How old was your 1st baby when you conceived your second?

Sierra - posted on 03/20/2010 ( 144 moms have responded )

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I want to get pregnant with our second baby when our daughter turns 1 year old..but I'm not sure how easy or hard it will be with 2 under 2. She is a really easy and happy baby, and I'm a SAHM.
How many of you have had 2 under 2 and what age(child's age) do you think is best to conceive in your opinion? I want my children to be close together, and I think 3 years apart would be too far. Thank you for your answers!

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Amy - posted on 03/25/2010

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My first was 6 months old when I got pregnant! It's definitely hard being pregnant with one that is so dependent still. The first few (quite a few that is) months of your second baby will be very hard, but my youngest is now 1 and it is wonderful! My girls LOVE each other and play together! I definitely wouldn't have planned it this way, but I am very grateful it happened this way :-) It very hard but very rewarding!! :-)

Amanda - posted on 03/25/2010

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My son was 2 months old when I got pregnant with my daughter, not on purpose but I swear it was so much easier. I had both mine potty trained at the same time, they fight (but that's a normal sibling thing). When it comes to other kids though, they protect each other and do love each other so much. Then again its up to you. I wouldn't go back in time and change it!

Courtney - posted on 03/26/2010

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my hubby and i r waiting until our 1st is potty trained and we plan on starting that @ 2 yrs old. so hopefully well a nother before my 1st turns 4. i think 2-4 yrs in between kids is good. anymore than that and the age difference becomes an issue. my sister and i are 6 yrs apart and that put a strain on our relationship until i was bout 19. shes older. but i also think nt enough time and its hard cause u have 2 babies in diapers and its too much crazyness!!

Denae - posted on 03/26/2010

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My daughter was 5 1/2 months old when I got pregnant with my second child! My kids are 14 1/2 months old. It was tough at first, but I am so happy our surprise baby is here! He is now 14 months and his sister is 29 months and I am having a blast!

Karley - posted on 03/26/2010

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Well my son was six months old when i got prego with my daughter!!! I always wanted my children close in age so thats exactly what my husband and i are doing. I think that three yrs is way too far apart. My step son is five, so there is a pretty big gap..

And yes it will be very very hard to have two kids under the age of two but at the same time its sooo worth it!! With my son tanner he is such a mommys boy so he was super jealous when we came home with our daughter. But it gets better! You learn as you go!!

One thing that you should kno tho is ppl will always tell you neg. things like ohh you are gonna be in for it and will be so sarcastic when they tell you good luck. But hey im 19 and have two kids that were under the age of two(my son turned two today) plus a stepson and im doing just fine its all how you set your mind to things!!!

Hope all goes well and good luck!!

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Jenner - posted on 03/26/2010

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OMG! i know heaps have ppl have already repleed but figured u could never have to much support and encouragement! so i so GO FOR IT! i has my daughter at 21, and then we decided when she was 9mth old to have a 2nd! so that would make the 18mths apart! everyone inc my fam thought i was MAD! and somthimges i wonder if i am! but all in all it is perfect! the preg can be hard chasing a toddler round being as big as a house! and bring the baby home, makes feeding and things tuff, but once i got into a routine it was fun and the house was full of soo much love! my son has now just turned 1, and thing are getting easier, in the sence there almost at the smae milestones, and they have more fun together and i'm prob a more fun mum as i'm not up all nite with nite feeds and toddler in the day!



so defentally big thumbs up fvrom me! and let us all know wat u decide! ! !

Jaqueline - posted on 03/26/2010

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We found out i was pregnant with our 2nd daughter when Nadia turned 1, it's a nice age gap between kids. They are the best of friends, because they are so close in age.

Miranda - posted on 03/26/2010

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My first baby was 11 years old turning 12 when I had my son last July. I never would have thought that I would space mine out that far, but it has been a good fit for us. I had plenty of one on one time with my daughter and soon she will be doing her own thing so this will give my son some of that one on one time. I have friends who have followed in my footsteps with both pregnancies and they seem to be happy as well. One thing that spacing them out can do is reduce the arguments and jealously. Having 2 children very close in age can have its benefits, but I would imagine there would be more frustrations than if you space them out a few years. I have used this most recent pregnancy to teach my 12 year old daughter about how sex truly affects your life. I think it will be a good method of birth control for her. LOL!

