Husband forgot Mothers Day! feeling oh so unapreciated !

Charity - posted on 05/12/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I love my husband and I know he is not the most romantic human in the world but I have not even got a "Happy Mothers Day" today and I could just cry my eyes out. We have 3 kids ages almost 5 and 17 month twins. I work very hard as a mom and also work part time. I just feel so completely run down,unloved and unappreciated because I was really hoping to have a day where my accomplishments as a mother could be acknowledged. I want a bouquet of flowers, a hug, a card, breakfast or someone just to say your a great mom, thanks. I am disappointed and hurt. What do I do? Has this happened to you,ever?

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Michelle - posted on 05/13/2013

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Have you told him this? Men are hopeless on picking up our subtle signals, they need to be told outright.

I would tell him he's being an ass and to snap out of it because it's your day. I wouldn't have let it go all day either, I would have set him straight in the morning and then made him pay for it all day.

I guess I'm lucky that all 3 of my children woke up early and came in with their gifts. My oldest son (almost 12) made me bacon and eggs in bed while my husband made my coffee. The 2 oldest ones bought me some wonderful gifts from the Mother's Day stall at school and my youngest gave me what my husband had wanted to buy me but I bought since I work in the shopping centre. Maybe I should complain that I bought my own gift but what's the point? He was at home with 3 kids and I didn't blame him for not wanting to face the crowds at the shops the day before Mother's Day.
He told me what he was thinking of getting me so I just chose the ones I wanted and used his card to pay for it :)

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Victoria - posted on 05/15/2013

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My husband spent Mother's Day digging a hole around his parents' house so he can get to the cracks in the foundation where he will plug them so there isn't anymore leaks into the basement. I was up at 6am cleaning the house, while he slept until nearly 11a.
I don't get flowers, cards, anything from him unless I beg him to get it for me.
Our kids are 10, 5, and 4. Oldest two are my daughters, and they both made me something at school. My 4 yo son was upset he didn't get me anything, and when he asked his dad, his dad responded "It's just another day." My son was hurt about it...but he decided on making me a bouquet of dandelions :-)
My husband was raised by an inconsiderate father, who didn't care about holidays (except Father's Day), and so his mother began not caring either, which in turn, caused my husband not to care. I don't get presents at all! No birthday, Valentine's Day, Christmas, or Anniversary. Nada!
It happens. It sucks. But what else can you do? Nag him? Yeah, we all know how well that goes.

Lee - posted on 05/15/2013

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Guys I get your grievances but don't you think that Mothers' Day has to do with children and mothers and not 'husbands and wives'? A day for husbands and wives or those in a relationship is VALENTINE'S DAY,isn't it? A husband should get his own mom a prezzie even his mom-in-law rather. You are his wife and not his mom but you are the mother of his kids, therefore he must teach his children to show their appreciation for you on mothers' day. The trick is that if he doesn't do that to his own mom, he certainly can't encourage his children to do what he himself is not practising.

However, on a flip side if you want to be appreciated on mothers' day vocalise it or else he wouldn't know how you feel about it. Also remember that men are not as sentimental as women, time and again need to be reminded because they turn to focus on big things in our families such as paying bills, plans to buy a car , a house, children going to university, etc. and turn to forget about little little things that make us happy. But above all communication is the key. No communication equals to frustration because neither of you can read minds, therefore you wouldn't know each other's needs!

Charity - posted on 05/12/2013

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Oh I did tell him weeks in advance and explained a few ideas to him, loud and clear! about 5pm today I saw a gift card he set on the counter so I guess he maybe remembered eventually or something. I think he was being an @$$ all day I still didn't even get a "Happy Mothers day" from him today.
I really just wanted to freak out and go off I mean I pushed 3 kids out of my vagina, I clean the house, take care of the kids and make him breakfast lunch and dinner every day and contribute financially as well so geez. ....... I sure think I deserve a freaking flower, card or a "hey your a good mom, thanks" I also think it is important for my children to see how you respect,care for and love your mom or significant other. I mean it's not like I am demanding a 4 carat diamond ring or something I would of been happy with some simple little things.

Michelle - posted on 05/12/2013

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How could he "forget"? Has he had his head buried in the sand? The advertising is everywhere.

Maybe next year let him know what you want and keep telling him for a week before so he has no excuse.

I would make a big deal about Father's day and also throw in little comments like: "Isn't it nice to be spoiled on your special day?" or "I would have loved to have had breakfast in bed for Mother's Day" and things like that.

Chandra - posted on 05/12/2013

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I feel for you...my husband didn't forget, he's just been too lazy to get off the couch to put in any effort. I watched him go out to his truck and sign a mother's day card and then brought it in to me. Actually, not even brought it in to me, just kind of threw it at me. Father's day doesn't exist to me anymore ;)

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