I feel like such a snob!!!!! help

Bronya - posted on 02/27/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am 23 going on 40.. lol. when i had my child i promised my self for his sake i would train, work and provide for him, be a proper parent who made a life for him and gave him a parent to be proud of. i did all of this, but in the 6 years he has been on this earth i have become a snob. I wont apologize for the way i am but i will say HELP!! I worry about how he will turn out with the influences around him, so i constantly strive to put him in a 'proper environment'. These are my floors.. please tell me if you agree or am i just being to picky..

I hate it when parents sware/ smoke/ get drunk/ round their children, i don't really want him to play with naughty kids, like ones who fight, or mess in school, i no that its all part of growing up but still... I don't have any parent friends with children who have a job :/ a few who i do care about are only just mommy's so that's to be expected, but what is happening to the world of parents?? why don't they want to work, to be polite, to be nice, and not walk down the street fag in hand, cans under the push chair, swareing at the kids for being to loud, or for not wearing their Nike cap properly. When did all the kids stop wearing clarks and stop wearing george clothes, to be replaced with a tracksuit and some knock off trainers that will ruin their feet. when did parents become children and kids become an accessory? I just want some parent friends around Birmingham that are happy to have a moan about how much washing they have done, and have a nice cuppa tea in the kitchen maybe some one who doesn't sell drugs on the side to fuel their drinking habbits at the weekend. I love to have fun and i go out with friends my age and drink, and i have a foul mind and mouth.. but not around my child. pleaseeeeee don't let me be the only one. xx

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S. - posted on 03/01/2012

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My sister nephews (on her hb side) live in birmingham n there not aloud to play out as the area is so bad they love visiting here as they feel like they have a bit of freedom (we only live in hull and it's not great by far) to be far the Uk is getting worse for dole sponging chavvy losers all you have to do is watch jeramy Kyle!! Your not a snob you just have standard but I'm afraid you can't escape it and you child will always come incontact with this stuff cos unfoutunaly it's the world we live in now, I teach my kids they might do that but we don't! My kids knows I have rules and standards and I'm going to blow my own trumpet there not bad kids :) my oldest daughter has jobs wash pots a couple of nights that kind of thing and she gets pocket money for doing them as I think it important to value and earn money! In saying that I'm not working at the mo I'm a stay at home mum but my hb works very hard and I have 3 kids 12,4 and 1 and will work once my 1 year old reaches nursery and I worked when I was a single mum with my oldest setting a example and earning so we had a better life, I do have a few glasses of wine on a weekend (but my kids don't see me drunk) and I used to smoke (not in the house) and yes I can swear from time to time I'm no saint :) I wish more people would think the same instead of having this "couldn't give a s**t attitude" any wonder crimes going up!

Jenni - posted on 02/27/2012

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That doesn't sound like being a snob. I'd say it's very reasonable. I wouldn't have my children around people like that either. :/ Where are you meeting these people??? Are you in a bad neighbourhood or something?

Tina - posted on 02/27/2012

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I could not agree more!!! I am a sahm of three! I do not like to drink around my kids and I do not like others to either! However my mother in law was an alcholic until last year praise GOD for that!! I do like to go out ever now and again and have a good time but I do not get drunk or stoned in front of my kids. I want to be a good influence on them not a bad one. Now I will be honest with my kids awhen they get of age to ask me if I ever tried anything like drugs or drinking. I live in the HSV area and am currently seeking some other Mom friends tht have these same feelings! Good luck!!

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Lesley-ann - posted on 03/04/2012

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I so agree with you! its not being snobby! its caring for the environment that your child grows up in, everything will influence your child! Ok i dont think ive ever seen any moms that have cans of beer at the bottom of the pushchair, but i dont see the problem if its for a little drinking of an evening with freinds while baby is in bed! i mean thats moms time right? Anyway i totally agree with the smoking around children and yes i see whta you mean about chiildren having children for an accessory! like they get one stain on their top and its all hel breaks loose! they are children the yare meant to be messsy! lol you just bring spare clothes out with you! as for the working side of things i have seen a lot of women that have children and keep having them with no intentions of getting back to work at all! i have been looking for a job for 6 months now! and its proving hard as i am looking to be a teaching assitant in a primary school. anyway get back to why i posted on here! i am looking for other moms to meet up with within the birmingham UK area. I am 21, with a 2 year old daughter. Cant really relate to my other firends as they dont have children! I go out partying once every 2-3 months and my freinds dont understand why i cant come out every weekend! its really annoying! i need to meet people who are in my situatiion! excuse the mixed up words, recently got a new keyboard and its a different layout! lol

Bronya - posted on 03/01/2012

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yes im in the uk, im near yardley, its not a bad place actually, sadly there is a huge rise in people having children and not bothering to provide for them though. it just makes me very sad. Lots of very chavvy parents swaring and letting the kids pick up very bad habits like spitting and dropping rubbish every where, or screaming rude words out round other children. im so pleased some of you have agreed with me, i genuinely thought i was the only person who thought like this. ahh maybe im just old and need to open my eyes a bit haha xx

Bronya - posted on 03/01/2012

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oh no, all parents should be at home with their children, there is nothing wrong with that at all, being a parent is magical and i would love to be home with my son all day but now hes in school i believe that's the right time to go back to work and provide for my family that i created rather than relying government funding till our children are 13.. i believe that if you are in a family ie mom dad kids, and the father or mother is a sole provider while the other parent is the provider at home, cooking cleaning raising children that's brilliant, or even when a family share and take it in turns to work through the week so they all get to nurture the children together, that's perfect. what i don't agree with is bringing children in to the world with no intention of working, sitting on there asses, soaking up every hard working mother, father, persons taxes so they can go out on the piss at the weekend, doss on the dole till the child reaches 6 (when the government say you should be going back to work) and then out of some amazing freak of nature produce another child, just in the nick of time then spend another 6 years sitting on their ass. again. when i have spent the last 6 years studying and working, and looking after a house, and a child. on my own. those are the people i do not want to be around.

Jodi - posted on 02/28/2012

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You don't sound like a snob to me either, but maybe that's because I'm over 40. Apparently we're real snobs.

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You don't sound snobby to me, but maybe that's because I'm pretty similar, In that I expect certain standards for my children, I don't want to moan about chores though, it's bad enough I have to do them...



Jenni, she could well be in a bad neighbourhood, there are some incredibly rough parts of Birmingham (I'm assuming your in the uk due to Clarks shoes and George clothing), but tbh even the half decent places have their share of chavvy parents.

Stifler's - posted on 02/28/2012

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What do you mean why don't people want to work? As in you think all mums should work and not stay home with the kids or none of these people work including the dads.

Jessica - posted on 02/27/2012

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I completelyunderstand... seems like alot of parents in my area care more about partying than being with their children and it is sad to me

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