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2010

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my daughter was 8 yrs old when i had my second child he 5 now i think it might have i been easier to have them close in age but it was fun for me because i got alot of one on one time with both of them my son & i had the whole day to be together then he would take a nap time his sister came home from school so i had the whole evening with her and it was nice

Sierra - posted on 03/26/2010

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Wow thank you for all of the advice! It definitely helps to hear others' point of view. I'm sure I'll do fine seeing how common it is to have kids so close in age. =)

Christina - posted on 03/26/2010

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My oldest was a little over 1 when we conceived for the second time. We had been planning on another child. We wanted them close together so that they could have a playmate growing up. And she got 2 playmates from that pregnancy! : ) We found out we were pregnant with boy/girl twins and were completely blown away! In a good way!!! lol We conceived again when our twins were about 3 1/2 months old...and then had triplets!! (one of which passed away at 20 weeks). So we have 5 at the age of 3 and under. It's a lot of hard work, but it is SO MUCH FUN!! Abigale is 3 1/2 now, Jakob and Annabelle are 1 1/2, and Emali and Jazmin are 9 months. They fight, they cry, they make each other go crazy at times, but it's such a lovely moment when you watch them playing and see them give each other hugs and kisses : ) Don't fret, Sierra. You will do just fine Mommy; I know it!! ; D And if you have ANY questions you are more than welcome to hollar at me!!! God bless you and I will be praying that the pregnancy/delivery/adjustment goes well for all!

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My sons are almost 7 years apart. I have a 6 year old and an 11 week old. This works great for us, but I think that it depends on your situation and what you can handle and can afford. We personally wanted to let our oldest have his time before we decided to have another baby.

Angela - posted on 03/26/2010

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I got pregnant when my oldest was 10 months. I lost all the weight from her when I got pregnant. :) I love that they are so close. They might fight more because they are so close but I think they are close. Its nice. My 3rd is over 5 years younger then my second. 3 girls and I love it.

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my daughter will be 3 next year and i am 5 weeks preg..... but i still get worried . dont know how will i manage with second baby. i dont want to scare. i have a friend she had her second baby when her first was 20 months old & she managed very well with both of them it all depends on how confident u r

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2010

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I am 5 and a half months pregnant now and my eldest is turning 15 months on the 10th next month. We planned to conceive in Sept this yr but this second pregnancy happened all on its own! (it now seems so much better having our second sooner than later) The thing is, nothing ever goes as planned. You could try now and only conceive in 3 months time... who really knows?

Jody - posted on 03/26/2010

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I agree having them close together allows for extra learning. My second child potty trained at 18 months because of my older daughter helping her. She also learned her ABC's because of her older sister. There was only one downfall. My second child did not talk much because of the oldest always talking for her. GOOD LUCK WITH THE THIRD CHILD.

Colleen - posted on 03/26/2010

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My fiance and I were going to start 'trying' after my sons first birthday for #2. One week later I was pregnant, so my son will only be 22 months old when our daughter arrives. His bday was Aug 28, and this one is due May 25th, so we hit the nail on the head pretty much!!! I cant say how hard things will be I know its fairly easy right now, unless Im really tired or hes acting up a bit!! Hes a very active toddler so Im always worried in the back of my mind that he can somehow hurt the baby lol, which I know he cant!!



All I can say is at least all my diapering will be at only one point in my life.. I wont have to get used to a baby again!!! In the end its all a matter of what you guys want and feel is right! My sister and I are 3 yrs apart and it was torture during our teen years, and my fiance and his brother are 2 yrs apart and they seem to have had an easier time throughout their maturing stages!!

Lots of luck!

