How to tell a 4yr how babies come out of mommy's tummy?

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HELP!!!! My almost 4yr old keeps asking me "How do babies come out of Mommy's tummy?" I've already told him that Mommy goes to the Dr. and the Dr. helps mommy push the baby out. My problem is that he KEEPS asking! How do I tell him more without busting out an anatmony book?!


Tiffany - posted on 02/19/2010




If he is asking you need to be honest with him. He needs to learn at an early age that no matter the topic he can come to you and be given an honest answer. You would of course use terms a 4 yr old would understand. I promise the questions will get harder to deal with. My husband and I had to sit down with our 7 year old boys and have a discussion about sex because they came home teasing each other about wanting to have sex with some girl. It was really shocking and a difficult conversation but one that had to be had.
When your answering him give him a little bit, wait to see if he's ok with that answer. If he is GREAT! If he's not give him a little more.
That's my best advice....just be honest with your child

Leah - posted on 02/19/2010




Hi There,
Yeah I went through the same thing lastyear with my 3 year old when I was pregnant. I had my second son in Oct 09 and or course you know us mommys like watching the baby story & birthday those shows about babies & delivery, well one day I guess I didn't really realize my 3 year old was watching it with me and later that day I was sitting on the couch in my nightgown and kinda had one leg propped up and my son comes over to me and points and says "baby brother is gunna come out of there" LOL I was so floored for a mintue like where did he get that? then realized it was from watching the show with me. might seem a little TMI for a child that young but they dont show anything nasty on there really and it really shows them what mommy will go through without you having to exsplain it all well good luck ;-) Leah

Jenifer - posted on 02/18/2010




I am a daycare provider and I was asked by one of the kids how baby's come out and I was in the company of kids ranging from 2-5 and I told them you go to the hospital and the doctor does it all, she said, but how do you get them out, I said, that's the doctor's job I don't know how to do that. In all truth technically I know how they come out, but realistically, I am not trained to do that...

Another time my son asked mom, how are baby's made and I asked him why he wanted to know and he said, i want to have a little sister, I told him that is something mommies and daddies do, don't worry about it.

So maybe find out why he needs to know how they come out and then you can just answer his specific question. Maybe he is afraid you will get hurt when the baby is pushed out... So I'd ask him why he wants to know.

Tallulah - posted on 02/17/2010




My daughter who is four has also asked that question. I had to be honest with her cause that is what I am trying to teach her. So I just told her how the baby comes out, using words she could grasp, she has even asked to be there when the baby is born. But for that question I told her that for now only mommies, daddies, and the Dr.'s can be in there. I know that is a little much for such a young kid to know but it has stopped the questions and she has learned it from me and not a teacher when she gets older.

Rhiannon - posted on 02/16/2010




Would your book shop have an age appropriate book to show him?

Otherwise, I would sit down with him and explain that when mummies have babies, they go to the hospital. There is an opening in between mummies legs that opens up when the baby is ready to be born and the doctor helps mummy push the baby out of the opening. That doesn't seem too graphic or overdone? But then I don't have a 4 year old.

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Rebecca - posted on 04/06/2012




My daughter asked me when she was four how babies get into mommy's tummies, I told her God put them there. I figured at least that was true, then I literally prayed that she didn't ask anymore questions until I had more appropriate answers. My friend is pregnant now and she asked me how the baby got in her tummy, fortunately something distracted her while I was stammering. She felt the need to ask this in church by the way...

Angie - posted on 02/18/2010




I have 3 kids, all by c section so I told my 4yr old daughter the truth, that the Doctor has to cut the baby out of Mommy's tummy. I guess I got off easy on that one! Good Luck!

Sara - posted on 02/18/2010




I recently told my 8 yr old daughter the real way they come out. Before we had that conversation, I told her the doctor had to take the baby directly out of your tummy (like a c-section). I personally wanted to avoid anything south of that, because I knew if she found out that's where they came out of- the next Q would be "How did they get in there?" That one worked for quite awhile. Note even public daytime TV can show "pushing" during labor. I was not happy about that. That's what ultimately raised the question leading to the honest answer.

Maggie - posted on 02/18/2010




i told mu 6 year old nephew yesterday when he asked how my 11wk old girl came out my tummy that the doctors at the hospital have magical powers just like santa does, and he was happy with that x

Yvonne - posted on 02/17/2010




my 4 and a 1/2 year old has also been asking. I'm completely clueless in what to say to him.

Annie - posted on 02/17/2010




HAHAHA My daughter asked how babies come out when my sis was pregnant. My daughter was a little over 3 when she asked and I thought she probably wouldn't remember if I told her the truth so I said "A baby comes out of a mommy's coochie." Well let's say she has a better memory than I thought because 6 months later she crawled into bed with us in the morning with her dolly and said "This is my baby, she used to be in my tummy and then she came out my COOCHIE!" *ugh* I said, groggily, "Well, did it hurt?" to which she replied calmly, "No, it just tickled." I had to laugh! But I didn't elaborate. Later on she told my husband's whole family at an Easter gathering that when she was a baby she came out my coochie. Certainly a bit embarrassing, but now she knows and doesn't over-advertise it anymore now that she's almost 5. We'll get into the gruesome details at a much later date. :-)

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2010




ok.. this might make me sound horrible but when i was pregnant with my son, my daughter who was four at the time kept bringing up the baby question... i watched a couple episodes of tlc's baby story with her and she never asked again. but again honesty is a huge thing in our home. but it kept her pacified! hope it helps

Natalie - posted on 02/17/2010




My son is 4 and he knows. I told him that there's a baby inside Mommy's tummy, again, and that i will have to go to the hospital.
Does he know the girl parts and the boy parts? Well, explain to him, that the girl parts are made for the baby coming out (as well as other things).

My son seems to think that every time i go to the hospital i will come back with the baby, lol.

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LOL I was nannying for a pair of 5 year olds while I was pregnant with my son. one of them was particularily curious about the baby asking many many questions about him. one day at lunch he asked "when's the baby going to come out your belly button?" I thought his assumption was SO funny! thank God his mother was home to answer the serious end of the question (wich she did rather simply and to the point) and that seems to satisfy him.

Echo - posted on 02/17/2010




My son who's also 4 asked that before his brother was born and I told him the same thing. He seemed fine with the answer though and was also distracted with school and what not. I really don't know what I would have told him if he'd kept asking though. Good luck and hopefully you can find a way to tell him that he will understand and be satisfied with.

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2010




The only thing I can say is just try and be as honest as you can without getting too graphic. My 3 year old hasn't asked yet but when she does, I will say that the baby grows in mummy's tummy for a little while them when he/she hears their big sister's voice, they get ready to come out to meet you. Hopefully that will be enough to stop her asking again lol.

Leanne - posted on 02/17/2010




i have a 5 yr old a soon to be 4 yr old and a soon to be 3 yr old i know what your going through my older two have asked me just exactly where babies come from and in all honesty at this age you dont really want to give them too too much info on that just explain that yes the baby come from mommys tummy and as the baby grows inside so does you tummy and when the baby is ready to meet everyone you go to the doc. and they help the baby out of mommys tummy so he/she can see and meet everyone. i wouldnt into too many graphics just because he is 4

Karina - posted on 02/16/2010




Haha! inquisitive craetures arent they? lol I told my daughter that I have a special tunnel from my tummy that the baby comes out of, she seemed to be content with that....hope that helps! Or you might have to hit the books lol There are heaps of books, that explain it very well, unfortunatley though they usually start with how the baby got in there in the first place, now thats another good question!! Or maybe you've had that one already lol Good luck!

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