i guess im asking does your va ja ja ever go back to normal..and sex too??

Taneia - posted on 06/20/2010

hi like everyones saying sex dose got bk to normal i have two kids and had my first at 17 so it really dose get bk to normal. and just cz your not haven sex try 4play theres so maney things you can do in 4play. so dont be worryed

Andrea - posted on 06/16/2010

LOL, i absoutly hated it! and i totally did anything and everything to avoid it, i use to thing something was wrong with me but my sis in law was the same way LOL good times, good times :)

Stephanie - posted on 06/16/2010

When i was pregnant i was Sooo Horny..Like ready to rape my Boyfreind..LMFAo Seriously hed have to get up in the morning to fly to work and id keep him up all night..!!! sometimes hed sleep in..LOL miss those times Halarious!!

Stephanie - posted on 06/16/2010

I still say sex was better before having my child..it feels like atendion where the tears were..i didnt get stitches.And he usaully just wants to hurry up and do it, so its not funn at all, im not really in the mood so i sometimes do it for his sake..sometimes it hurts sometimes it doesnt.

Jessica - posted on 06/14/2010

Do kegels when you feed the baby, go pee, in the shower, and I know it sounds a bit dirty, but when you get the chance........ to do it yourself, TAKE IT!!!! I had 4days of labor, no stiches though that was my docs advice to me, and it worked out well.... :-))

Ashley - posted on 06/14/2010

Honestly Girl, I had a 8 lb 4 oz baby girl and i didnt rip during birth but it was SO better after pregnancy. One b/c its more sensitive and two your "va ja ja" is stretched to max and when you deliver all it wants to do is shirnk and that it does. I know people that have had stiches and they also say it is AWESOME as well...

GOOD luck... ps. wait till they tell you its ok to have sex again or you will HURTTTT
I couldn't wait

Renee - posted on 06/14/2010

For me it's not just about the physical so much as the psychological. It was really hard for my partner to even deal with sex after the baby. It was his first....I felt he had a hard time dealing with the actual birth still fresh in his memory. Also we other other issues going on that dripped into our personal life which didnt help anything. It takes time and we got over it but give it some more time and you'll see how things will return to normal.

Carla - posted on 06/14/2010

Everything has to bounce back into shape! had my first a month ago, i'm allso worried but these things take time

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2010

let me just say, that i thought my mediocre sex would be forever from perfection to lets just finish. Jazlyn is now 1 and im finally feeling normal again. but i also breastfed, so i just, wasnt as sexual as before. now i feel secured that the phase of mediocrity is gone. its will pass. no worries.

Heather - posted on 06/14/2010

It will go back, do Keggles!! I'm not even kidding....do keggles, those help women be able to have better (even multilpe) orgasms even before ever having a baby! Easy to do, and you can do them pretty much anywhere. At 2 months your body is still trying to recover...technically you shouldn't even have sex again until after 2 months.............Give it time, it comes back :) And don't forget to do keggles!!

Amber - posted on 06/14/2010

I got cut during my labor....After having her I think sex is better. I believe that possibly I am way tighter than I was before. I dont know if that was bc i got cut or what but i am way tighter than i was before. Hopefully it gets back for you!

Stephanie - posted on 06/13/2010

Everything will be wonky for a bit, but you will be back to normal sooner than you think...your body just performed this tremendous feat, so until you feel 100% again, just remember how amazing it is that you can push a HUMAN out of you!! haha :}

Marcia - posted on 06/13/2010

i found that the first time we had sex after our child was born was great mind u we couldn't do it alot in the end of the pregnancy as i went into premature labour that stopped, but when we had sex after the baby it was just like before i got pregnant, now my child is 9 months old and we have gotten pregnant again and lost that and had to have a D&C but once we are able to get back on that horse i can even let u know if that is any better, it will get back to what it used to be hun, don't worry, give it time, time heals all, gl and have fun

Angelica - posted on 06/13/2010

things will get better the first time i had sex afterwards was at 6 weeks and it kinda sucked. the next time was 3 1/2 months and it was amazing. give it time your body went through alot over those 9 months. u cant expect it to recover in a month or 2

Judy - posted on 06/13/2010

Wow lots of helpful responses!! I had my first son 2 and a half months ago and it was very traumatizing. I tore and they cut me so it took awhile to heal. I had a lot of different issues afterward. We got back to having sex and sometimes it is really enjoyable and others it just isn't that great. It still isn't back to normal but I'm hoping that with time it will be. I do think that it just has a lot to do with my sex drive, it is a lot lower than it was. He does tell me that it feels the same down there already. It gets better with time.

Liz - posted on 06/13/2010

@Cj: It's good to know I'm not the only one in the 300 stitches club!