Heather - posted on 03/26/2010

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My oldest daughter is 6, and my youngest is 2 yrs 8 mths now, When my oldest was 2.9 yrs i got pregnant with baby #2, so my girls are exactly 3 1/2 yrs apart and I LOVE it! they get along great but the second one also seems to grow up alot faster because they have the older one to watch and copy everything from! So now we are thinking about trying for #3 soon, and they will be a little further apart then my fist 2! Good Luck!

Jody - posted on 03/26/2010

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I say it is only as hard as you make it. You are the only person that can tell you if it is time. You can handle it, your a mom, you can handle anything. I think it is easy when they are under two. My only issue was all the diapers. My oldest was 1 1/2 when we conceived our second child. We did not plan it, it just happened. So there is just over two years between them. However, the time span got smaller by the third child. I got pregnant right after I stopped breast feeding. So there is only 18 months between the second and third kids.

Megan - posted on 03/26/2010

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I have a 10 yr old (g), 5 yr old (g) and 2 1/2 yr old(b).

I can tell you that I have a lot of issue and difficulties with the age gap. I had my oldest unplanned when I was 18, so I knew it would be awhile before I had another.

My daughter was 5 when her sister was born and they were hard to take care of together being so far apart in age. My second daughter was 2 1/2 when her brother was born and it has been much easier with the two of them being closer in age. My oldest feels left out a lot and feels I treat her like a baby and won't allow her to mature. The issue is really pressing now that she's becoming a preteen. I would say it's easier on you the closer they are in age. I would not wait more than 2 or 3 years at the most.

Claudine - posted on 03/26/2010

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Hi, my oldest was born in September 2003 and my youngest was born in February 2007. So they are 3 yrs and 4 months apart. My hubby and I wanted at least 4 yrs in between them in case there was any problems with our youngest. But our youngest was full-term. Personally I think that its up to you guys. And having ours that far apart worked for us. Good luck

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2010

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Hi there, i am kinda in the same boat as you, i have a 6 month old baby and am 5 months pregnant with my second. So i cant give you much advice untill my next one does come. but will let you know if you like?

Chantel - posted on 03/26/2010

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i have a sixtenth month old and a 10 week old ,both boys! some days are great and my oldest loves having a little brother,he gives him kisses and try's to make him smile when he's crying....it's sometimes hard but you can do it!

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Everybody's body is different including how fast they conceive...I was on birth control and my first son was only 4months old when I got pregnant with my second son...it was hard at first mostly getting used to the idea of having a 1 year old and an infant but really wasn't bad they grow up close to each other once they are out of diapers it's awesome!! my boys are almost 13 months apart....I love it I'm glad I had them close together.

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Everybody's body is different including how fast they conceive...I was on birth control and my first son was only 4months old when I got pregnant with my second son...it was hard at first mostly getting used to the idea of having a 1 year old and an infant but really wasn't bad they grow up close to each other once they are out of diapers it's awesome!! my boys are almost 13 months apart....I love it I'm glad I had them close together.

Nicola - posted on 03/26/2010

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I have 19 months between mine, It has pros and cons, double buggies being my major niggle!! but now my youngest is 15 months and my eldest nearly 3 it has settled into a lovely happy situation where they will play together,go to bed at the same time and my eldest will now walk most places so I have no need for a double buggy anymore!

Necole - posted on 03/26/2010

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i was 6 months pregs when i fell pregnant with my 2nd....my kids are 14 moths apart and at times can be best of friends then other times the in a wrestling ring....its up to you when your ready...qwere expecting out 3rd in july so im going to have 3 under 3 for a month or two ...ahhhhh lol

Erin - posted on 03/26/2010

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I got pregnant when my first was 9-10 months, so there will be an 18 month difference between our children. We wanted ours close together too, so we started trying after I started ovulating again. (I'm breastfeeding.) So yeah...my newest one is due September 23, 2010 and my first was April 12, 2009. =) We're hoping for a boy this time, but we'll be happy with whatever we get.



Good luck to you! And go with whatever you and your husband feel right with!

Melissa - posted on 03/25/2010

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I am currently 6 months pregnant with my second daughter! My oldest is only 16 months! I conceived when she was 11months old! That will put my angels at around 19 months apart! Not quite sure how easy it is going to be havimg them so close in age, But i do know that diaprs for 2 WON'T be cheap!!! LOL. We've already started potty training.

