Kristin - posted on 06/29/2011 ( 46 moms have responded )
I wanted to know if I could get some advice, I don't have a job just yet, I'm waiting for my license so I can start practicing Massage Therapy. I just recently found out that my husband has been stashing money for a few months without informing me about it, also he's been purchasing things and having them sent to his parents house so I don't find out about it and not telling me about that either. When I ask him about how much money he has he always tells me that he doesn't have any. He always says that he's stressed about how he's going to pay the bills. Well my bff and I hacked into his ebay account and he spent almost $500 on stuff within the last 2 months. A couple of those items, he lied to me and told me he got it from trading, or finding it in his dads sheds. I've been living with this tightness in my stomach and chest for almost a week. But I've had a feeling he's been keeping things from me for a while now. I printed out the items off ebay and have that hidden, now I'm waiting to try and get his debit card so I can check how much money he has in his account because we don't have the same banks. I ask him sometimes how he would feel if I lied to him about something and he always says that he would be effing pissed, so I say that I have more than enough right to be pissed and he agrees. I haven't mentioned anything that I've found out yet and I'm trying to act like there is nothing wrong but I don't know how long I can keep this up. The plan was for him to adopt my daughter but at this point I don't know if I want him to. What else could he be lying to me about and keeping from me? Please tell me what I should do? Am I just freaking out about nothing?