularly as my friends who had their No 2 baby when No 1 was 2!!

Nathalie - posted on 05/01/2010

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Just under 3 years. My daughter was born January 4 2006 and my son was born November 19 2008...and just for comparison I guess my older sister and I are 1 year and 1 day apart

Elizabeth - posted on 05/01/2010

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WELL I WAITIED A WHOLE LIFE TIME MY KIDS ARE 10 YRS APART I DONT SUGGEST U WAIT THAT LONG I STILL CANT BELIEVE I DID SOON I WILL HAVE A 2YR OLD AND A 13 YR OLD....................................WHAT WAS I THINKING

Jacqueline - posted on 05/01/2010

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My boys are 18 months apart, they weren't planned but so far it's turning out to be great b/c they can play together at times w/out having playdates. Love it and I keep hearing it'll be better once they get older.

Michelle - posted on 05/01/2010

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hi there is 2yrs 10mths between my eldest two and 2yrs 6mths my son and my youngest daughter i find its a lovely age gap not too close that i cant cope lol but just nice for them to grow up together x

Diana - posted on 05/01/2010

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my babies are 6days away from being 18months apart and i LOVE IT!!! they are SOOOOOOOO very close! my daughter is the oldest and she is VERY motherly with her baby brother! i would not change it for the world, we want 2 more kids the same age apart, but baby 2 and 3 are going to be over 2 years apart!! GOOD LUCK with the debate!!

Shiralee - posted on 05/01/2010

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Hi My daughter is 17 months old and im 14 weeks pregnant with my second. My daughter will be 23 months and i think it will be a good gap. My brother and I are only 12months and 9 days apart and we were always close and still are but my partner and i didnt want our kids quite so close. I think 18 months to 2 years is a good gap, but you also have to be ready. A friend of mine just had her second and her babies are 12months and 2 weeks apart and she doesnt reccommend it for anybody but loves being a mum and wouldnt change what she has for the world. It also helps to have a supportive man. Good luck you will know when the time is right!

Christina - posted on 04/30/2010

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I have 3 children, 2 boys and 1 girl. Our oldest son is 19 months older than our daughter, and she is 27 months older than our youngest son.

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2010

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my 2 boys are 3 years and 10 days apart. i have birthdays that are 2 weeks apart.

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I have three kids the first two are 101/2 mo apart(yes it was an accident) but the difference between number 2 and 3 was 4 years i notice more interaction between the older two and the youngest they like to try and teach her things but the oldest two have a close bond also because they are so close in age.

Tonya - posted on 04/30/2010

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i have three children they are 7,5,and 1 my oldest 2 are 2yrs and a day apart and they are 5 1/2 yrs and 3 1/2 yrs older than my youngest

Akeisha - posted on 04/30/2010

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My children are 8,5(6 in Oct), 4(5in Nov), and 3(4in Nov). I am also expecting my SON in a few weeks...I wanted my children to be close so that they can experience the fun of being learning things together!!!I don't think that I would have it any other way!

Carina - posted on 04/30/2010

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my first two there is 16months between them and it was and still is a bit of a challenge with them. and i am pregnant with my third and there will be 2yr and 7month difference between this one and my youngest.

Lily - posted on 04/30/2010

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My boys are 13 months apart. David turned to this month and Danny will be 1 next month. I wouldn't change it for the world, we planned it that way and now I am thinking about going at it again! Love those babies and it's great that they are close and that they play together. I recommend it!

Dolores - posted on 04/30/2010

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hello to you! I am 30 years old. My 2 daughters are 16 months apart..Although they were not planned at all..I am glad I had them this close its hard when they are babies because it is like having twins so its double the stuff but NOW, they are 7 and 9 and they are the best of friends and they help out and share the resp. of chores and they learn from each other. I am totally content with the age difference

Donna - posted on 04/30/2010

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My boys are 3years and 2 month apart I had my first son when I was 16 so I waited till I was older and stable and also married.

Kelly-anne - posted on 04/30/2010

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I have 2 boys and they are 1 day short of 18 months apart. The eldest was 3 in february and the youngest will be 2 in August. It's absolutely perfect for usbecause they are into the same things and it was planned, but there is no right or wrong age gap just what feels right for you. Good luck.

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My sons have 6 year between them. Jordin turned 6 in March and Max will be 4 months on the 8th of May.

Katie - posted on 04/30/2010

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we have 4 children the 6, 5 20 months 7 months 13 months between the first two then 4 years and then 13 months apart the last two i love it its been an adventure .. and still is

Christine - posted on 04/30/2010

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There is 4 years and 8 months between my daughters. I hate the age gap (I wish they were closer), but a divorce between the two kind of did not allow for anything else.

Amy - posted on 04/30/2010

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Well I am due in September with my second child, and my son will be 2 months from being 5. I will have my hands full since he will just start school for his first time (he has never been to daycare or anything) and my husband will be leaving (he is in the military) about a month after the baby is born if not sooner. But I am hoping since he will be older he will want to help out and not feel left out.

Missy - posted on 04/30/2010

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I pondered this a lot. Initially I wanted two years between my kids. When my daughter turned one, I was really loving spending my time with just her and really getting to know her. I just wasn't ready to have another one. So now that a full year has gone by and my daughter is now 2, I feel a lot more ready. We are going to start trying this summer so that we have three years between my daughter and the next one. This way, my daughter will be in preschool in the fall and I'll have some quality time to designate to the baby while she's in school.

Good luck!

