how many years/ months is there between your babies??
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Brean - posted on 04/28/2010
i only have one, but i can tell you how far apart me and my siblins are. =) my sister and i are 28 months apart and my brothers and i are 5 years and 10 months apart..... and i'm actually closer to my younger brother than my older sister.
Laura - posted on 04/28/2010
I got pregnant when my son was 19months & he was 27 1/2 months when our daughter was born. I think it's a perfect gap. He's almost potty trained so we only have 1 in diapers. Plus he's a little self- sufficient. We debated too. My husband wanted to wait about 3-4 years between & I wanted them a little closer inage. I won!!! Good luck!
Carrie - posted on 04/28/2010
We had our 2nd baby when our 1st was 23 months 1 day old. We were a little nervous about the time gap as well, but our pediatrician said that 2 years between typically works out really well :) If you have a 2-yr-old and a new baby, there will still be outbursts/fits from the toddler, but he said that they see a lot less purposeful or malicious behavior with those age gaps. The 2-yr-old doesn't fully comprehend at that point, that the reason they're getting less attention is actually because of the baby. The baby may be in the middle of the toddler's tantrum, but the tantrum hopefully will not be directed at the baby :) This has proven true with our family, but all kids are different and handle changes in their own ways! Good luck on your decision!
Jennifer - posted on 04/28/2010
my oldest and second child are 6 years apart. my 2nd and 3 child are just over 2 years apart and my 3 and 4th child are 22 months apart. i dont think there is a perfect age gap between the children. i love the way we did it. the only reason we waited so long between the 1st and 2nd is cause we wanted a house and toys and everything together for the next. we got that and now we have 4 lovely children..
Dona - posted on 04/28/2010
i have two and im due in june and they all will be 5 years apart i had my daughter in 2000 my son in 2005 and this one in 2010 they are happy for their little sister but it will be hard starting over again i planned it with my first two but this one came as a surprise
Emily - posted on 04/28/2010
My two are 18 months apart. i didn't plan to have sadie so soon. but the Lord blessed me. it is hard .. but sadie is now 8 months and crawling and doing so much earlier than my oldest girl. I hope they will best friends since they are so close.
Noelle - posted on 04/28/2010
my eldest turning 9 this yr and my youngest is 1 end of may and by god it feels like starting over again. an advantage is that he is great and really can helpme out but then he cant really play with her as such so if i was to go again id leave no more than 4-5 yrs apart
Susan - posted on 04/28/2010
I have a 4 year old boy, a 2 year old girl, and a 7 month old girl. I couldnt have planned the lapsed time any better. My first child was 16 months when I got pregnant with my second child. At that age, they don't worry to much with jealousy if you include them in what you do with the 2nd child. There is 1 year and 11 month difference in between my first child and second. The same for my third child, there is a 2 year 4 month gap in between my second and third.
Heather - posted on 04/28/2010
I'm 37 weeks with my second son. First son is 20 months. If this baby is 2 weeks late he might just make it to 21 months!
From what I've heard/read... less than 12 months is quite difficult and there are certain risks to the second pregnancy (low birth weight, miscarriage, prematurity etc) as your body hasn't had long enough to recover. But once your eldest child is 2 years old, they have a greater sense of self and are likely to be more affected by jealousy and sibling rivalry than a younger child who hasn't quite figured things out yet.
My main worry about our 20 month gap is how I'll cope with sleepless nights and still having to get up and stay awake to look after my toddler who has no idea and isn't old enough to help. But my hope is they'll be quite close and enjoy similar things as they get older... making life easier in the long run!
With a bigger gap, you'd get more quality time with the new baby (especially if the eldest is at school), but it's less likely they'll enjoy things together and be so close as their interests and ages would be so different!
Terri - posted on 04/28/2010
my mum had me and my sister 15months apart and i love the relationship we have, we're like best friends, she then had another when we were 8 and 7 and i love that relationship aswell, we look out for him and he knows we're there to talk to.
i've got a 2year old daughter and i'm 5months pregnant with a son, i'm hoping they have a similar relationship to me and my sister.
Hailey - posted on 04/28/2010
My son is 21 months (almost 22) and I am pregnant with my second (due in Sept). If I were to make it to my due date, they would be 2 years 2 months and a week apart. My brother and I were the same and I am very close to him, we have always gotten along very well also. My husband and his brother are 3 years apart and they get along as well. I think 2 or 3 years is good but that is just my opinion.
