I am thinking of having my parents adopt my son

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Please... Somebody help me......



My son is 3 and I just graduated from university. I am a single mom... I left my son's father weeks after my baby was born and he has had little to on interest in being a parent. He is relinquishing parental rights and has never paid child support, however, we have gotten by just fine with the support of my family.



Like I said... I FINALLY have a degree (I'm 24) and the man of my dreams wants to marry me. He hasn't spent too much time with my son, but they have met once.....



I have to be honest... I am feeling REALLY selfish. I am applying for work in the big city.... I want to move there... get a place with my boyfriend... get married, and decide to have children..... I want to live on my own, go out with my co workers after work... I want to be free. I feel terrible........ I am a selfish woman.



My parents offered to adopt him to allow me to pursue my career. (without any mention of my feelings) I just..... I don't know what's right... I don't know how my baby will feel.... I will still be in his life. I plan to visit every weekend... Please.. I am being selfish? or is the adoption rout best for both of us???



We have lived in my parents house his entire life and they have been a huge part of his life.... They have been more consistent to him than I have, as I have been traveling and studying.



My son and I are very close and we love each other very much..... I just don't know what to do.. I don't know if I will happy if I don't live out these dreams and ambitions that I have.... I don't know if I can be happy without my son. I don't know how the choice will affect him....

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Nicci - posted on 07/07/2012

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how do u even ask this question? do you not feel ashamed u asked that? you are talking about living your life and dreams.....your son should be your life, your fiance is obviously worth less if he doesnt encourage you to keep your son. i am heart broken for your son because he has a selfish mother who would rather run away to start a new life than to blossom the one she has!!!!!! how sad

Sarah - posted on 07/06/2012

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OMG. WHY do you feel comfortable asking people this??? Read and re-read Danika's reply, because that is exactly how your son will feel. If you can be happy without your own son, then you need to evaluate your charactar. You are already talking about raising other children??? Honestly after reading your letter, I do think you should give your son away... but be ashamed at what a lousy person you are! I cannot believe you...

Trisha - posted on 07/06/2012

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I can't read all these posts but for those few that put down the working mothers, screw you. I have to work to buy ood, provide a place to live and be able to go show my son different things life has to offer. I don't see how u are better than a working mom if you have the stay at home mom option. If I could would I have been a sahm ,yes leaving for work sucks ever Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday and Friday at 630am. But coming home to him and being able to say I do it without asking for a handout, and him running up to me with all his love and jumping into my arms for a big hug hello, is the best part of my day. I dont look down at a stay at home mom, but you have got to be out of your mind to look down on a mom who has to work and does it. Period. Unless you stay at home moms want to pay my bills I need to get back to work, and lady don't give up on ur son, that's just stupid.

Trisha - posted on 07/06/2012

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She isn't doing what is best for her son. She flat out said she wants to go out and move with her boyfriend. If your dating someone that has an issue with the fact that u already have a child, then he is a loser, if it is your choice to leave your child because u don't feel like being a mom, then get your tubes tied cause you don't deserve to have future children that will make YOUR SON feel like he wasn't good enough for you to keep. I really want to know 1- where you plan on moving to, like the state? 2- why your son can't go with you? 3- how does your boyfriend feel about you leaving your son and giving him up for your parents to clean up after your activities.

Personally if you had been raped or you didn't volunteer yourself to jump on and have the fun, that ended with you having a son, then I could understand, u didn't sign up for being a mother. But u have not said that was the case at all... People like you who think having a kid is going to be all perfect and fix things, and don't really think about what having a kid really honestly is going to involve. The money the time the not going out with your coworkers... Booooo for you by the way, cry me a river, you don't deserve the love your son can give you. And I feel just as bad for your parents they don't need to be parents they are grandparents, they should be able to experience that side of life. My sons grandfather on his dads side is 81 now, while my sons father was growing up (dad is 30 now), he loved his parents and still does so much. But he saw all his buddies dads able to coach them for baseball or just be active with them in general, he wished he could have that too, but with a 50yr old as ur parent that's just not going to happen. Mind u my sons father was a miracle, his mother was not supposed to be able to have children and when she did, she was never going to not have it, plus she is 11years younger than her husband, but was in law school. She graduated law school, passed the bar, became an oc prosecutor, and has just retired in 2011. Don't sell your son short of being a miracle and yourself short of being able to accomplish your dreams while keeping your son. You just got out of school, I'm sure your not rolling in money right now anyways, so you won't be able to live the way your thinking of in a new shiny town. Be real how will you feel leaving him. And if you do leave him, never go back unless it's for good and you won't leave him again.

