Sara - posted on 06/18/2012 ( 272 moms have responded )
Please... Somebody help me......
My son is 3 and I just graduated from university. I am a single mom... I left my son's father weeks after my baby was born and he has had little to on interest in being a parent. He is relinquishing parental rights and has never paid child support, however, we have gotten by just fine with the support of my family.
Like I said... I FINALLY have a degree (I'm 24) and the man of my dreams wants to marry me. He hasn't spent too much time with my son, but they have met once.....
I have to be honest... I am feeling REALLY selfish. I am applying for work in the big city.... I want to move there... get a place with my boyfriend... get married, and decide to have children..... I want to live on my own, go out with my co workers after work... I want to be free. I feel terrible........ I am a selfish woman.
My parents offered to adopt him to allow me to pursue my career. (without any mention of my feelings) I just..... I don't know what's right... I don't know how my baby will feel.... I will still be in his life. I plan to visit every weekend... Please.. I am being selfish? or is the adoption rout best for both of us???
We have lived in my parents house his entire life and they have been a huge part of his life.... They have been more consistent to him than I have, as I have been traveling and studying.
My son and I are very close and we love each other very much..... I just don't know what to do.. I don't know if I will happy if I don't live out these dreams and ambitions that I have.... I don't know if I can be happy without my son. I don't know how the choice will affect him....