Chantel - posted on 06/13/2010

it does go back to normal, start doing pelvic floor exercises, to tighten it all back up. it took a good 6 months for ours

Tiffany - posted on 06/13/2010

it definetly goes back to normal ni was worried bout the same thing (my baby was huge 10 lbs. 10 oz.).

Alaina - posted on 06/13/2010

It wont ever go back to what it was before because your body changes in little ways, but it will get back to being close. Even though I had a c section with my oldest I did notice a change in my vajayjay afterwards and definitely with my second and third children. It may not be like it was before I got pregnant with my first, but I have made the best of it and my fiancee and I's sex is amazing even if we are 11 months out from having our daughter. It was iffy in the first couple of months but now it's spicing up. You just have to get back in your groove and once you are healed and you ar you'll are going again, you'll find that it's just as good as it was before you had your baby.

Karissa - posted on 06/13/2010

your vagina will get back to normal. it had to stretch the get the baby out, and it has to slowly go all the way back to normal. i would try kegel excersises to help bring it back down. but don't stress, sex will soon become explosive again!

BEATRIZ - posted on 06/13/2010

i dnt think things will be lk before i had a c section n sex is different compared to before i got pregnant.

Jennifer - posted on 06/13/2010

what i can say is that i dont think its going to return to the exact state but it will definitly get better. U gave birthda y 2 months ago it has some time so dont expect to happen over night. There was alot of stretching.And do the keigel excercises.Its tightening the muscle that stops you from peeing.U kno when you have to go to the bathroom and u hold it that muscle. tense it and hold it and keep doing it.u can do it anywhere nobody will even know u are doing it.It helps alot. U can also use this while having sex. well hope that i ehlped at least a little good luck.

Roze - posted on 06/13/2010

use ben wa balls :)

Amy - posted on 06/12/2010

You've got to be ready - if birth was painful for you & you're scared, you're going to tense up & sex will hurt more. For me, I was able to resume - and enjoy - sex both times at about two weeks then 12 days. It varies so much by woman & it does depend on complex things like your birth experience, your body image post-baby, whether you had any birth injuries & your partner's support. If you want to 'tone' and improve the muscles that help both with sex & urinary incontinence, pelvic floor exercises are a good idea & 'smart balls' (the new & improved ones for preference).
The masturbation idea is a really good one. You need to be comfortable with yourself before you can feel comfortable about letting someone else there. I can say though, that the best sex I've had - by far - has been post-baby & I thought it was ok beforehand, so don't lose hope, and you're normal!

Roxanne - posted on 06/12/2010

Kegel exercises help! Oh and so do those smart balls you get from adult shops. They go inside you to exercise the inner muscles, it makes you stronger and have more control. This means you can squeeze your partners .... when hes inside. They love this!!

Britney - posted on 06/12/2010

For me, i lost the sex. It was a lot better having it before i had my child and its been almost a year now since iv had my lil Trevan. it does go back to normal but its a slow process n i believe its different for everyone.

Jessica - posted on 06/12/2010

i dont know if it does or not...lol lord i hope all these other women are right.... My Arianna is almost 4 months and between my Rx for depression and my bc my sex drive is non existant... i know my fiance is ready for things to get back to normal lol guess it dosent help that we still havent moved her into her own bed either... lol

Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2010

kegels!! :) i was only in labor for 2 hrs..needless to say it wasn't so pretty down there for a bit--but things are back to normal now! i always ask my husband if it feels the same to him hahaha he says yes...who knows!

Penny - posted on 06/12/2010

i have had three kids and if you do your pelvic mussel exersize does help but i found after three sex was never the same but trying something new and crazy helps. thow with three sex is hard to get

Andrea - posted on 06/11/2010

LOL this post has cracked me up! i totally thought i was the only one with this problem! :) for me sex for the first few months was not enjoyable at all! but after awile it went back to normal. i think hormones have a huge thing to do with it!! i had o work hard to "get in the mood" lol but it works now. i have even ask my husband if it feels normal better or worse and he didnt complaine :)

Tiffany - posted on 06/11/2010

Sex is different since I had kids. Before kids penetration was one of my favorite things but now it's not as intense.

Christine - posted on 06/11/2010

I think its all different for all of us remember Age will change your sex as well . When I turned Thirty !!!!! Well thats how my Son in my Belly got here I am now thirty three and soon my son will be here I look at it as just another chapter for me and My lover to write in our Sex journey

Good luck and God bless and congrats on the Baby

Leoney - posted on 06/11/2010

Lol @ Va Ja Ja. :p
Yeah try lots of pelvic floor excercises, and let your body recover too!

Elizabeth - posted on 06/11/2010

Yes it goes back try kegels why your waiting.

