How old is to old for bath time with Mom

Jay - posted on 02/07/2010

i think its great that she feels comfortable enough to still have a bath with you. It would also be a great way for her to learn about her body and it will give her somewhere private to talk to you about girlie things.
I know shes a bit young to be told about sex and stuff but if you keep having baths with her for another couple of years, it would be a great way of teaching her, I say keep going, i have a son so im guessing that he definately wont be wanting to bathe with mummy at the age of 6 so cherrish it while it lasts xxxx

Amanda - posted on 02/05/2010

I agree with Daryian. The body is nothing to be ashamed of. It is a natural beautiful thing. Kids do lose interest after they learn something new. So if she asks 'whats that" than just be open and honest about it. But also teach her boudaries. I am expecting my first soon and plan on showering and bathing with my baby cause it's great for bonding. I still don't know what my baby is. When we went to find out baby kept it's legs closed. But either way no matter what baby is aslong as baby is healthy is what matters. Kids need a place to grow up where they know they can ask something and get an honest answer. Never lie to the child what something is cause the child will find out sooner or later. Enjoy the time you have with your daughter while ya can. Kids grow up quick. My oldest neice is now also 6 but it seems like it was yesterday Alyssa came into the world.

Sarah - posted on 02/05/2010

well i remember taking showers with my mom when i was 6 and i enjoyed spending ne time with her bc she was always working. then when i was 10 my sister and i had to share our showers and i didn't mind that either. now my husband and i take showers together all the time and if he ain't in there with me, my 2 yr old daughter or my 1 yr old son is. i find it fun to take showers together and i don't see nothing wrong with it.

Chelsea - posted on 02/05/2010

i would just wait till she's asking too many questions or old enough were she can bathe on her own completly. or when she's embarressed to be naked around you.

Melissa - posted on 02/05/2010

Thank you all for your comments, they were very helpful. My daughter begs to take baths with me, I don't always allow her to but it doesn't stop her from begging. She is my side kick and doesn't leave my side for much but at the same time is supper indipendant. Again, thank you all so much.

Desirae - posted on 02/05/2010

I think at home it is fine, but they need to understand that it is only ok with whomever you agree to be that close to your child. Starting in pre-school my daughter asked me why the boys and girls have separate bathrooms. I told her it is because they have to take care of their bodies in different ways. This was also the time I used to make sure she understood the whole good touch/bad touch conversation. I am comfortable with her showering with me and I miss my baby bath time... I am however, trying to get her to be efficient in the shower on her own and she is starting to love it.

Daryian - posted on 02/05/2010

When they say what's that, tell them! What is the point in hiding what is on our bodies? When you tell them what it is they normally are not as interested after they get over learning something new!

Amber - posted on 02/05/2010

when they start saying "whats that?" is when i will stop, but my mom had a bath with me till i was like 8, but i thought it was wierd

Daryian - posted on 02/05/2010

Exactly, my parents never hide their bodies from me. I stopped bathing and showering with them probably when I was around 8 but I bathed with my little brother until he was 7 (he is 12 years younger) and he still will come in the bathroom when I'm in there and my sister until she was probably 10 or 11 (she is only 3 years younger)? My whole family can undress in front of each other.

I have always had confidence in my body even when I was more heavy set and I think it's because my parents put into my head that my body is natural and beautiful no matter what! I have bathed with my daughter since she was born and I plan to do it until she is no longer comfortable, my fiancee also showers with her.

Ashley - posted on 02/04/2010

Even now though as an adult if I go over to my moms for something and she's in the bath I'll sit on the toilet and char with her! I agree with Daryian, showing your daughter the you are comfortable with your body will give her greater confidence in her own!

Jessica - posted on 02/04/2010

I think letting a 6 year old (that wants to bathe with you) is prefectly natural! My son is only 8 months, but I have been getting in the bath with him from the very beginning. Since he's a boy I will probaby stop quite a bit earlier than I would if I had a little girl. Honestly, you have a good year or two (or if your daughter no longer wants to) before it may be a good idea to have her shower by herself. Kuddos to you for having a great bond with your little girl!

Ashley - posted on 02/04/2010

I think watching for cues from your daughter is the best. My mom told me that her guidline was once my brother started closing the door to go the bathroom, she started closing the door to go. With the same sex parent it might be longer before she starts asking for her privacy but I would just encourage her to take showers alone if she wants to, and then when she wanted to pop in with you, no big deal! Some time in the next year or 2 it will naturally fall into place! I can only speak from childhood experience since my daughter is only 3, but I can remember taking showers with my mom occasionally until I was about 9.

Daryian - posted on 02/04/2010

As long as your daughter is comfortable I don't see the problem. The body is natural and allowing your daughter see you be comfortable with your body will help her be comfortable with her own when she is older!

Patricia - posted on 02/04/2010

my daughter just turned 6 today... and from time to time i still stick her in the shower with me... but usually she is on her own. Sometimes its just easier and quicker to do it. But i prolly won't do it much longer