Minnie - posted on 07/06/2012

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I'm sorry if I come across as harsh, I don't want to be judgmental either. But if you don't want your son, I'll take him. My cousin and his wife can't have children, they'll be happy to adopt him. My sister in law and her husband can't have children, they'll take him. Do you understand what I'm saying? People would DIE to have the responsibility that YOU are not willing to take. Love, unconditional love, is having a child, and loving him. A LIFE LONG COMMITMENT. Your life? What does it matter? I'll tell you a little story. I was 15 when I got pregnant with my son. My parents asked if I wanted to give him up to them for adoption, even my sister who was 11 yrs older than me asked me. They gave me a "free pass" to travel the world, get my degree, live my life. And because I LOVE MY SON, guess what? I'm 27 and barely finishing my education. My son and I have ALWAYS been together, I've always provided for him, I've always put my life aside, for HIM. because I LOVE MY SON. YOUR LIFE DOESNT STOP BECAUSE YOU HAVE A CHILD, OR BECAUSE YOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY. I met my husband 5 years ago. He loves my son, that is HIS son. We got married over 2 months ago, and he's planning to adopt him. That's the kind of man that's worth it. The one that will NOT ALLOW you to leave your son. Selfish, isn't the word you're looking for. Heartless is. The damage you will cause your son, the heartbreak, for what? to start a new life without him? I am deeply saddened for your son. He didn't ask for you to bring him into this world. It's not his fault, that you have no sense of responsibility to him. Your parents already had a child, and raised it. If you love your child, it won't be a "question" to cause him that hurt and that pain.

Bernadette - posted on 07/06/2012

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I find it very difficult to stomach the idea of a mum who abandons her child with other carers so that she can live on her own and go out with her co workers after work. and I hope your son never reads this. "get a place with my boyfriend... get married, and decide to have children" reads like I don't want my son, he's inconvenient. I find it difficult to stomach that you've already gone off travelling without him. when I became a parent my priorities changed, simple as. at the end of the day you have to do what you think is right for you and your son but not everyone will understand if you decide to leave him behind. I could never understand

Michelle - posted on 07/05/2012

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Your right Lisa, even though most don't agree with the reason for it, it is important this little guy is with people that can give him all the love and attention he needs to grow up well. It was very well put.

Lisa - posted on 07/05/2012

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You're facing a hard decision. I don't envy you. I can see both sides to this and my gut instinct is to say let your parents adopt him if you worry about resenting him. You're considering moving to a big city where your son will be without the two most consistent care-givers he's had. And he faces the possibility of being unfairly resented for "tying you down"...



I'd say it's better to let him stay where he is with people that love and care for him. Visit when you can and call often. Skype if possible. You can still have a loving relationship with him long distance.



My daughter faced a similar situation with her son. She was raising him on her own and struggling financially to support the two of them. (She lives in another state.) When my grandson was 3 she gave custody of him to his father (a man I never had a good word for, I might add) and he has done an EXEMPLARY job of raising my grandson. My daughter sees her son when she can and they both love each other more than ever.



He's 8 years old now and is turning out just grand! =) I take back every negative thing I ever said or thought about his father (who is raising his son without help from anyone.)



Do what's best for your baby and everything will turn out right in the end.

Connie - posted on 07/05/2012

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I didn't even read the whole thing because it honestly broke my heart for your baby! You made the choice to have sex... and EVERYONE knows what can happen because they had sex! CHILDREN and STD's. If you wanted a different life then you should have abstained. If you really can picture your life without your child and feel okay with that than PLEASE let your parents adopt him!!! It really is the best thing for him. And if your fiance really loved you he wouldn't want anything more than to spend the rest of his as part of your family with you and your child. You are extremely selfish. This child isn't good enough so get married and have other children while your parents take care of the first. Please do your future children a favor and DON'T HAVE ANYMORE!!! It would be a different story if you couldn't provide for him... but YOU CAN, you just don't want to!

Helene - posted on 07/05/2012

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How old are you 10 years old , you certainly sound like a child yourseld, your son his not a doll that you play with and then throw away or give to a friend. You are S----d

Helene - posted on 07/05/2012

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SELFISH SELFISH SELFISH, SELF ABSORB, SELFISH SELFISH ,ME ME ME ALL ABOUT ME, SELFISH SELFISh

Helene - posted on 07/05/2012

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You are just plain selfish, A Grandparent is a grandparent, A Mother is something you cannot replace, you had this child dont be selfish and just give him away because you want another life, hes your life and your his life. STOP BEING SOOOOOOOOOOO SELFISH.