Danielle - posted on 04/28/2010
i have two kids my Daughter is seven and my son is six months! My daughter is a huge help with the baby and wants to be around him all the time! The only downfall is that i feel like a first time mom again because i forgot most of it!
Lezleyann - posted on 04/28/2010
I have 2 kids and there was a 16 month age gap, a little close together i know but as they have grown they're great company for each other and they get on so well and to be honest it was easier to have the 2 so close I am able to rear them together instead of waiting afew years and having to jump back into routine and sleepless nights, I was still in routine when had second so wasnt shock to my system !
Erica - posted on 04/27/2010
I have two girls and they are 15 months apart...not planned that way but now they are 6 and 5 yrs. old. They are best of friends and I'm glad we had them close together. It was hard at times but much easier now that they are older! We are planning on having another one once we leave Guam and go to our next base!
Crystal - posted on 04/27/2010
I am 30 and have 3 soms of my own, and 2 step daughters my first 2 sons are just under 3 yrs apart and then 8 yrs later I had my last! Having the 3 yr gap was nice, one leaving diapers, not to close but not to far apart, then i was nervous with the last one, it was like starting all over again LOL but having the older ones is a great help especially when you want to cook dinner, or take a shower!!!
Malinda - posted on 04/27/2010
my daughters are 14.5mths apart, and it is going really well, the eldest is really good with her little sister even help assist with feeding, i do find that it gets tiring but i am also working part time so that doesnt really help. I think if you can get into a good routine then it makes it alot easier. I love the fact that the girls are so close as they can share a room, clothes and toys. when the eldest came out of the cot the youngest went in so im not having to find storage place. My mum had me and my sister close and we have always been close and mum says it gets even easier as they get older cos they will have each other to play with. My eldest who is 21mths actually went up to the 6mth old the other day and asked her if she wanted to play, then grabbed the toy box and tipped toys out in front of her it was so cute!
Megan - posted on 04/27/2010
i have 2 boys that are 24 months apart... it was hell when they were little. 2 kids in diapers, 2 kids crying... now im pregnant with my 3rd (boy) and we will have a 7 year gap and a 5 year gap between them. now that they are older its much easier. they play with the same things. they love being together but i almost lost my mind for about 3 years.. going from 1-2 kids was like going from 1-5 kids for me...
Madysen - posted on 04/27/2010
mine are 8 months apart... my 2nd was born 10 weeks early. we were planning to wait til our older daughter was 2-3 years old...but that didnt work out as planned lol but thats ok. we're happy :) its stressful now, but it'll get easier.
Avarie is 9 mo (born july 25,2009)
Aryn is 6 weeks (born march 18, 2010, was due may 27th)
TinaMarie - posted on 04/27/2010
I am in the same boat. I my son will be 2 in August and I would like about 3 years between them. So we are thinking about starting to try about august or september so hopefully the new baby will be born around his 3rd birthday (in a perfect world haha)
Shena - posted on 04/27/2010
I have 4 kids 1 girl and 3 boys my oldest is 8 then 6 and 4 and a almost 3 year old. they are all about 2 years apart, I personally think that having the kids closer together is better because they will have more intrests together, yeah they will fight more but all kids fight, But personally I think they are better when they are closer in age,
Melissa - posted on 04/27/2010
I have three two boys and a girl. There is 15 months between the first and second and 17 months between the second and the third and 2 years and 7 months between the first and last. I love having them this close because one does it they all follow. and now that they are 7,6, and 5 we can go anywhere and do anything and not have to worry about the baby or what do we need to take .....but I do want another one because my babies are now not babies.... what is best for your life style is what you need to do. I hope I have help a little
Cecelia - posted on 04/26/2010
My olddest child is 5 she'll be 6 in Aug. my youngest one is 5 months and they get along great. My olddest one wants to read to her, pick her up and make sure someones there when she crys. But I wouldn't recomment waiting any longer than 5 years, thats the max.
Brittany - posted on 04/26/2010
My boys are 15 months and 1 day apart. it is a challenge some days (especially when they are sick and both need mommy) but they are already the best of friends! i love watching them play together!!!
Christian is now 2 (born 3/13/08) and
Tristyn is now 10 months (born 6/14/09)
Lindsey - posted on 04/26/2010
My first two boys are 18 months apart. They get along so well and of course push each others buttons daily. And there is about 2 1/2 years between my second and third child. So my kids are 4, 3, & 5 mos. I had always planned on 3 children and having them close together so, I've accomplished that and now I'm done. (=
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