Natassja - posted on 04/30/2010

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My kids are 9 and 11 they have a two year gap. I am currently trying to have a baby so that is a huge gap. I think the age difference dosent matter as long as you know that you will be okay starting from scratch and that you have the energy also lol.

Shirley - posted on 04/30/2010

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there is 20 months between my first and second and 2 yrs between second and third and there will be 16 months between third and fourth when I have the fourth in november

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I have two and they are 23 months apart. I don't want to add any more right now, but I am thinking of maybe one more once they are in school. Being a full-time student, wife, and mother is a lot of work and I have enough on my plate right now! But it's worth the work.

Kathy - posted on 04/30/2010

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I just recently had my 2nd daughter on April 15th. I also have a 4 year old. While i have to admit it is taking me a little while to get used to sleepless nights and bottles and diapers again. I still believe it's a lot easier and cheaper...lol....to have one child in diapers instead of two.

Shelley - posted on 04/30/2010

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my oldest will be 11 in oct. and theres 3 years between him and the second son, they both have the same birthday. my youngest is 15 months now and we are trying for number 4......

Danae - posted on 04/30/2010

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We are TTC for baby #2 and are going for 2 1/2 years apart. From everyone I have talked to and seen this seems about the right age gap give or take a few months. My Mom has 6 of us and my 2 oldest brothers were 13 months apart (way tooo close she says) then I was 2 1/2 years apart from them (she said her favorite age gap) and then my sister was 18 months behind me (also too close) and the youngest 2 are 4 years apart from each other which is too big of a gap between the 2 of them and was like starting over. Friends who have 2 under 2 have said it is crazy and if they could go back they would wait another 6 months. It really is a personal decision and how you think you will handle it best. For some a big gap means more one on one with each kid and for others the feeling of starting over again would frustrate them (this is me!). Too close and some may feel like they have twins at first, but then again they could be best friends!

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2010

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between me and my sister there are 14 mths, between my son and our second child (due oct 28) by the time the child is born there will be almost 4 yrs between the new baby and my son, but we had difficult circumstances that made it like that because we have been trying to get a second child since my son was only nine months old. hope this will help some :)

Stephanie - posted on 04/30/2010

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My first one was nearly 3 when we had our daughter. I really couldn't have picked a better time!! My boy was potty trained, so I didn't have to worry about buying diapers for 2, and still young enough to be a big "helper" to me! He loves his baby sister and they get along great!!

Hana - posted on 04/30/2010

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My husband and I were hoping that at least our first 2 would be 2 years apart. Mostly due to the fact that's he's in the Army and will be gone alot the next couple years. However, when our daugther was 5 months old we found out that I unexpectly got pregnant again. =P While it was very stressful at first, because it looks like my husband will miss another pregnancy and another birth, in a way, it'll be nice having our kids be so close together (13 months apart assuming this one doesn't come early like my daughter did). Hopefully they will be close. The only downside is being 13 weeks pregnant and trying to keep up with an almost 7 month old by myself has been very hard! She's scooting everywhere and almost crawling now. She's constantly getting into everything and is very independent! This makes mommy VERY VERY tired! =P

Libby - posted on 04/30/2010

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There is 22 months and 1 week difference between my Phoebe and Stephen. She loves him so much and wants to kiss and hug and hold him and I wouldn't have wanted them to be any further apart. It is hard to be pregnant and still have to pick up the other one, but it's worth it. They won't remember life without each other. :-)

Zukiswa - posted on 04/30/2010

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there's a 3-year-2-month gap between my kids and i think that anything between 1 year and 4 years should be fine. they get to grow up and discover things together, which can bring them closer (or cause them to fight)

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12 months and 3 weeks between my first (August 2 2007) and second (august 21 2007) and 16 months between my second and third (december 8 2007)...and I love the age gap...especially if you end up with the same sex...although I am a little tired of seeing the same outfit over and over..I had 3 boys!! My middle child has progressed so quickly having an older brother to learn with.

Sharon - posted on 04/30/2010

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there is 15 months between my kids and tbh i think its the hardest thing i have ever done but now they r older i can see the benfits holidays and they will never be without a friend always have a play mate

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my first and second are 2 yrs and 5 months apart. My second and third will be 1 month shy 4 yrs apart

Ana - posted on 04/30/2010

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That all depends on you. My aunt had her two boys one right after the other. And they get along okay. My mom had us apart, I have a sister who is 7 years older than me. A sister who is 8 years younger than me, and a brother who is 11 years younger than me. I want another baby, but I would prefer to have one before my baby turns 4. Don't get me wrong, I love my sisters to death, but I love the connection my lil brother and lil sister have. They are separate enough that they have their own needs, yet close enough that they are there for each other. Again, it all depends on how you want to have it. If you think you are ready for # 2 go for it! =D

Natalie - posted on 04/30/2010

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There is 14 months between my older 2 children, 17 months between 2nd and 3rd, 2.5yrs between 3rd adn 4th and 2.3yrs between 4th and 5th!

Helen - posted on 04/29/2010

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A 2 year gap is great I think, I have a 7 year old, 5, 3 and 1 year old who is nearly 2, so my youngest two kids are 16 months apart, a little close in age for me but as unplanned things go well you can't change a thing. I am also due in 6 months so yeah the two year age gaps lets your baby be the baby for the first two years happily and it doesn't seem like you miss out on any of those special moments you share.

Courtney - posted on 04/29/2010

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my babies are 11 months and five day apart had tre may 10, 2008 and brooklynn may 5, 2009 i love it that way but brooklynn was a surprise to me and my hubby but i love her so much i like the age my in-laws say better to get them in now!!! LOL

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