Michelle - posted on 07/05/2012

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Thats where I'm so confused, why if you want to (be free) why have more kids, when you don't want the one you have.

Cassandra - posted on 07/05/2012

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Your right you being very selfish I get what your saying about your parents playing a big role in his life but he knows who his mother is and not to sound like a certified bitch but uh you should have thought about all this before you had that little boy..And if you do decide to let him go your going to feel f**ked up about it I can bet that one...your child is not going to mess up your life the man that your with he has to look at you like ok shes a packaged deal he comes along with her and as far as going out after work im sure its possible at times considering if your parents will adopt him they will also watch him for a few hours maybe even over night so you could enjoy yourself but basically all im saying is all that selfish stuff went out the window n then you said get married and have more kids why would you want more when you dont want the one you already have?????

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I just don't understand if she wants to give up her child why on earth she wants to start a new life with her boyfriend. If having her son tied her down then future kids will be the same. I think if she's willing to give up her child she shouldn't be focusing on future kids with her boyfriend.

Melodie - posted on 07/05/2012

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If you decide this route, then for the sake of your child, leave him alone. It's not fair and eventually you wouldn't have time for him on weekends. You wouldn't be mom anymore, your mother would. You would be his sister. It will haunt him all his life and cause problems with future relationships. It sounds like his best interest lie with being with your parents. It would be horrible if you kept him and then resented him.

I know, I raised my granddaughter for the first 11 years of her life. Then she went to live with her mom. Now at 17 she sees the problems.

Jodie - posted on 07/05/2012

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I don't see why you can't achieve your dreams and keep your son with you. If you choose to give him up, you don't deserve to have more children. But the mere fact you are even considering it would indicate you are not fit to be a mother. You admit that you are being selfish, so why bother ask?

Alura - posted on 07/05/2012

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Jodi, so your saying its OK for mother to bond with her baby and give the child up when shes tired of raising him... you make alot of sense lol. PLEASE EXPLAIN TO US HOW THAT IS OK..
She obviously is in better circumstances then alot of moms.. she got through college she has a degree and she can get a good paying job to support herself and the baby. STOP ARGUING FOR ARGUMENTS SAKE.

Mary Ann - posted on 07/05/2012

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Jodi Zippity doo…..You have the nerve to call all of us true MOTHERS snobs and such when we have made that sacrifice for our kid(s). Being a parent is NOT I will repeat NOT a part time job. It is a 24/7/365 for the rest of your life. When you become a mother, you make the choice. A choice to put your child FIRST. IF you can’t do that then you do not need to be a mother. She is the one that decided to put herself out there with a ridiculous post like this….If you have to ask yourself if something is wrong and if you are being selfish then you have your answer.

AND who the hell do you think you are to think you are better than a working mother?? Some mothers do not have a choice but to work to provide for her child because she is a single mother. And good for you, you are a SAHM… do you want a cookie for being able to say you are a SAHM…..I am a SAHM too but that doesn’t mean that I’m not going to find a job after I finish school so that I can better provide for my son. NO body said that we were above her. You want to act like you are above everyone else saying that you are not selfish….no damn body said you was. I put my child 1st in everything I do but I still go to school full time so that I can finish my degree so that I can better provide for him. With that being said are you going to try to say that I’m selfish and you are better than me….haha I don’t think so!!

Also if your posts are NOT your personal opinion then why did you post them??? What are you doing posting them for someone else?!

Jodi - posted on 07/05/2012

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"sorry but if your going to give up a child id do it before the child develops a relationship with the mother." What you would do, is nto what every other person in the world would or should do.

"Jodi seems like she would do the same with her child." first off, children, I have 3, not 1. Secondly, I don't know, I've never had to choose between having my dreams OR my children, since my dream was to have children it is fulfilled. Honestly can't say what I would do in her situation, I don't know how I would feel. Hence, my inability to judge her harshly. I empathise with her completely valid feelings and her inner turmoil over the situation, even though I can't fully understand it, having never been there.

"Jodi, not bringing something up and then pointing out that you didn't bring it up is the same as bringing it up." Ummm, actually I never said I didn't bring it up (I am assuming you are talking about the work mom vs SAHM thing right?), I said I could hold that opinion, seeing as how many SAHM's DO hold that opinion, but I don't. Pointing out that one doesn't have to judge others to make themselves feel like better mothers.