Stacie - posted on 03/25/2010

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hi there i conceived my second son when my older boi turned four i had alot of miscarries before my first and middle kid and then i conceived when my little boi was three months but didnt make it.

im preg with my third it took me nineteen months to conceive my little girl we where hoping another four year gap but we are blessed that we are having a little girl i wouldnt change the gap now tho.

im now having my little girl three weeks early and she coming the day before my son turns 29months

Kiana - posted on 03/25/2010

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i won't lie to you having a baby so close together is not easy and i would not recomend it. My daughter was 3 months old when i conceived my son who is now 6 months. It was very hard to control my hormones and not feel overwhelmed. My daughter need that attention from me when it came to learning to crawl and walk. and i was always so tired. id wait until after my oldest child was potty trained it makes it soo much easier trust me.

Rachael - posted on 03/25/2010

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I got pregnant with our 2nd in September, and our oldest turned one in November. It's awesome. Do lots of research about having kids close in age, so you can try to prevent problems.

I kept our oldest involved throughout the entire pregnancy, and always talked about the new baby that was going to join our family. She LOVES her little sister SO much. I'm SO happy that they're close in age. If we decided to have another one, I would get pregnant before, or around the same time our 2nd daughter turns one. Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 03/25/2010

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i conseved my second chld when my 1st was 4 months old now my oldest is 14 months and my youngest is just over 3 weeks i will admit it is not easy but i wouldnt trade it for anything in the world i love my boys to death

Falon - posted on 03/25/2010

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Well my son is 7 and my daughter just turned 7 months. I think this is awsome!! Big brother helps all the time!! But I want mine 2 years apart but in my experiance with other babies, if you have tons of time and patience then go for it. But also remember your life will be put on hold for awhile cause its hard getting a sitter for one let alone two even more so when both children are very young and need lots of attention. Its hard for me. Its always family that does it!! But my husband and his brother are 16 months apart and are very close. They are 2 out of 6 and are the closest. They said it was pretty easy to get along and play as a child but mom in law said if she knew then what she knew know. She wouldnt have done it. She said it was very over whelming and she felt she most iimportant milestones the their lives. From things like talking and walking for tryin to keep up with the other child. But at the end of the day it is your life and you have to decide whats best for you. If you think that you can handle giving each child all hte attention they need and lose lots of sleep!! Then you should go for it. Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck!!

Kathryn - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have 3 children under 3 and I think its the best to have them so close. The first two are 12 months apart born on the same day coincidentally and the 2nd and 3rd are 14 months apart and I wouldnt change it for the world. Although it can get hard at times but overall its great.

Cynthia - posted on 03/25/2010

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when i got pregnant with my second child my oldest had just turned one but when my 3rd child was born my middle daughter was only 10 mths old but he was also 2 mths early. :)

ANGELA - posted on 03/25/2010

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i frist was 8 months old when we got prego with number 2 and now they are 5 and 3 and half it was hard when 2 came home and 1 waws only 17 months but know they play toghter and we are army so we move alot they have one other to play with no matter what it is ever hard at fisrt but i love that they will always have oneother no matter what

Jaimie - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have 3 boys 6,4 & 2. All 3 learn so much from eachother and play very well together. My oldest was a little behind on his speech which worried me but once he started school it was like somebody flipped a switch lol. I was worried the other boys would have the same problem but by watching and listening to every single thing theyre big brother does they are actually pretty advanced. Im so glad I had them 2yrs apart, like I said they are close now but I can just imagine them as teenagers! :) hope this helps and good luck!

Jaimie - posted on 03/25/2010

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I have 3 boys 6,4 & 2. All 3 learn so much from eachother and play very well together. My oldest was a little behind on his speech which worried me but once he started school it was like somebody flipped a switch lol. I was worried the other boys would have the same problem but by watching and listening to every single thing theyre big brother does they are actually pretty advanced. Im so glad I had them 2yrs apart, like I said they are close now but I can just imagine them as teenagers! :) hope this helps and good luck!