Heidi - posted on 06/11/2010

I hear ya. With my first son, I was so scared and nervous about having sex 4 weeks after I had him because I wanted to be put on birth control (from what I had just experienced, I did not want to get pregnant right off). My hubby used protection because he knew how scared I was... It will eventually go back to normal but let me tell you---The first time we did after our son was born, it hurt so bad it felt like I was a virgin all over again!!! Be careful! Our son is now 4 1/2 years old and we are expecting our second son in about 3 months...I keep thinking, man, I have to do this all over again! But it is totally worth it:)

Kira - posted on 06/11/2010

It does not always go back to normal. Like others said do your pelvic floor excercises and give it time, its only been 2 months!

Sherry - posted on 06/11/2010

Yea, sex will go back to normal in due time... for me, sex got better. :) Everyone is different and concidering circumstances would be effective. If your birth was as easy as you say it was, there shouldnt be any permanant damage to any parts of your vagina. Having a new baby is stressful too, so it may be that you have alot on your mind which may be taking away from your ability to completely concentrate on whats goin on. :) Good luck to you though!

Devon - posted on 06/10/2010

It does go back to normal. In the meantime, try some different positions and maybe even some tightening lubes found online at most authorized porn sites.

Megan - posted on 06/10/2010

Yes, it does go back to normal I think..Although i have had 3, sex is still as good as before. Just be careful, you are still very fertile, we found out the hard way, my husband and I could not wait to be intimate again. we only waited like a week maybe after our first was born and it was awsome,maybe alittle too much.. I ended up pregnant again when i was only 4 weeks post pardom.. So now we have 2 little girls that are only 9 months and 29 days apart(they are now 3 and 4)... But yes spicing it up helped alot after # 3(he is 9 months) and now just as good as before.. as far as size goes i would say it depends on the size of the baby. I had little babies 5.11,5.14, and 6.13. Good Luck and Great sex ahead to you..lol

Shelea - posted on 06/10/2010

Like alot of the ladies said KEGEL EXCERCISES work!!!! I had a c- section with my two kids so as u kno that dosent bother the va ja ja...... But after bein with one person a loooooonnnng time places loosen up and sex changes. When u are sitting and watchin tv work out those muscles. lol. having a baby is transformation for the whole body u wk out to loose baby fat, u work out the va ja ja to tighten ha bk up. Its all apart of the process called motherhood. It will get bk to feelin the same give it time and visit a couple of toy shops they have a couple remedies for keepin the va ja ja feelin and lookin its BEST!!!!

Mandy - posted on 06/10/2010

both back to normal for me, and has been for over a month, my daughter is just about 3 months old.
I heard if its uncomfortable for you, use a lot of lube the first few times.

Maggie - posted on 06/10/2010

Libido dies for a while due to a hormone you produce while breast feeding if you are...but the sensations do come back....babies have awesome timing

Chani - posted on 06/10/2010

My third son is now 11 months and i am having trouble getting things back to normal with the sex life, it is difficult because we have 3 kids that keep me busy and constantly want to be with me. All 3 of my births there was plenty of tearing and stitches, but honestly things just feel like they haven't gone back to normal because there is lots of scar tissue this time and it can make things a little painful, i would be be happy just to give up because i have pretty much lost interest in a sex life at the moment but i understand my partner isn't on the same page as myself so i will keep trying to find my mojo. I have been watching a little on spicing up my sex life, apparently having a set time for sexy time is a good idea, even if you are not really in the mood, which i have found that once i get into it it's like ' oh i remember this, not so bad at all'. I hoping things improve as my children get older and a little more independant, but i have given up on hoping that my va ja ja ever resembles anything it once was.

Kendra - posted on 06/10/2010

do kegel exercises & lots of em :) good thing about that exercise is that no one can ever tell when you are doing them & it definitely benefits in strengthening up those muscles :)

TeBeth - posted on 06/10/2010

i wouldnt know,...i had a csection after 26hrs of labor. i wouldnt go past a 7 so i said to cut her out of me. just all depends on your body. ive had friends go both ways. some say it fixes itself and others have said they notice it stays a little larger than normal

Allison - posted on 06/10/2010

yes it does... I have three children and it gets better with time. try doing kugel (spell?) exercises and give it time.

Megan - posted on 06/10/2010

Its bound to get better. I am in the same boat but i mean you have to realize that your body was like that for nine months is gonna take a little while to go back to normal keep your head up it gets better

Wanda - posted on 06/10/2010

YES..it gets better...u will be back to normal..just give it a bit of time. x

CJ - posted on 06/10/2010

My husband and I didn't have sex till our daughter was 6 months old, but I also tore... over 300 stiches, he said they did a "good job" sowing me back up lol

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2010

I found that when I had sex for the first time after delivery, it did feel different, and was pretty uncomfortable afterwards too. That was at about 2 months postpartum.

Well, recently I got to visit my husband at the base in Cali and the sex was amazing (it's been almost 4 months now), even better than before. It just took some time to get back to normal. If you're still not "feeling it" lol, try to talk to your doctor to make sure you're healing the way you should be.