Chelsea - posted on 07/04/2012

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Why have a child if you dont want him?? i have a 3 year old and love more kids but been told cant have anymore dont ever choose a man over your child also you want more kids?? what about your son?? if you leave him and have more children he well hate you for it

Jessica - posted on 07/04/2012

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Jodi, not bringing something up and then pointing out that you didn't bring it up is the same as bringing it up. Also, all the side talk of the correct spelling of bastards and what not is taking focus from what is really at hand; should this girl give her child over to her parents to pursue other interests? That is the question.

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So I didn't read every reply since it is so long and it seems like some people are already on both sides! But I just wanted to give an opion. I don't think you are a bad mom at all. And praise you for having him (especially in an era when abortion is everywhere) you could have just killed him before he was born and I guess a lot of people wouldn't have thought you to be selfish.
I think that you weren't selfish three years ago when you decided to have him. And I bet you thank your parents for being there for you both! giving you the chance to even get your degree. And building such a special relationship with him. And then to offer you this chance to follow your career.
But that's where your dilemma lies and ultimately it is up to you. I wouldn't base it on your fiancee alone. And if you do go along this path think strongly before you choose to continue having another child with your fiancee because that would defeat your freedom. I think that if you leave your son, you will miss him. But you might also regretting decision not leaving him and miss your freedom. You just have to decide what you are comfortable missing your son or your freedom. Whatever you decide you will always miss the other option and continue to think whether or not you made the. Right decision.
I just wish you luck and all the best in making this hard decision. And definately just think honestly what you feel.

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Jodi seems like she would do the same with her child. A woman makes decisions being pregnant and coming to terms you are willing to take up the responsibilities of giving up your freedom to raise another being. How could she want to get married and continue to have kids while not wanting her first child. Honestly her boyfriends seems not interested in making a bond with her child if he only met him once. Drop the guy!! No guy is worth your time if he doesn't have any interest in your child or want to do anything with your child. You should of thought that before you had him and what it was going to do with your life.

Angel - posted on 07/04/2012

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That's is what I am thinking giving your child up for adoption isn't bad but you do it before the child bonds with you and you do it for the child not for yourself

Alura - posted on 07/04/2012

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joddi zippity doo dip chill the hell out. sorry but if your going to give up a child id do it before the child develops a relationship with the mother. that would have been responsible.. she is abandoning her son. she should have made this decision sooner. please explain to me how its not selfish having more children right after handing your first one over to your parents.. its hard to have empathy for a mom who obviously does not love her son.
what is she going to say to him when he asks the question "why didnt you want me? why did you give me to grandma? why did you have more babies if you didnt even want me?" how can you answer any of those questions and not feel like a selfish ass... quit arguing for arguments sake you know the woman is wrong. she knows shes in the wrong.

Destinee - posted on 07/04/2012

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Sara, the fact that you posted this has me thinking there's a part of you that doesn't want to do it. I think you need to look at your life, imagine both scenarios (keep him with you, let your parents raise him), and think about the repercussions of both decisions. I am 22 years old, and have two little boys. After reading your post and other people's comments, I sat down and thought about what it must be like to be in your position. I am almost done with a degree in special education, I work 2 jobs (one of which I do from home when my kids are in bed) to make ends meet, and have very little time for myself. Do I wish I could go out and have fun and be 22 years old? Yes, of course I do. But then I look at my sons, and I know under no circumstances would I be able to give them up. So, instead, every now and then I have them go to Grandma's house for a night, and I go out with friends for a few hours, so I can have some "me" time. It works for me, perhaps it would work for you? And I have to agree with the others who have said that if your fiancee/boyfriend doesn't want him, or agrees to you giving him up, then perhaps you need to rethink your relationship with him.

Nicole - posted on 07/04/2012

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Honestly, this is very sad. You have a child that you chose to give birth to and to raise on your own. I can understand that you would want to go out and have fun, but you owe so much more to your child. I am 25 years old with a 4 year old son, I have a career & take care of both of us. I live for my son, he's why I have my career & why I want to do great in my life, so I can provide the best for him. It's hard to sympathize with you. You are being incredebly selfish. The fact that your boyfriend seems as if he wants nothing to do with your son is a huge red flag. How do you think your son would feel even at this age that mommy moved out with out him, started a new life, then had his siblings that live with her? Your son should come first, he didn't ask to be here. It's your responsibility to give him a great life & to take care of him. Grandparents are great, but you should think about the love only you can give your son. That bond you have now, will diminish once you leave. I think you're setting your son up to have issues later on in life if not sooner if you do this. In my opinion, I think you should do what's best for your child, maybe you are not the best option for him. But you are his mother, & sound like you love him, I think you need to step up & be the best thing for your son.