Amanda - posted on 03/25/2010

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WEll im pregnant with my second child. And my daughter just turned 2 today. So far its been kinda ruff, and the baby isnt even here yet! Everyone tells me its bc kids can sense someone else around there mommy, therefore they begin to get really really clingy. But Im sure all this is going to be worth it. I want my daughter to have someone to play with and grow up with..good luck

LeAndrea - posted on 03/25/2010

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my twins turned 4 right after i had my baby and its still hard but i think 4-5 years is a great age range!!

Lynss - posted on 03/25/2010

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my daughter was 2 wen i conceived my 2nd daughter. i think a 3year age gap is good 2have

Jamie - posted on 03/25/2010

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i got pregnant with my son when my daughter was two and had him when she was three.

User - posted on 03/25/2010

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my daughter was 15 months when i fell pregnant with our son...the age gap is lovely most of tthe time she is like a mother hen to him. but sometimes i do wish we had waited a year so we would have had more time with our daughter one on one, as she was coming in to a brilliant age group where she was enjoying days out and was happy to be out for the day not having too many tantrums. and we have started over now so in 15 months time we will be having days out all the time !

Lisa-Louise - posted on 03/25/2010

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i fell pregnant with my second when my 1st was 4months old ...
so only 13month difference-(13mnth and month old now ) i am now glad it did happen to soon , love that they are close in age to grow up together . my oldest has taken to
her sooooooooooo well always trying to kiss and hug her and be helpful with diapers
etcso far no jealousy . it also has been hard with not much sleep lol due to
feeds in the night then up first thing with my oldest and routine but getting there
and enjoying it ...just cant wait for them to be able to play together properly when a
little older

Danyel - posted on 03/25/2010

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When my second child was born my first child was exactly 3 years old. I didn't have any problems.

Kirsten - posted on 03/25/2010

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I fell pregnant when my first was 6 months, i had a difficult gruesome labour first time so there was no doubt to anyone i would be having a section anyway so i didn't think much about letting my bits heal. I wanted them close together i have 3 siblings and we are all a year apart growing up it was great we all went to school together and had friends that we shared and as we got older we have remained very close. I wanted the same for my children. It was hard not getting the sleep at the end beginning but like everything you get used to it. And they are wonderful with each other they are 20 months and 5 months now and they sit and play together my eldest helps by fetching nappies and wipes. And even gives her a bottle with a bit of help. And it does mean that you only go through the sleepless nights once and the nappies once, not a break then start all over again.

Myeshia - posted on 03/25/2010

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I think 2-3 years would be the best age difference for you. I made the mistake of waiting until my 1st daughter turned 5 years old, thinking it would be a lot easier. I was completely wrong. 5 years is way to long to wait, it took me about 3-4 months to finally get things on track. This time around we said we wouldn't wait any longer than 3 years.

JADE - posted on 03/25/2010

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hiya i had my second child when my first was 11mths to be honest i thought it would be really hard but it was the complete i actually coped much better i was more in a routine when my second come along know i have 3 children know lily-mae who is 4 mason who is 3 and izabella-blu who is 19 months i find it harder now as i feel i have not enough time for them all for all of there needs and the things they want to play were as before when i had the to they were similar ages and they helped each other and they had such big bond like they are twins i wanted my children to be close together but as they are getting older they fight like cat and dog but hopefully this stage will pass i wouldnt change the age gap to being years apart if we could

Nakia - posted on 03/25/2010

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my first child was 8months when i conceived my second child. having 2 kids back to back was something we talked about but not that close together,but it is a blessing and i love them both. my oldest son will be 2 in june and my baby boy will be one in november.

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010

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My oldest son was about 4 months old when I found out I was pregnant with my second child. My first son is much like your daughter, very easy and is always happy. I'm not going to lie to you, having two children under the age of two is very hard because the oldest will want your attention and the youngest will demand your attention due to being so young. My oldest son used to hurt my youngest son in any way possible. You will have to be on your toes at all times.

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