Jodi - posted on 07/04/2012

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"I could easily pull the whole "why do you leave your kid to be raised by a daycare?" issue seeing that I'm a SAHM, but I don't, because everyone has their own personal situation." See that little 3 word phrase there? "but I don't,", guess ya'll missed that huh? I was making a point, I could also that get giving up ANY child at any stage of pregnancy or there after, being it abortion or adoption is super selfish, but I don't. I dont' think any less of working moms, I probably couldn't do it, but some moms do...it was a point, not my personal opinion. Perhaps read and learn the difference?

And Angel, as for growing up, I could say the same to you, since this is over our opinions, but your opinion on this doesn't affect my view of your maturity, just your personality and lack of empathy. Again, perhaps I'm just a more understanding emphatic person? Give it a try sometime? The world opens up in ways you'll never know when you let go of your grievances.

Vanessa - posted on 07/04/2012

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You are being selfish and you need to take care of your child. I'm 25 years old and I have a son who will be 4 soon, and I would never give him up for anything in this world. If you relinquish your rights, you will be hurting yourself and your son. Take care of your responsibility.

Vanessa - posted on 07/04/2012

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Don't relinquish your rights to your son! If you're fiancee doesn't want him, then you need to leave your fiancee. You will not be happy, if you give up your rights to your son. When he grows up, he will wonder why you abandoned him. Be responsible and take your child with you.

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2012

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I would just like to say to jodi that working ft to feed your family and give them nice things is no ware near the same thing as leaving your child behind to start a new family. My 3year old son means the world to me and I work 40hrs a week and so does my husband, but we make the time we have togther important, and ya he's in daycare all week also and loves it there meeting new kids and playing all day and getting to learn new things, it's called growing up. I think anyone who wants to give up there child to (be free) is selfish and if you think it's ok, it's not, maybe it is better for her son to stay with her parents cause she doesn't seem to care about him, but she shouldn't get to have another family that forsure. Wanting time to yourself is fine, but wanting to be free is something else.

Sarah - posted on 07/03/2012

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If you have to ask yourself "is it selfish" then 9 times out of 10 it is, at the end of the day your FIRST priority should be your son not this random guy, if he is the man of your dreams then he should be loving and wanting to care for both of you, you are just 24 and I think if you did this to have "fun" which in reality isn't that fun at all that you will regret it big time when you grow some common sense.

Angel - posted on 07/03/2012

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Lol Jodi I'm done speaking with you so have a nice life. Just grow up a bit. I'm guessing your husband works so he must be an incredibly selfish person right?



And when I said I didn't get wracked with emotions I didn't mean me I mistyped I meant I didn't get her being wracked with emotions. Not all people can stay home so working is a must it must be nice on your pedestal looking down on working moms

Jodi - posted on 07/03/2012

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selfish is selfish Angel. And sometimes, being selfish may be in the best interest of your child. If that means you have to go to work for 40+ hours a week simply because you don't want to be home with your kid (because not everyone NEEDS a job, most people could stay home if they cut back on spending, they choose* not to) and your kid sits in daycare for 40++ hours a week, so you feed them, bathe them and send them to bed, wake them up and pack them off to daycare every day, and get a sitter on at least a couple weekends so you can have grown up time...that's fine. But, you're doing something for yourself, and that is in and of itself selfish. *I* don't do that, my kids are my number 1 priority, but I don't condemn anyone who feels differently.

And I never said *you* would be wracked with emotions, she is. I didn't read her post as callous, I read it as confused and lost and sad, perhaps you received it differently because of your lack of empathy?

Angel - posted on 07/03/2012

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There is a huge difference between having to have a sitter or daycare watch your child for a few hours while you go to work to take care of your kid financially and giving up your kid so you can move away with your bf who has only met your kid once and start a new life with him.

And her post seemed pretty callous so no I didn't get wracked with emotions but it is hard to convey that online

Jodi - posted on 07/03/2012

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Angel, and do you think that's not internally conflicting? Do you think she's just blase about the whole issue? No, she's wracked with emotions I'm sure...aka...tough spot. Her reasons are her own. I could easily pull the whole "why do you leave your kid to be raised by a daycare?" issue seeing that I'm a SAHM, but I don't, because everyone has their own personal situation. Some people go to work, get out of the house and away from family life...pretty selfish really if you think about it your way.

No two people are programmed alike, as much as you all like to get up on your pretty little pony and pretend you're above her, you're not. She's human, with human emotions and thoughts, just like you. Look at her last paragraph, the confusion, the conflict...but no...go right ahead, bash on her for being human...because obviously you are all so much better at it.

Laura - posted on 07/03/2012

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I would look at it as how your child will feel as it grows up, knowing you didn't want it around and wanted to make a family with your new man. I think you will end up having a very poor relationship with your child now. IMO, absolutely would not leave the child behind, it's your child, you created it, take some responsibility. I'm 21 and have two kids and nothing in a million years would have me leave them behind. Difficult situation or not, deal with it, don't shirk your responsibilities as a parent onto your parents.

Angel - posted on 07/03/2012

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But she isn't in a tough spot,if she were I would get it but she wants to do it so she can live out her dream which doesn't include her son, that is selfish

Jodi - posted on 07/03/2012

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Rebecca, no shit...but some people play with words...I say and spell bastids occasionally for the hell of it, and I'm not the only one I know who does it. Sorry it's new to you.

I stand by this woman, it shames me to think there are people like all you in my own neighborhood. I hope one day, when you're all in a tough spot, there are plenty of people to kick you when you're down and alienate you and crush you. Karma.

Rebecca - posted on 07/03/2012

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Jodi Zippity Doo Da - It's spelled "Bastards"

And no this woman did not try. She's admitted that her parents are raising her kid.

I'm sorry. I'm not doing a good job in trying to come at this nonjudgmental and understanding, because I know we've all felt bogged down by our responsibilities at times, however, there is a difference between feeling bogged down and STILL stepping up and feeling bogged down and giving up and passing responsibilities off.

Rebecca - posted on 07/03/2012

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I agree with you, you are being selfish.

Don't pawn your son off on your parents. Suck it up, include him in your dreams, and be an a good parent to him.

If it's your new boyfriend's opinion that you son has no room in the family he wants with you then dump him. It may be hard, but your son should always come first. Before relationships. Before career aspirations.

Alura - posted on 07/03/2012

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im sorry Joddi Zippity Doo.. were not snobs.. were mothers who LOVE our children.. sorry if that makes me an asshole then i want to be the biggest ass in the world..She is absolutely selfish for dumping her baby into her parents laps because she wants a 'better' life without him... disgusting. please PLEASE explain to me how thats not selfish

Erika - posted on 07/03/2012

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Please don't do it. You'll regret it. I was suffering from depression when my son was 2-years-old. I felt that his life would be better off if my aunt and uncle adopted him. I cried for days and days. I thought that I was a terrible mom because I was unable to find a job after I received my Bachelor's Degree. I did not tell anyone about this decision except my best friend. My aunt and uncle knew, since they were my choice to adopt him. My step-mom found out because she asked my best friend why I was acting so weird lately. If it wasn't for my step-mom talking me out of it I would not have had the joy of having my now 11-year-old son. My son and his little sister are my life. I am living my dream right now of working on my MA degree and having my 2 beautiful children in my life.
If you have any questions you can e-mail me at johnandmikayla@gmail.com. My name is Erika.

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ok im gonna be dead honest i think your being very selfish and if this is the way you feel then your childs better off with out you in my opinion and at the end of the day you should have eva been careful or kept your legs crossed i cant even see or imagine how you would/could even leave your son i would never do that i would go to the moon and back for my kids end off they are my whole world ide choose them over a career any day

Angel - posted on 07/03/2012

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That's what I'm saying play mommy for a few then decide when the child is bonded to her t isn't for you?!

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I don't understand why Jodi talking when Sara herself even say she is being selfish. If she wanted to give up her parental rights she should of done it from day 1 and it's not right the parents have to take that role. Which clearly the parents raise their own kids. If you want to give your child up for the reason you can't provide what a child needs by all means do it. Give the child to a young couple who can't conceive and want to adopt but don't play mommy for a while then decide you want to live your life and having a child is not letting you. It's not like she's struggling. She just graduated and is going to make great money and could provide everything what the child needs.

Angel - posted on 07/03/2012

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Jodi I am not going to argue with you. Not everyone who gives their kids up for adoption are selfish but this woman is and she even states it do god bless

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